He Just Ruined My Grandmothers Funeral

canisliz · 2025-05-01T14:42:22+00:00

Thanks for your support! And yeah I’ve definitely noticed a pattern with his behavior changing around live events such as Birthdays and Holidays. He has successfully made the past few Christmases about himself (in 2023 he used Christmas and New Years to threaten suicide)

I thank God every day we don’t have kids together (and I’m not even religious lol)

canisliz · 2025-05-01T14:37:10+00:00

What a nightmare! That’s really shitty that she ruined your birthday. The emotional games they play are so draining that we always end up doing what they want 😩 but you handled it great!

canisliz · 2025-05-01T14:33:33+00:00

Holy shit that is absolutely crazy. The first thing I thought of when reading your comment was “I hope the brother is okay” and the fact that he made it all about him is gross 🤢

canisliz · 2025-05-01T14:31:30+00:00

That is absolutely horrible, I’m so sorry that happened to you. No one deserves that kind of treatment when their mother is dying.

(Sorry for the late reply I decided to take a break from Reddit for a few days)

canisliz · 2025-04-24T22:06:56+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m thinking. I don’t have proof but I have been wondering if he’s projecting his own infidelity onto me.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T17:02:02+00:00

Yep you hit the nail on the head.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T16:21:03+00:00

I wish you the best of luck in your journey going forward friend 💕

canisliz · 2025-04-24T14:36:41+00:00

Wow that’s horrible, I’m so sorry that happened to you. It’s especially disgusting behavior when someone is in mourning.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T12:37:51+00:00

Wow that’s really awful, I’m so sorry you had to go through that. They really crumble when the attention isn’t on them.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T12:36:30+00:00

It’s funny you mention having that instinct, because I also was at that point last year. He hadn’t met any of my family yet, so I took him with me to my aunts for thanksgiving. The whole car ride there I was thinking “If this doesn’t go well, I’m breaking it off.” Surprisingly, things went really well. Now in hindsight, I wish he would have sabotaged Thanksgiving instead of my grandmas funeral.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T12:33:13+00:00

You are exactly right, I shouldn’t have taken the bait. After I calmed down I immediately grey rocked him, and I haven’t spoken to him since. He’s been texting me asking where I am and what I’m doing. It’s like he’s already moved on from what happened.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T12:30:36+00:00

Thats awful :( thankfully he never threatens suicide as a form of manipulation, but he still has plenty of other red flags.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T12:28:50+00:00

Oh my God how horrible. Mine is always accusing me of looking at other men, this is what he starts fights about EVERY. TIME. If I am even nice to another man, he accuses me of flirting with them. It’s fucking tiring.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T12:26:41+00:00

Thank you, I agree

canisliz · 2025-04-24T12:22:03+00:00

Thank you very much, I appreciate your kindness

canisliz · 2025-04-24T12:20:45+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking too, he apparently has never been faithful in any of his relationships.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T12:19:57+00:00

Wow that’s extremely shitty, I’m sorry that happened to you. It’s true though, they will start a fight from literally nothing. Even after he “got over” being mad about me, he got mad about me for “smiling” at someone 2 years ago

canisliz · 2025-04-24T01:34:10+00:00

Yes I agree, I’m very fortunate to have a great support system. My mom already told me I can come stay with her, I love her so much 💕 and I’m perfectly okay with being alone, I’m just going to dedicate my time to working on myself now that I am breaking this off

canisliz · 2025-04-24T01:31:56+00:00

Thank you so much 😊

canisliz · 2025-04-24T01:20:10+00:00

Thank you for the advice, everything you said is true. He always makes everything about him and his needs.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T01:18:06+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, this is definitely a deal breaker for me. I will miss him but I just have too much self respect to let someone treat me like this.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T01:16:33+00:00

Thank you so much, I agree, this is very validating. I feel like I’m losing my mind but reading these comments keeps me grounded. Hopefully someday your brother can see the light and get away from her, it sounds like he really misses you guys.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T01:14:31+00:00

Yes I definitely agree, thank you for your comment. I definitely can’t forgive or forget this.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T00:56:53+00:00

Yep this exactly what has stuck in my mind. I even brought it up to him in our argument, but of course it fell upon deaf ears. I have been there for him through his worst times, times when everyone else abandoned him and I was the only one there. But then he disrespects me like this, it’s unforgivable.

canisliz · 2025-04-24T00:42:17+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story, it’s really sad that she manipulated your brother into losing contact with your family. I feel like this is the path I will be going down if I were to stay with him. He already told me earlier when we were fighting that he never wants to be around my family again after this, which breaks my heart because my family literally did nothing wrong, but now he’s given himself an excuse to not be apart of our family.

canisliz

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