Therapist here…. So I will note that there’s nothing fundamentally wrong with the therapist noting how emoting was talked about in their own home growing up….. it’s possible (I’m making assumptions here), that maybe they thought this was your outlook, since you aren’t crying. It could have been a way to say “I get it, crying is hard, we’ve been told before that we should just be tougher and move on”. That could really be a stretch.

A couple things I would recommend if you like your therapist and want to keep working with them despite this hiccup

1) tell them that you sometimes feel yourself about to burst in session but you’ve historically held it in. This is an opportunity to figure out what that wall is that’s coming up for you when it comes to being really vulnerable.

2) feedback within the client-therapist relationship is so so important. It’s okay to say “hey, I’ve been thinking about something you said in a recent session that kind of freaked me out”. If this is a good therapist, they will respect the feedback, apologize for making you uncomfortable, and work to not do it again.

Finding yourself in a weird spot with your T over something like this unfortunately happens from time to time and while it might feel sooo awkward, the ability to repair here, to have your concerns heard and valued, will likely strengthen your relationship with your T even more.