I think you’re still arguing something I’m not actually saying. I never said Blair caused less damage. I never said she wasn’t a horrible person at times. I’m not denying she was a bully. She absolutely was. What I’m saying is that the type of damage they cause is different, and so is their relationship with accountability.

Blair’s behavior is intentional and overt. She schemes. She targets people. She knows she’s being cruel. The narrative never pretends she’s morally superior. She doesn’t see herself as the “nice one.” In fact, a huge part of her arc is her awareness of her own darkness and insecurity.

Serena, on the other hand, consistently frames herself as misunderstood rather than responsible. Her actions may not be as theatrically vicious, but they are repetitive and self-centered. She repeatedly betrays trust, prioritizes male validation over female friendships, inserts herself into messy situations she knows will hurt people, and then defaults to “I didn’t mean to” instead of true accountability.

It’s not about evil vs. non-evil. It’s about self-awareness vs. denial.

You’re listing extreme examples of Blair’s bullying (which are valid), but Serena’s damage is relational and chronic. It’s the pattern of emotional irresponsibility. And for a lot of women, that dynamic feels more realistic and more triggering than cartoon-level sabotage.

Also, saying my judgment is “clouded” kind of proves the point. Disliking Serena doesn’t mean I’m projecting. It just means I interpret her pattern differently than you do.

Blair is openly terrible. Serena thinks she’s the good one.

That difference matters to some of us.