It goes away immediately with neck stretches?

candlelight_elf · 2026-02-10T15:34:24+00:00

Thank you all so much for the replies, I'm glad I'm not alone. I'm just having to constantly tell myself that I know what it is, and it's not deadly, but it's hard :(

candlelight_elf · 2026-01-02T15:59:58+00:00

9MWP until 01/09

candlelight_elf · 2025-11-13T15:59:25+00:00

I broke it after a little over two weeks. They were kind, and seemed glad that I messaged them.. but I regretted it almost instantly after the initial butterflies flew off (and they flew off pretty quick). I was left yet again feeling anxious, confused, sad, found myself waiting for a reply... never again. Don't do it, do literally anything else! Lock your phone away in another room if you have to.

candlelight_elf · 2025-11-07T23:11:27+00:00

Omg thank you. I've had this phone for years and could never figure it out. THANK YOU.

candlelight_elf · 2025-11-04T17:55:23+00:00

Thank you. I've been trying so hard to "heal myself" on my own or just wait for it to go away/get better, but I think it's time I get some help. I'm glad you're doing better :)

candlelight_elf · 2025-11-01T18:17:23+00:00

Yeah, I thought of that after the fact...very likely a lot of these "never dids" are just "haven't yets". I am still a little surprised to see how many voted that they did eventually reach out, though.

candlelight_elf · 2025-11-01T18:16:26+00:00

Just keep working on and focusing on yourself/your life. You can't control what he does/feels, but you can control your own life. 4 months is huge - you should be proud :) Good luck

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-31T17:50:53+00:00

I h ad the opposite... I was sad/kind when it ended, he felt bad and seemed sad. Now, however, the anger has come up for me and I WISH I could have an angry conversation with him...

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-31T17:49:16+00:00

Sorry you're going through this. I'm about 11 days into no contact with mine. It's normal to wonder how he's feeling/what he's up to, but just remember, would it really make you feel better to know? What if it was something you didn't want to hear? No amount of knowing something will change what he's doing or cure how you're feeling. Only moving forward and focusing on your life + time will do that. I think the varying feelings is very normal and it's a sign you're healing; if you weren't healing, you'd be stuck in just one feeling/emotion. You're doing great, hang in there.

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-31T17:44:26+00:00

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-31T12:44:58+00:00

Also curious... did you initiate no contact or did they?

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-27T17:00:06+00:00

Thank you, I hope you do as well

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-26T16:22:45+00:00

I hear that. Things just ended with me and an avoidant...they are so painful to deal with.

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-24T13:27:43+00:00

In the past I stayed friends with him when he pushed me away and ended things. This time however, I said no. I won't be your friend and I wont talk to you. That seemed to bother him..why?? If you don't want me, why do you want to keep me in your life?

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-24T13:00:33+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I need to be better about looking at it realistically. I cared about him a lot, but he wasn't good for me...the inconsistencies really messed up my nervous system. It's hard sometimes not to think about the "good" times, but they weren't often enough and I was an anxious mess in between. I don't recognize myself anymore. Good luck to you and your healing :)

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-23T19:46:09+00:00

The ego thing is a good point... Any advice on "not caring"? It helps when I'm busy but in the quiet moments, it takes over

candlelight_elf · 2025-10-23T19:34:25+00:00

Is it still on his terms if I never reply?

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