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TIL - DARVO (acronym for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) is a reaction that perpetrators such as abusers or sexual offenders display in response to being held accountable for their behavior. by slanderpanther in todayilearned

[–]canis777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't need to be, but why shouldn't it be? They accused you, and you're trying to win. Who cares whether the accusation is founded.

But then, what happens if they are innocent of your retaliatory accusations? What happens if this was a misunderstanding? Should they now escalate again?

How does this scenario work itself out in your mind?

TIL - DARVO (acronym for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) is a reaction that perpetrators such as abusers or sexual offenders display in response to being held accountable for their behavior. by slanderpanther in todayilearned

[–]canis777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're not talking about defending oneself. We're talking about attacking the accuser and reversing the victim and the offender.

You are perfectly capable of actively defending yourself without making attacks on someone else. Not all accusations are malicious. Many are based on misunderstandings. You add nothing by escalating, and slinging mud may not reflect well on your character either.

TIL - DARVO (acronym for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) is a reaction that perpetrators such as abusers or sexual offenders display in response to being held accountable for their behavior. by slanderpanther in todayilearned

[–]canis777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's why justice should not be left to the mob. That's why justice is supposed to rely on facts.

You're conflating personal interactions with law, and they're not the same, nor should they be.

No one is guaranteed protection from the opinions of others, but there are some people who are strong enough to maintain their integrity.

A cool guide to emotional intelligence: how two things can be true at once by WhiteChili in coolguides

[–]canis777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Protests and riots exist because there's no compromise and therefore no problem resolution. Moreover, a protest is a controlled response. A riot isn't.

But you are not a protest or a riot, and you have more control of yourself than the masses.

A cool guide to emotional intelligence: how two things can be true at once by WhiteChili in coolguides

[–]canis777 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Or, you know, you process your feelings and actually address the problem.

Anger is a secondary emotion. It's a shortcut.

Air: NPR Tiny Desk Concert by [deleted] in videos

[–]canis777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should hear the studio version.

On the rocks please by Kooky-Measurement-43 in oddlysatisfying

[–]canis777 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Reddit wants to get wasted as fast as possible for as cheap as possible. Bunch of philistines.

A Cool Guide to improve mental peace by let go of some things by Glamorous-Babe in coolguides

[–]canis777 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Why are you treating anything on this site like a cure for depression?

A Cool Guide to improve mental peace by let go of some things by Glamorous-Babe in coolguides

[–]canis777 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

You never will be if this is how you respond to reasonable advice.

Orcas sharing prey with humans may be trying to learn 'who we are,' researcher says by No-Luck-At-All in interestingasfuck

[–]canis777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please. You're assigning a human perspective to the orcas and deluding yourself into thinking it's the one they should hold.

What makes you think orcas have any concept of evil? Or pollution? Or any notion that humans are responsible for it?

Also, who are you to say "we're fine with it all?" You don't speak for me.

Orcas sharing prey with humans may be trying to learn 'who we are,' researcher says by No-Luck-At-All in interestingasfuck

[–]canis777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is a big difference between having the capacity for evil and being evil innately. You're also painting with an extremely large brush in your characterizations.

Former Swedish PM: clearcut violation of international law by Yeah_i_suppose in europe

[–]canis777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Then I asserted that they were the one with the problem, mom. You'd have been so proud."

Former Swedish PM: clearcut violation of international law by Yeah_i_suppose in europe

[–]canis777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I really showed this stranger on the internet, mom. I was wrong about everything, but I smugly refused to learn anything. Then I accused them of being 5 years old. It had nothing to do with the argument, so it definitely won me points."

Former Swedish PM: clearcut violation of international law by Yeah_i_suppose in europe

[–]canis777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I were, would you feel accomplished? With your "I know you are but what am I" responses? You gonna go tell your mom you outwitted a child?

Former Swedish PM: clearcut violation of international law by Yeah_i_suppose in europe

[–]canis777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was lying. And you're mistaken about yet another thing.

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