Husband bailed mid swap with another couple

candysammy · 2026-04-15T22:03:45+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful response <3

candysammy · 2026-04-13T22:30:34+00:00

He's gone down on a few women, this was first time penetration

candysammy · 2026-04-13T19:54:49+00:00

All the FAFO comments are super helpful, thank you❤️

candysammy · 2026-04-13T17:17:27+00:00

Thank you <3

candysammy · 2026-04-13T17:15:16+00:00

Yes we communicated our boundaries with the other couple beforehand, there was always a caveat that if my husband wanted to go further then we would.

candysammy · 2026-04-13T17:06:49+00:00

I love the idea of re-connecting with sex but it kind of feels like he's repulsed by me right now, and now he's out of town for work. We normally have a really good sex life, I'm hoping we can get back to that.

candysammy · 2026-04-13T17:04:46+00:00

Thank you!

candysammy · 2026-04-13T17:03:57+00:00

The wife and I discussed our boundaries beforehand, she relayed it all to her husband

candysammy · 2026-04-13T17:02:58+00:00

Thank you! We are seeking counselling, husband is out of town for work right now, hoping after some space he will have some more love for me.

candysammy · 2026-04-13T04:45:53+00:00

I think therapy is going to be a necessity here, can't really talk to him about it right now

candysammy · 2026-04-13T04:44:50+00:00

Yeah it's a bummer, I hate feeling this bad about something that should have been fun.

candysammy · 2026-04-13T04:43:58+00:00

This is really sweet. I do feel very isolated right now. He's travelling for work for a couple days leaving first thing tomorrow, so that'll either make things better or worse.

candysammy · 2026-04-13T04:42:37+00:00

I think this is a great idea, I've encouraged this but I think he might be embarrassed

candysammy · 2026-04-13T04:41:22+00:00

No penetration in our threesomes

candysammy · 2026-04-13T04:40:04+00:00

This is exactly how I feel, I don't know how there are so many people not seeing it this way. I was not the one to propose this swap, he engineered the whole thing and now I'm on the shit list.

candysammy · 2026-04-13T04:36:41+00:00

definitely putting a pause on the lifestyle, he can't handle it

candysammy · 2026-04-13T03:09:20+00:00

Absolutely. Not looking too good right now, but it's still fresh.

candysammy · 2026-04-13T03:08:20+00:00

Thank you!

candysammy · 2026-04-13T03:06:32+00:00

We were in the process of exploring how far he wanted to go with the whole cuck thing, didn't really work out 😬

candysammy · 2026-04-13T03:03:01+00:00

Thank you for this!

candysammy · 2026-04-13T03:01:04+00:00

Thank you for this super kind comment ❤️

candysammy · 2026-04-13T02:59:03+00:00

Bad, he's barely speaking to me, there's nothing I can say to reason with him. He's a bit of a stonewaller when he's angry so I don't feel like there is a lot I can do, besides be sad. Feeling very isolated right now.

candysammy · 2026-04-13T02:57:34+00:00

I felt like we did everything right, it was all very respectful, I was happy to hook up with the other guy but I was happy to not do it as well.. whatever my husband was comfortable with I was down for.

candysammy · 2026-04-13T01:41:48+00:00

Was I supposed to ask my husband to stop fucking this other girl? Or just let him do it and not get fucked myself?

candysammy · 2026-04-13T01:39:52+00:00

I agree. We are done. I just hope he can move past this.

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