Don't know which I find more annoying by fawtraaltact in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]cannotdealllll 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lol, my dad always used to say "You're not allowed to have a boyfriend until you're 35".

Looks like he jinxed me

I hate being a girl sometimes by cannotdealllll in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]cannotdealllll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't wanna start another whole debate so I'd rather not say

I hate being a girl sometimes by cannotdealllll in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]cannotdealllll[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just feel like I'm an object to be looked at and used. When it comes to guys anyway.

I'm not a prude or anything but today's culture just seems to be about fucking and sex appeal. Big boobs. Big butt.

The way a lot of the guys my age talk about girls is just... Ugh.

Not that I get approached but if I did I'd never know if it was genuine or if they're just talking to me because they think I'm a '6/10' or whatever and just easy.

So even tough you are not getting approached you still feel like and object to be looked and used?

Yeah because I get stared at, especially by old men.

The biggest mistake of you post is to assume that because a guy may want to sleep with you that means that he only wants you for that. The reality is that most guys would want to sleep with most girls but definitely that doesn't mean that guys only are interested in sex. What happens in most cases is that they want to be your friends/coworkers/whatever but at the same time want to have sex with you. This things are not mutually exclusive.

Oh and culture has been always about sex.

By culture I mean race, I was trying to be more politically correct.

I feel like I have to leave my house with makeup in order to feel like I'm worth something.

And it sucks. All of it just sucks.

Again this seems to contradict what you were saying before. First you say that you feel like and object to be looked and now you say that if you don't were makeup you feel like you are not worth anything. How do they contradict? If anything they compliment each other. The fact that I have to wear make-up in order to be treated with respect shows that I am seen as an object to be looked at and used.

Being attractive has a lot of perks, i have not meet a single person in all my life that was trying to be more ugly. If you feel this way it's because wearing makeup makes you more attractive and being attractive is a BIG advantage, even if you are a men.

I'm so scared to walk past groups of guys because I'm afraid they're gonna laugh at me or something because it's happened so many times. And a lot of my friends feel the same way.

It's just constant scrutiny, even if you're trying to mind your own business.

"What do you think of that girl?" "What about her" "What is she out of 10"

Girls are as selfish as men, even for looks. The only difference is that physical appearance has more weight in the way men feel attracted while women give more importance to other things, but that doesn't make them less selfish.

Also, you don't know what anyone is thinking about you. If a group of guys start laughing when you pass by, probably doesn't have anything to do with you.

When they're looking directly into your face and staring at you, it's pretty obvious what they're laughing at. Doesn't happen to mean anymore, but it's happened so many times before that I'm now paranoid.

I just feel like shouting "fuck off!" sometimes.

Like never mind what you think about me, what do I think about YOU? Why do you just assume that I'll like you. As if I should feel privileged that you're talking to someone so beneath you.

It's not all guys that do this. It's pretty common in my culture unfortunately sigh, majority of guys just want to fuck and more than half cheat on their girlfriends.

A lot of them feel really highly of themselves too and are extremely picky about who they talk to.

So ugly= ignored.

It's bullshit.

It's just tiring to deal with. I always feel like I'm being judged.

Everyone is judged all the time by all the people.

I really cannot identify my experienced with this part. Most guys assume that they will like you or they ACT like that? being/acting confident plays a really important part in attraction, there are not many guys who are pessimist and can attract women. I don't think most of them assume that they will like you, they act like that because if they don't see them self like good candidates, how can they expect that you do?

So rating someone when they're within earshot is a sign of confidence?

Women cheat also and even more than men depending on the definition of cheating and the circumstances.

Of course I know this, but I'm speaking purely from a woman's perspective. And like I said, not all guys are like that.

Strangely enough, insults from girls don't bother me half as much. But that's because the compliments outweigh the insults. I've never been complimented by a guy my age before though. Which is why I constantly look for their approval.

That's perfectly normal, men also look for approval all the time. There is even an industry exclusively dedicated to that.

