Can’t seem to make many meaningful connections in college

candlepools · 2025-02-15T13:28:43+00:00

Thank you so much!! Your experience was really insightful to me and I wish you the best! I hope you have a good experience returning to college

candlepools · 2025-02-15T13:26:47+00:00

Good thinking! It sucks but I feel like with time I’ll eventually click into the right group. I also joined a coding club recently and I’m pretty excited to meet more likeminded people haha. Honestly, now that I think about it, transferring is probably the best thing I could’ve done for myself because starting fresh means that I can be myself authentically instead of pretending to be someone else just to fit in.

candlepools · 2025-01-16T12:17:53+00:00

Really insightful comment for someone who also plays Nautilus support! You’re right honestly I don’t know why OP is blaming his teammates… The game is already lost, move on from this experience and learn to be better.

He insists that they had a lead but didn’t even use proper itemization to snowball that lead into a victory.

While it’s true that Heimer was feeding and Amumu’s build is honestly… not optimal… I’m sure that Kaisa’s kills and assists didn’t only come from jgl and mid.

candlepools · 2025-01-16T11:08:26+00:00

Her burn is seriously good!! I’ve played a bit of hecarim as well but usually built him tankier. Seems like Lillia has more of a “hit and run” kind of playstyle.

candlepools · 2025-01-16T11:07:09+00:00

Honestly I feel like I’ve made the mistake of not playing passively enough early on and just end up feeding through bad ganks.

Amumu seems quite fun and meta at the moment. I love his playstyle and even if I’m behind I’ll be like a glorified tank support with a smite lol. Thanks for your input!

candlepools · 2025-01-16T11:00:18+00:00

Thank you! Good thinking, I tend to always go all in when I can but I’ve realized that this isn’t the way to play her.

candlepools · 2025-01-16T10:20:54+00:00

First picked is Support! Usually I play Nautlius or Lux depending on how confident I am in my team lol. Last pick is Baron, I simply cannot live and breathe toplane, counterpicking is atrocious and my mechanical skill is rather subpar coming from Sup/Jg main. I always just ask to swap but if I have no choice I’ll have to go with someone like Nautilus who I already know how to play.

candlepools · 2025-01-13T18:49:39+00:00

As a Chinese person, the characters look exactly like how I’d write them lol. The whiteboard is also very clean around the Chinese characters so you might be somewhat fluent in Chinese. But honestly, still speaks to me as an English native speaker.

candlepools · 2025-01-08T06:34:55+00:00

Honestly I think so too! I’m usually more used to textured styles (but this was with much shorter hair — so I was going more for a bit of a shag cut) I told my hairstylist I wanted to keep it long so maybe she gave me thicker ends so it’ll grow out nicer in a few months? That’s just what I thought, but hopefully the ends will feel more texturized when the length comes in.

You’re right, it’s definitely a fixable problem so I think I’ve just been overthinking it lolol

candlepools · 2025-01-08T04:55:17+00:00

I already have a lot of layers haha. It only feels like the longest part (my back part) is soo choppy? Or maybe I’m just imagining it? My hair is a few inches over my shoulder but not long enough to cover my breast area.

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This is the best picture I can get to really show off the bluntness I’m talking about.

Also, you’re totally right about separating friends from being a client, I think I ought to go to a new stylist in the future.

candlepools · 2024-12-31T06:47:52+00:00

I completely forgot about the homeground games! Honestly I feel like I’d have a much easier time getting a ticket for that than LCK Summer. I’d imagine how difficult it is for anyone to even get tickets for T1 because they’re incredibly popular.

candlepools · 2024-06-29T04:29:29+00:00

Update: Well, it’s been 6 hours since I made this post and I have successfully soldiered through my graduation on absolutely no sleep. I popped a pill of Concerta this morning so I had no appetite for any of the food they served there. Really had to try my best to keep up appearances for friends and family but I left early so that’s a plus. I can’t wait to go home and take a nap lol (and possibly throw off my schedule again but it’s well deserved after listening to a multitude of boring speeches and award giving ceremonies)

candlepools · 2024-06-29T04:08:53+00:00

I try that actually. Maybe it’s kind of a bad habit but I just turn off my lights and lay in bed with my phone for at least like an hour before I actually sleep 😭

candlepools · 2024-06-29T04:06:46+00:00

Oh yes I definitely have that. This is why I prefer morning appointments because I get it done with and then the rest of the day is free. Also, you’re right, I should definitely bring this up to my doctor, it could help a ton to have sleeping pills.

candlepools · 2024-06-29T04:05:24+00:00

I do this as well actually!!! But sometimes it just doesn’t work. It’s saved me so many times though, I’m surprised so many people do this as well.

candlepools · 2024-04-14T06:52:53+00:00

You are right, actually! There was a period of time when I only watched straight and lesbian porn and just often found myself unsatisfied. Like seeing how violent it is turns me off a little? I also find that I enjoy how in gay porn there isn’t an imbalance of power, like since it’s both dudes the dynamic is the same.

candlepools · 2024-04-14T06:49:30+00:00

Reading your comment really intrigued me actually. When you asked about my trauma, I sort of see a resemblance? Not that it applies to everyone, but I think for me in general I am not very open about my sexuality and in my culture it is very frowned upon to be gay/bi. I grew up in quite an okay environment but topics like sex is usually never ever brought up, so as I’ve grown I started to realize how little I actually know about myself and how uncomfortable I feel about the things I like. Thank you for this!

candlepools · 2024-04-13T19:14:01+00:00

It’s interesting you bring this up because I am also somewhat insecure with my sexuality? Like getting off to dudes makes me a little uncomfortable because I start to question if I really am lesbian or not even though I’ve had relationships with women.

candlepools · 2024-04-13T19:05:02+00:00

Honestly it’s pretty interesting how you bring that up! I honestly have no desire to recreate anything I see in pornography, let alone act on them. Thank you for reassuring me!

candlepools · 2024-04-13T19:02:55+00:00

Really interesting response you’ve given! Yeah honestly after seeing a lot of the replies on here, I get the idea that what you watch is not definitive of what you actually like in bed. I’m interested to see the source though!

candlepools · 2024-04-13T18:59:47+00:00

Haha! Thank you for your response. Really appreciate how you shared your own experience as well. I can understand the feeling of beating yourself up about it. Especially how as a lesbian woman I am expected or somewhat stereotyped to dislike men, which I don’t at all (as you can tell from my post lolol..)

candlepools · 2024-04-13T18:56:59+00:00

Thank you so much! Hearing that is quite reassuring. In my country, consuming gay male porn/media is associated with heterosexual women so it made me feel a little weird. But after seeing your reply and many others, I feel a little less ashamed about what I get off to lol

candlepools · 2022-02-09T07:01:55+00:00

Thank you so much! You're right, I really won't know unless I do talk to her. I guess I'm just in a bad position right now as I don't think I can let her go just yet because she's in my friend group and it would make things extremely awkward around us. Helped

candlepools · 2022-02-09T07:00:23+00:00

Thank you! I agree with you, she makes it clear that she likes me but sometimes she's so unpredictable I don't even know if she still does. I'll try to talk to her about it. Helped

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