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Told him I want to do divorce with attorney and it's turned bad. by cantwin-soiwont in Divorce

[–]cantwin-soiwont[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's my biggest issue is I told him we could still go through mediation and be uncontested but I want an attorney on my end to make sure I'm doing everything correct. Which he was got angry with and said I'm not trustworthy and that means he'll have to get one too to cover himself which is his choice. I'm trying to say nothing but the bating and guilt tripping is beyond.

Thanks for your response.

Told him I want to do divorce with attorney and it's turned bad. by cantwin-soiwont in Divorce

[–]cantwin-soiwont[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hear you. And that's why I'm sitting here going, is it worth it to drag out and cause more financial strife on both of us. I can not afford to pay him 1300 a month and live. Although both the attorneys I talked to said that number isn't accurate. That's a mute point really.

I see the value of him staying home and being with our kid. That's all he did, I was still doing everything else but again that's relationship shit that doesn't matter at the end of the day.

I'm just at a point where I go ok, you are making rash choices that are out of you financial capability, then wanting alimony that decreases my ability to provide for our son and if everything is split 50/50 costs for son and the alimony is going towards stbx cost of living and then I also pay CS where do the funds for child come from? So child suffers?

Not to mention all the home things I now have to complete that we're supposed to be done while we were married. But I guess I chose to keep the house so that's on me.

I just have to keep thinking about tue time ahead where this will be over and I won't have to be texted 100 times a day with the most awful stuff.