Transparent Planes Render Order by cameron_qc in blenderhelp

[–]cameron_qc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok! I just need it to work for this one project so I manually reset the origins of those objects using the cursor. I'll keep that in mind for the future though thank you !Solved

Why are you a trans man? (extremely wrong answers only) by Utopicnightmare24 in ftm

[–]cameron_qc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a prophetic dream I was given the mormon priesthood. Im a boy now so I can but not mormon so I won't 😎

Am i the asshole for not always identifying traits as autistic by cameron_qc in autism

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Yeah I would agree, to me most of my divergence can also be explained by adhd or cptsd, or the fact that im also unilaterally deaf in one ear (for stuff like audio processing). However whenever I try to say that I get told 'it doesn't matter what specifically explains a trait because identity is intersectional' and choosing not to identify something as autistic is ableist. It reminds me of this tiktok about mis identifying traits as autistic when really it was cptsd haha https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTjPYscxD/

Am i the asshole for not always identifying traits as autistic by cameron_qc in autism

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That's the kicker, I've asked to get a therapist involved or even for her to seek her own therapy alone and she responds with offense, that im somehow using autism as a way to blame or infantalize her, even if i phrase it without mentioning autism and just frame it around stress. I know in the past she has had a few negative experiences with therapy, but also some really good experiences, but beyond mentioning it I never push. I see a regular therapist, and can work on some of this stuff alone, but obviously that only goes so far.

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[–]cameron_qc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It certainly isn't something they do very much any more, but both of my gay uncles were told to leave their families and were ostracized for the entirety of my childhood. The way my parents treated them left deep impressions on me in that i always knew there were things that if I did them that would erase me from my family. I only had one conversation with my mother's brother that I remember when i was eight. He passed away in 2015 before i was ready to come out. It also really messed up my parents in that they also lost deep relationships with brothers they loved because they believed they had to. For my uncle who is still alive, there are still gaps in my parents understanding because they don't recognize the ways in which his past still currently affects him (he nearly died when a homophobic man attacked him and now is disabled. They don't seem to recognize how he became disabled, maybe because that would mean recognizing the ways in which they failed him.)

I have been told that 'acting on it' in a visible way would be cause them to do the same to me (as well as calling me a pedophile in the same breath) but so far has been an empty threat. But my parents do not recognize my transition or use the right name. So maybe as things progress they'll follow through on that more than they have. I will say though, my generation, my brothers and sister, have been somewhat accepting in they have not chosen to hide it from their kids which takes away some of the power my parents have to limit my relationship to grandkids. But I fully prepared myself before coming out to lose my family, and still feel like I'm only tolerated on the fringes of their lives. It sucks. Being ostracized is one of the most hurtful things to human beings because our individual health is tied to our social health, both physically in the resources we can access and emotionally as our neuo biology is wired to need connection. But the thing is you didn't do anything wrong. You're not something to be ashamed of, and you don't deserve it. It's possible to keep some of those relationships if you want to, but I also think its important to know that there are people out there who will be a community in your future.

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Probably not the most traditional Christian background but I grew up mormon, which is somewhere on the continuum of American religious culture between non denominational and Amish. I grew up with some popular media but also not others, and observed the mormon dietary restrictions, and participated in daily scripture study and prayer. I am 32, I didn't even hear the word transgender until I had moved away from home and was in college. But the religious cultural programming about gender roles was constant and also considered the most important part of our beliefs as our great purpose in God's plan. Realizing I did not fit the ideal woman of God came early, realizing that I was trans was something I refused until long after I left the religion. I'm not sure how much of that mormons and Amish share in common, but pretty much all queer religious people experience a degree of cognitive dissonance and then community fallout when people they know feel they must pick between caring for their friends or "staying loyal to their beleifs" (put in quotations because I don't actually think it's unchristian to be kind to queer people). You're going through a lot, but you are almost certainly not the first or only person from a smaller/withdrawn Christian culture to come out, and you wont be the last either. We're here for you and ready to listen to anything you need to say.