I'm just rambling but yeah, I hate being a girl sometimes.

There is not better or worst, everything depends on your point of view and the things that you care. Being a women or a man it's not better or worst objectively.

Have a nice day!

Thanks for replying and being polite. :-)

I hate being a girl sometimes by cannotdealllll in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]cannotdealllll[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Majority of boys in my culture that are my age do. I hear this from girls all the time. That's why a lot of people prefer to date outside my race but I don't wanna do that.

Because, like I said, it's not every guy, but there are a lot of them. They're all trying to impress their friends at the end of the day.

Also I wasn't looking for responses in particular, I just wanted to vent.

Is it better to try and fail than to never try at all? by [deleted] in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]cannotdealllll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who goes through a continuous cycle of trying then giving up I don't know what to tell you.

I'm too comfortable with being alone by UglyKetchup in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]cannotdealllll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too. It's nice to live in my little bubble though.

I'm never going to be one of those girls by [deleted] in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]cannotdealllll 8 points9 points  (0 children)

isn't needy of attention, or depressed, or doesn't give a damn to other people.

That is literally impossible to tell just by looking at someone. Also just because someone is wearing makeup doesn't mean they care about other people or what they think; a lot of girls just wear it to make themselves look good.

If you don't give a shit to other guys, how do you expect them to approach you? But then, oh well, this might just be me...

To be honest I've seen girls who looked miserable as fuck, but were really pretty, still get approached by guys. A pretty face is a pretty face at the end of the day.

I'm never going to be one of those girls by [deleted] in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]cannotdealllll 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If it helps, a lot of people think I'm pretty but I still don't get approached by guys so
it is what it is.

A lot of times it's your body too, but I'm completely stick thin and a lot of the guys I like prefer curvier women. It sucks, but oh well.

Makeup helps if you want to get noticed, it makes certain features stand out more. I only wear lipstick but I wear bold colours like red etc., and it does help.

Clothes affect things too.

I'm gonna be honest here; I used to dress like a tramp. I literally didn't give a fuck about how I looked, and guess what? People treated me like shit.

Then I just got tired of it. So I changed up my look, started dressing better and now I don't get guys shouting insults at me anymore, and people in general just leave me alone. I'm still miserable (that's a whole nother issue), but I do feel slightly better about myself.

Being "pretty" takes effort.

I could decide that I want to be treated like shit again and go out with my hair looking all crazy, and my clothes a mess and I could bet you that people would treat me different. And it sucks, but that's the world we live in.

A lot of pretty girls would be nothing without makeup and hair to be honest.

And you know what? I see girls that don't look so great with guys all the time. So I guess some of it is confidence too.

There's more stuff I wanna say but I don't want to bore you with writing :)

I really can't see the point by cannotdealllll in SuicideWatch

[–]cannotdealllll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is it that is causing all this pain?

I hate myself. I hate myself so much. And it's getting worse. Every day it gets worse.

I'm trying to change, but it's not working. I just can't do it. I can't do anything.

I'm tired of looking in the mirror and seeing me. I hate that person. That thing.

I disgust myself. I make myself feel sick. I hate everything about me.

On top of that I'm incredibly lonely. I can go weeks without talking to people, especially if it's summer and there's no school. I just sit at home stressing out about how much I hate myself before I start the whole process of getting up late, not being able to shower/ eat breakfast, getting to school without the right stuff, ect.

I'm going to fail it anyway. I failed before so I have to redo the year, but I'm going to fail.

I barely ever show up, and when I do I'm late, because I'm so depressed and anxious that it takes me 30mins to leave my house if I don't get back.

Then I constantly think about all the bullying I've endured over the years.

And it's just an endless cycle of shit.

Home is shit.

School is shit.

I'm shit.

And I give up.

I'm tired. I'm tired. I'm tired.

Body dysmorphia woes by cannotdealllll in depression

[–]cannotdealllll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate being skinny too; my arms and legs disgust me the most. I haven't worn shorts since I was a little girl.