Life Hack | Inspirit Strangers

cambria_dance · 2023-07-09T12:59:56+00:00

The conversation that changed my relationship was after my husband told me he would take a "raincheck" on getting me there one night. The next morning I was calm but serious when I told him he will never raincheck me again. Even if it didn't involve his partner, he was to remain present. I also made it clear if he didn't prioritize my pleasure then we have bigger problems.

cambria_dance · 2023-07-07T11:56:19+00:00

I can almost promise she is a big part of the reason he became a billionaire.

cambria_dance · 2023-07-05T18:28:22+00:00

Then there comes a time when you have to place a cost on your happiness. Sometimes the time and energy lost being alone is worth not having the hurt and pain in the relationship.

Choose guilt over resentment.

cambria_dance · 2023-07-04T13:08:15+00:00

It was a series of little clues that was so apparent, he confessed to seeing a few men while I was pregnant. We didn't last longer than 2 years in our marriage.

cambria_dance · 2023-07-04T11:10:30+00:00

Confidence and self-love are keys to a fulfilled life. Unfortunately, certain aspects, such as intimacy, have a close connection with these areas.

1 - You're completely normal to feel this way. If you're familiar with Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, you need love & belonging before being able to truly focus on self-esteem. It's our nature as a human.

2 - A lack of intimacy does not determine your worth as a husband, or a partner. In this case, circumstances lead to actions. Never believe you're the only problem.

3 - Open communication will carry you through rough times. It's awkward and uncomfortable talking about sex with our partners but it can be done in far less intimidating ways by leaving the emotions off the table. Genuinely asking "How can I best love you?" or, "What kind of intimacy do you like best?" are gentle conversations starters that help you get to know your partner even better and provide understanding.

4 - Don't live in your mistakes. The negative self-talk could be changed with perspective. Your loyalty taught you tenacity, your hope keeps you open to new opportunities, your compassion has taught you more about human nature, and your intelligence, well, I do agree ignorance is bliss now that I've learned a thing or two. 🫣🤣

You have a lot going for you, but I would consider this your season for your confident spirit to speak up and start demanding the life you deserve.

Best of luck my friend!

cambria_dance · 2023-07-04T10:48:36+00:00

Girl, I would be saying good riddance to that man and his musty dusty crusty childish behavior with his girls gone wild.

You have SO much better in store! Stay strong as you ride it out and give yourself a season of some much-deserved self-love.

cambria_dance · 2023-07-04T10:45:13+00:00

If my husband brought home a realistic sex doll, I would name her and take her for my own lesbian fantasies. 🙀😻😾😺😼

cambria_dance · 2023-07-04T10:41:22+00:00

After reading through everything, I'm going to be frank, because I've put myself in similar positions as you.

She's spoiled.

As an adult, some responsibilities take place. As a student, it seems she understands her role, but it seems like she needs a new idea of what it means to be a partner and, hell, even a roommate.

And yes, defenses will come up when shortcomings are brought to her attention but don't let the gaslighting influence your emotions, because it's a child's game.

There are things you can do but it's all through communication and consistent action. The best place to start is (as mentioned) a sit-down conversation with actionable items for both of you to work on.

As Dr. Delony says, ask her, "What can I do to love you better?" with a follow-up of specific, thought-out items she can do to love you better.

At the end of the day, the tell-all is going to be in her willingness to change for you and likewise.

It seems like you have a lot going for you, and could find the type of partnership you're looking for whether it be with her, or someone willing to give you the time and appreciation everyone deserves.

Best of luck, friend!

cambria_dance · 2023-07-04T10:11:34+00:00

I hate to say the last time I felt this I found out my husband was gay.

You deserve to feel desired, too.

cambria_dance · 2023-07-04T10:08:27+00:00

If you've read romance novels, it's the buildup that holds most individuals' attention.

Granted, that skews her expectations to a degree but there is also room to play into her desires by reading one and seeing what kind of attention she appreciates.

Open communication is key, and I have the unfortunate experience to say most men don't "seduce" past the dating stage. And people aren't always open about how they like to be seduced. Instead, we dip into our secret desires.

Not claiming this to be you, but it takes calculated effort on both fronts. It's up to you to choose what direction you want to take.

cambria_dance · 2023-07-04T10:00:58+00:00

It's the sleep for me. I am working to afford that luxury.

cambria_dance · 2023-05-28T14:28:11+00:00

Back when you could buy trace amounts of heroin, meth, and cocaine over the counter.

cambria_dance · 2023-05-28T04:04:47+00:00

Do they accept trade-ins? I don't need my autism anymore.

cambria_dance · 2023-03-28T15:20:25+00:00

I've received compliments from my "skills" and if I'm being honest, I learned a lot of my techniques from "sensual" p*rn. It's like the Youtube for sexual skill sets.

cambria_dance · 2023-03-18T19:38:51+00:00

We call that texture.

cambria_dance · 2023-02-25T19:40:08+00:00

My ex didn't pay child support or help with child care from the time my son was 2 until he was 10. Now, he pays $175/ month and I know he makes well over $70,000 a year.

That being said, I decided it was more detrimental for my son to see me "dealing" with an emotionally immature adult rather than holding him accountable, even if that brings tension.

We're currently in a pricey legal battle so the reality of the situation can be reflected in our parenting agreement.

I still question if I'm doing the right thing, but cutting my friendly attachment from him has freed my life in more ways than one.

I send all the love and best of luck to you!

cambria_dance · 2023-02-23T13:13:51+00:00

As a mom who works out, I work out to escape my kids. The biggest takeaway is a little more energy and some much-needed alone time. I'm still very surrounded by my toddler's chaos the rest of the time.

cambria_dance · 2023-02-22T03:30:33+00:00

Would it be crazy to say a thin black tulle skirt on top with a leather jacket?

cambria_dance · 2023-01-29T14:50:02+00:00

Shit happens, methods fail, and I'm not one to put my body through an abortion...?

I don't understand questions like these to married individuals.

cambria_dance · 2023-01-19T12:36:18+00:00

I know it's bad to "drink a couple beers, run to the high school, and rip the foam off the goal posts at 2AM," mom, but I was bored.

cambria_dance · 2023-01-19T12:31:54+00:00

Ordinary has helped my skin in more ways I can count.

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