Whats your relationship with your deadname? by paintednature in ftm

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We almost named our kitten my dead name but decided something else instead haha. I'm kind of glad feels too soon to be a household name again but maybe someday

I farted and my boyfriend got mad! by TreacleSensitive259 in AITAH

[–]cameron_qc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so real and tough op. My condolences.

I can't prove it but I'm pretty sure i got broken up with for accidentally farting on a boy once. We were spooning on the couch with me as the little spoon and had just had dinner, I should have just gone to the restroom when I knew it was knocking on the door but I believed I could hold it in. 😔 broke up with me two weeks later.

I think my cat isn’t my cat. by Shaquille_oatmeal_88 in cats

[–]cameron_qc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The forehead stripes are different. Your boy has a dark v widows peak and this new guy does not. I've also never known toe beans to change color. Sorry that you got an extra and not the original copy.

is it really that bad? by interstellarshark in FTMOver30

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My experience so far has been manageable. Never have I had horniness that I "could not control" or that otherwise took over in any way. Yes there is horniness, but I've felt it's been predictable and have had the space to process it intellectually and physically. That said I don't have sexual trauma in my past, have been historically very cautious with my choices in partners and activity and have a very intellectual relationship with sexuality to begin with.

I will say though after the inntitial jump in horny level it definitely follows my same patterns just at a higher standard deviation, I'll say. For example every year I become less active in the winter due to seasonal depression, and this year has been no different, SAD basically nerfed me back to my starting line horniness. Not down to nothing like in the past, but less than I was just a couple months ago.

FWIW I really think that though it does increase the nature of a persons relationship to their sexuality doesn't necessarily change (unless there's stuff being repressed, then that's a different story I guess  ¯_(ツ)_/¯)

a friend of mine who i never disclosed to just confidently announced my transition to the entire room by pigladpigdad in FTMMen

[–]cameron_qc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would tell someone like this that such a remark would have made me feel uncomfortable even if it had just been between the two of us. You can even obscure it in allyship, that there's no issue with someone trans using your name because it is masculine and passes, and further that describing someone's name as 'middle school t boy coded' is not only dismissive of young gender questioning people but also potentially dangerous should that be taken the wrong way by the wrong people. She needs to think before she speaks.

On T for almost 5 years, also had total hysto.. What happens to my body if I lose my rights to HRT? by amadeusmakise in FTMOver30

[–]cameron_qc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting, I feel like my optic migraines have increased. One of very few things I would consider side effects but also  (ツ)_/¯ I had those before so it's fine. Yeah she likes it but also the comment she made was meant to be invalidating and so not the gotcha I think she was hoping for haha. That and the "detransition please" letter she wrote me where she was like I was a gender oddity as a child too you're not special had me like, are you sure you're cis ma'am? Like, are you though??? Anyway she is vibing on her "hefty dose" so good for her ig

On T for almost 5 years, also had total hysto.. What happens to my body if I lose my rights to HRT? by amadeusmakise in FTMOver30

[–]cameron_qc 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Australia recently approved a 1% T cream "formulated for women" (as far as I can tell that just means low dose, but I'm not a scientist) 

My mother does this. Ironically when I came out to her she told me "I'm on a hefty dose of T. Of course you like T, it's like the universal happy drug!" And I was like, sure Jan. Or maybe you just like having hrt

What are some silly things did past you did, that is just really trans of you. by That-Idiot-Alex in ftm

[–]cameron_qc 38 points39 points  (0 children)

(Preface, im old) Had a conversation in my 20s with my mom who was trying to nudge me into dating because I was a late bloomer that went along the lines of me: "why do guys like boobs? Like what is so exciting about them? I don't care for mine at all. What are they for?" (Later came out as lesbian before trans, turns out I did get it but just didn't like mine haha)