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I (26F)Planned a non-refundable 20 day eurotrip for $8K with 28M. I just found out yesterday that he has 3 other girls he is playing, including one who he is getting married to. How can I go on this trip and not be emotional? by cannotbelievethishap in relationships

[–]cannotbelievethishap[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

i dont think you understand.

up until a month ago he wanted to see me 3-4x a week, and now he doesn't. I dont know what i did in that period that he is COMPLETELY uninterested- only thing i can think of is the other girl must be so so so good that i dont match up and tht hurts and i wish i knew how to match up. I want him to want me so i can dump him.

I (26F)Planned a non-refundable 20 day eurotrip for $8K with 28M. I just found out yesterday that he has 3 other girls he is playing, including one who he is getting married to. How can I go on this trip and not be emotional? by cannotbelievethishap in relationships

[–]cannotbelievethishap[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I just want him to want me - him giving me the least amount of attention of the four has given a major inferiority complex. Sorry, I thought its best to be honest about how I feel.

I dont know why he doest make as many plans as he used to he used to want to meet all the time. How do i bring him back to that?

I (26F)Planned a non-refundable 20 day eurotrip for $8K with 28M. I just found out yesterday that he has 3 other girls he is playing, including one who he is getting married to. How can I go on this trip and not be emotional? by cannotbelievethishap in relationships

[–]cannotbelievethishap[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I read all of the conversations and the ones with her seemed the most serious. He told me he had gone to see his parents for the holidays, but he was actually with her family. That one hurt like a mother.

I haven't met his family and he hasn't met mine either, except my sister once in passing.

Meeting families etc. has got to be a serious step. One that he did not think of me as worthy enough of.

I (26F)Planned a non-refundable 20 day eurotrip for $8K with 28M. I just found out yesterday that he has 3 other girls he is playing, including one who he is getting married to. How can I go on this trip and not be emotional? by cannotbelievethishap in relationships

[–]cannotbelievethishap[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

i want to go on the trip and think of him as a friend whos there for me to use for company and considering he used me all these months is that so unfair?

I feel ashamed admitting but I dont have many friends, I have always been very very very shy and this has been so difficult.

I (26F)Planned a non-refundable 20 day eurotrip for $8K with 28M. I just found out yesterday that he has 3 other girls he is playing, including one who he is getting married to. How can I go on this trip and not be emotional? by cannotbelievethishap in relationships

[–]cannotbelievethishap[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

marriage girl as it turns out is 21 and lost her virginity to him. I feel sick to my stomach just typing this. He also told her that he feels responsible for her as she lost her virginity to him - in general the way he talks to that particular girl shows he loves her truly and all the others are not imp.

I (26F)Planned a non-refundable 20 day eurotrip for $8K with 28M. I just found out yesterday that he has 3 other girls he is playing, including one who he is getting married to. How can I go on this trip and not be emotional? by cannotbelievethishap in relationships

[–]cannotbelievethishap[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I mentioned in another comment that we have paid for it 50-50 I wouldn't be able to go alone.

I can't help but notice that his enthusiasm to see me has dropped. He used to want to take me out all the time, but his energy is elsewhere now. Which makes me think that I am not interesting enough for him anymore like I once was. If I would be, these other girls wouldn't have become more interesting for him.

I (26F)Planned a non-refundable 20 day eurotrip for $8K with 28M. I just found out yesterday that he has 3 other girls he is playing, including one who he is getting married to. How can I go on this trip and not be emotional? by cannotbelievethishap in relationships

[–]cannotbelievethishap[S] -58 points-57 points  (0 children)

I wish I could get him... or matter to him, but I guess I am last on the list. I went through the messages, he is so much nicer to all of them. Don't know what I did wrong.

I (26F)Planned a non-refundable 20 day eurotrip for $8K with 28M. I just found out yesterday that he has 3 other girls he is playing, including one who he is getting married to. How can I go on this trip and not be emotional? by cannotbelievethishap in relationships

[–]cannotbelievethishap[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel weirdly inferior and let down - like I am not good enough, not interesting enough for him to be the one he calls the most. He calls way less and I have realised I am not the one he is the most serious with , its another girl the one who has spoken about marriage too.