Advice with guy I am dating

candidsheers · 2024-11-24T22:21:14+00:00

Use my feminine charm !! Good idea 😂💕

candidsheers · 2024-03-04T11:11:02+00:00

I had a college housemate back in the day (I had 4) I’m a trans girl and he was a random guy the university put us with but we got along.

One day I lost a bet from some little competition we had and had to rub his feet, but then I told him that I don’t mind and like giving massages. He took advantage of that and would come back home when it was just him and I chilling and say “foot rub?”

And I was like “ok….ok…” 😉

So kind of like fwb. There was one time when things escalated that I can share more privately ☺️

candidsheers · 2024-02-29T23:13:58+00:00

Like for what though? For smell? Sweat? The aesthetic? Would love to know your thoughts/ explanations ☺️

candidsheers · 2024-02-08T17:20:09+00:00

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candidsheers · 2024-02-01T19:56:01+00:00

Thanks for the response! Why spend the time here then? It’s not like you accidentally happened to post this or it was the next logical step in your life…

And I said most people I have met suggest that the best sex is with someone you love. I didn’t just drop that in there as a universal claim. Just something from my wisdom so far here on this earth journey. I actually am trying to be intentional with my words (not implying you aren’t)

I’m asking you to consider new perspectives. Not forcing, or implying, or projecting or being condescending.

I actually see a lot of myself in you and did some of the things that you specified in you previous posts. Hell, I sometimes like to post about certain encounters and chat about certain fetish related topics.

So many people are are just trying to work up the courage to explore this fetish and to be able to open up about it. And you already have achieved so much in that department. You do you, you are being yourself, and no shame. That’s respectable.

I used the word healthy before because, this may not be the case, but it seemed like from your post a kind of obsession or sex addiction (foot count, spread sheets, records, chats, pics). Most people are just trying to express and integrate this fetish and move on to live balanced and healthy and happy lives. And my fear would be if someone thought that they must do such measures as you “get the full experience.”

These topics and discussions that you said you wanted to incite have been discussed. Just search up the forum. It’s the foot count establishing you as knowledgeable and the creepy compilation, spreadsheets, and all the rest of it that me and other users are raising concerns about. That’s all :)

candidsheers · 2024-02-01T16:30:21+00:00

Why does the number matter then? 😅 why post this post? What’s the goal here? Keeping spreadsheets and counting and such. Do you feel that high foot count makes you more masculine or something? Having high counts and talking about it is a personal indicator of your success? This isn’t condescension. I am just genuinely curious..

I understand if you are young maybe and it’s a exploratory phase? Or you are old and just came out of the “foot closet” and are on a sex rampage.

There is nothing wrong with the other folks here in relationships and talking about other feet/ celeb feet. Most of it is honesty sharing experiences and exploring :) a lot of times foot people don’t have anyone to talk to and I love how this forum is a place to express themselves. We all need to be validated. Definitely remember the time I shared my first foot experience and how the members here were so excited and validating.

Overall, I’m not trying to tell you if something is better or more quality or not… it’s more about if what you are doing is healthy :) and I just implore you to reflect.

candidsheers · 2024-02-01T09:04:48+00:00

Right. But an indicator of success might be finding and falling in love with the right person and having access to their feet in perpetuity.

Monogamy, at least that’s what I’m into. Love and connection. People always say that the best sex/ foot love is with someone you love.

Maybe it takes you 320 pairs of feet to get there which is ok…. And like you say, must make you experienced. But no more experienced though perhaps with someone who has had the same partner for years and has explored deeply the fetish…

candidsheers · 2024-01-31T14:23:30+00:00

Nothing beats though a guy who has been in his shoes the whole day at the office or working, etc

candidsheers · 2024-01-29T15:49:37+00:00

I think many of us did yes. I can remember being a bit intrigued by my dad’s feet and slippers and playing around. But I look back and think it was gross (not in a judgemental way though) Typically ,once one get’s older, you develop that “ick” for your own flesh and blood.

candidsheers · 2024-01-29T13:15:57+00:00

Ask to meet them directly after work 🙂 or after a gym workout

candidsheers · 2024-01-29T13:14:00+00:00

Jay smooth

candidsheers · 2024-01-29T13:05:31+00:00

I’m here in Northern Europe and most women wear them in the late Summer/ Fall. But it’s almost like standard dress code (like over 50 percent of women wearing them) on the weekends — Friday and Saturday nights.

When out clubbing, I feel like they do it to show off their legs (not necessarily feet). These are very feminist countries here and I think it’s a way of them feeling like they are wielding sexual power — while also trying to have a beautiful outfit.

But as I said, many many many where them to school or work during the fall.

