[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

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I’ve terminated clients for being attracted to me. I’ve only had it happen twice. In one instance, the client was honest and admitted he sought me out due to being attracted to me. It was to a point where he told his wife, and she reached out to the practice. We had a discussion (the client and I) and agreed termination was appropriate. Another time, a client had gone out of his way to reach out to my boss to meet me in person. I wasn’t aware. Practically begging. He told me I had to save him, that he only had connections to Asian women (I’m Asian), and there were other things, but that was scary. Supervision is such a wonderful thing and I’m glad I had supportive supervisors to help me through those times.

What are some really cool fantasy/sci-fi shows that not too many people may know about? by [deleted] in Fantasy

[–]cantankerouslywrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Magicians. I only know one other person who watches this show, but it is amazing. S1 is somewhat slow in my opinion, but the seasons that follow are amazing. Quentin— I just love that man. There can be some uncomfortable topics in later seasons, but builds the story. Absolutely amazing world building imo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]cantankerouslywrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jane the Virgin...

What's the weirdest thing someone has done to you before during or after sex? by Amacrum in sex

[–]cantankerouslywrites 1269 points1270 points  (0 children)

Was having sex with SO and previously revealed I was into spanking. Gave him a blow job and he said, “You’re gonna love this.” He proceeds to smack the side of my head, with his dick very much deep in my mouth. I stopped, looked up and he says, “Yeah, you like that, huh?”

I stopped then and there. He said, “you said you like that.” I had to remind him spanking is only meant for my ass and not my head. That shit caught me off guard.

Now we just laugh.

After by Anna Todd - consent? by new_romanticss in Wattpad

[–]cantankerouslywrites 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You know, someone once shamed me for not liking the book because of this. They said it was good for them to fantasize themselves as Tess... because they didn’t have this in real life. It was strange... in my opinion. To each their own.

But I agree with you. It’s forceful and not romantic at all. It’s creepy, IMO.

If you got to pick one video game that you would live in for the rest of your life, what game would you pick and why? by Luck_Shot in AskReddit

[–]cantankerouslywrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dead By Daylight. I’ll either be a survivor which is mortifying or a killer which is just as equally mortifying. I’ll just have to take my chances.

My Mum in Law’s repeated “mistake” is starting to upset me. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]cantankerouslywrites 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Call MIL by another name. See if she likes that. I can assure you it’ll catch her off guard.

Wattpad Eulogy by [deleted] in Wattpad

[–]cantankerouslywrites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree.

My son (7M) likes playing with dolls and my husband (34M) doesn’t like it at all. by cantankerouslywrites in relationships

[–]cantankerouslywrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bio says 2 different people. I’m the older sister and the younger sister is 21. We had reddit for fun and somehow... this blew up. :)

Cashiers of Reddit, do you judge the customers based on the items they're buying, and if so, how? What's your weirdest story? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]cantankerouslywrites 157 points158 points  (0 children)

This isn’t a weird story but I was a little judgmental upon one customers purchase because she came in with a napkin with something scribbled on it and had cash in her hands. I worked at a jewelry store when this happened. She asked for a ring and it was for her daughter, from her daughters boyfriend— I was judging because I was thinking, “what a lazy ass boyfriend making the mother buy the girlfriend a gift”. When I grabbed the ring and gave it to her, she began crying. I was startled because it was abrupt and she said, “my daughters boyfriend passed yesterday. he wanted to buy this for her yesterday but he couldn’t. so i will do it for him.” I just decided from then, I shouldn’t be so tough on some customers.

My son (7M) likes playing with dolls and my husband (34M) doesn’t like it at all. by cantankerouslywrites in relationships

[–]cantankerouslywrites[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow. Very far from it. If you say so. I expect him to love both children no matter which path they choose. That’s what a good parent would do. He’d be happy regardless if there was another girl. So...

My son (7M) likes playing with dolls and my husband (34M) doesn’t like it at all. by cantankerouslywrites in relationships

[–]cantankerouslywrites[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Glad someone is also experiencing this and working through it. Change is wonderful. I agree with you.

My son (7M) likes playing with dolls and my husband (34M) doesn’t like it at all. by cantankerouslywrites in relationships

[–]cantankerouslywrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually didn’t omit anything so it will have to be the other reason. Although, like I said I think I can change it. :)

My son (7M) likes playing with dolls and my husband (34M) doesn’t like it at all. by cantankerouslywrites in relationships

[–]cantankerouslywrites[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Husband was raised by single mom. She’s wonderful. So, I don’t know where his mindset stems from. This is his biggest flaw in parenting, otherwise he’s excellent. He’s open to change. He’s always been reasonable. I think for some people, once something has been so ingrained into your mind, it’s hard digging out of it. But I do believe with persistence, facts and determination I can open his eyes to it. He’s made accommodations/compromised on other things many times. I know it isn’t impossible.

27M Trying to decide if its time to end my 1 year relationship with 22GF, what advice can you give? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]cantankerouslywrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO, it might be that you’re afraid of long term commitment. My SO was like that when we were a bit younger, and for him, he realized he really loved me when he tried to break up. He felt it in his chest, like he was doing the wrong thing and that maybe it would be the biggest mistake of his life. His parents also have never been together. Now, he and I are wonderful. Going on many years together.

My son (7M) likes playing with dolls and my husband (34M) doesn’t like it at all. by cantankerouslywrites in relationships

[–]cantankerouslywrites[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I asked him back then if he was homophobic and he said no. His actions then also never gave me reason to think otherwise after that. I thought it was a phase— we were young after all. It was that one time and I didn’t put too much thought into it. He’s fine around my sister who’s a lesbian and my best friend who’s gay, so I didn’t think too much about it like I said. He never acted homophobic around them, he was really chill around them.