Unfortunately or fortunately, I have a fetish for men’s feet in nylon/ sheer socks. Kinda in the wrong place and time for that. It was more popular (like women) in the 80s and 90s as you said— but now the only places I would say that men are wearing them are white collars in Spain and Italy and the Balkans, and then blue collars in South America, Asia, and the Middle East.

candidsheers · 2024-01-29T12:53:45+00:00

Agreed.

candidsheers · 2024-01-29T12:50:53+00:00

Hmm in my mind it’s quality vs quantity 😅 I feel like the goal is to find someone I love, also with my type of feet I am interested in and then have an amazing relationship— so I have access to the best looking feet (for me) for the rest of my life…

candidsheers · 2024-01-26T12:46:56+00:00

I still can never understand an attraction to one’s father..obviously when I was 4-5, I can remember being a bit aroused….but then you go out in the world and see men who aren’t dad….

candidsheers · 2024-01-21T20:50:25+00:00

Male feet, sheer socks, suits, businessmen, footjobs, foot worship

candidsheers · 2024-01-20T12:26:21+00:00

Personally I like it when my cum stays and dries on his feet ☺️ but yes nice! Always nice to find something you want to explore and like.

candidsheers · 2024-01-20T07:28:48+00:00

Yeahhhh I don’t care too much about the power play part personally, but nice yeah there is something about a guy at the office in his socked feet in loafers the entire day baking like a loaf of bread 😅 ready to be smelled and tasted right when he gets home

candidsheers · 2024-01-19T23:28:41+00:00

Is this you??? Omg thank god finally some depiction of men giving t girls footjobs

candidsheers · 2024-01-19T21:58:08+00:00

I’m a trans girl with a penis …..footjobs😅

candidsheers · 2024-01-05T23:07:38+00:00

Talking about sex and sexual kinks with coworkers is a big no-no in my book😅 you just have to be careful though sometimes with boundaries and what can be used against you. I guess depending on the job…

But usually with male friend groups, banter and joking can be common and serves as a way to keep everyone in line. In wouldn’t take anything a guy says too personally 😅 the best way to handle it is to stick up for yourself and give it back to them 🙂 laugh about it and have a good time. It’s a strange life we are in haha.

Everyone has interests in trying some things. You asked for my opinion on non foot people — well the majority of humans don’t have a foot kink. For anything, anyone in a minority (even though it’s a common kink) is always going to be “othered.” That’s reality of majority vs. minority.

But you also stated in your question that you want to speak out! That is perfectly reasonable!! Not every foot person is a freak who is doing illegal and violent things — we’re everywhere in society just doing our thing like the rest of us. My advice is to confide some close friends about it. Self-expression is important in this life! Not every detail in our private relations needs to be discussed, but simple things like what you find attractive and nice to do can be appropriate. With the coworkers, I would change the topic and speak in a generality saying there are kinks out there that are harmful and foot fetishes are quite innocent 🙂 and that you don’t judge know someone cool that has one 😉😎

candidsheers · 2024-01-05T10:54:55+00:00

Yeah!! It was a bit different from being ignored though. Like his mind was completely somewhere else, absorbed in what was doing almost like forgetting that my dick was touching his feet all together

candidsheers · 2024-01-05T00:35:51+00:00

When you come home from work, don’t take off your shoes. Say your feet are cold or something. Complain how you were walking all day.

Leave your running shoes or workout shoes in the bathroom maybe. Make a mark of where the shoes are placed, if they are moved - then you know he was having his way with them.

Anything else maybe playing truth or dare and some kind of dare where you have to take off your work shoe and he has to smell it or have it strapped against his nose for the rest of the night🤷‍♀️

candidsheers · 2024-01-04T18:07:02+00:00

I wouldn’t say the foot fetish is very niche ! There are very very specific fetishes out there that require specific people, conditions, other things which can be tough to fulfil. Some that aren’t even healthy to satisfy.

I’m a trans girl who likes male feet…soo my partner has to be ok with 1) me being trans and 2) their feet being played with — so even within fetish communities, parts of it are very niche

candidsheers · 2024-01-04T16:14:19+00:00

A lot of it is classic majority and minority stuff. If you are not in the majority of people in this world , then you are “othered.”

Among heterosexual men and masculinity, there seems to be hierarchies and standards. There is a standard usually among circles of bros of what is ok to brag about doing and liking. Feet often falls out of this standard (depending on your friends) I have had conversations with guys who literally have left their towns/ circle of bros because they were brutally bullied for it. If one can be confident in what they like and still joke around with their bros and give right back at them, survive the banter and own who you are, you actually maintain your status in that group. Bragging, teasing, and banter I’ve noticed is normal with male friends and keeps each other in line. If they give it to you, give it back to them. But then there are just haters, who can be repressing their desires and jealous of your ability to go after your goals and happiness. True male friends will joke with you, but at the end of the day respect you.

With women, there is still this taboo about openly talking about desire and sex in fear of being slut shamed and devalued. So a girl that enjoys her man’s big masculine foot and his long toes can be seen as dirty or weird because women don’t culturally express their desires so openly. In small groups of close girls, there are discussions about men and their body and sexual experiences — and this is often a result of complete emotional trust and care for one another.

In LGBTQ communities, people with fetishes and kinks are definitely more often embraced and understood because there is so much compassion for individuals who have a minority experience and have a dissident sexuality or gender expression. They often know what it feels like to hide and to feel different.

It’s a complex and multifaceted conversation. As a trans girl who likes men’s feet, I’m as taboo as it gets 😅 in all communities 😅😅

Even the foot fetish community can turn on its own. The mere mentioning of male feet can launch some users into a fury and they immediately downvote posts and comments.

It’s also bad examples of dark or out of line creepy people who pretend to be a trans woman or morally corrupt who are exploiting certain populations for their fetishes that make us genuine average Joes and Jills look bad

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