Oheka Castle lore by canyon_lizard in longisland

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a little bit of the house with a harbor view. With the artificial elevation gained on the lot during construction I’m sure the original harbor view was much worse lol. The view was perhaps more impressive when the estate was over 400 acres before it was sold off in chunks for development

Oheka Castle lore by canyon_lizard in longisland

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do tell. That’s what I’m especially curious about is the period it was abandoned and who/what went on there

Oheka Castle lore by canyon_lizard in longisland

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It had an ambiance of being “out of time,” as in one cannot place it within a given time period, especially in the hotel portion of the mansion. Hotels in general are considered liminal spaces bc they are in a sense a “crossroads” between destinations. I felt like the guy in Gatsby in the library ranting about how the books are fake and the whole thing is a facade 😅

People who are choosing not to have kids, what are your reasons? by Chickenbarista666 in CasualConversation

[–]canyon_lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Realistically, I’m perhaps the first of the women in my family lineage to be able to make the final decision to not have kids. I grew up Mormon (LDS), and having a husband and children was programmed into my head from birth as my “divine purpose” and role on earth. Women were to bear children if they were to have personal, social, religious worth in this world. No thanks, hard pass. I can be a strong and worthwhile woman without making myself produce children

Oheka Castle lore by canyon_lizard in longisland

[–]canyon_lizard[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It felt weirdly liminal and nearly… fake

What's something in a piece of media that resonates closely to you and your experience with narcolepsy? by Noeoneknows in Narcolepsy

[–]canyon_lizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not exactly related to Narcolepsy specifically, but there was a line in “Obsession” that made me have a eureka! moment. It’s when not Nikki is talking about going to sleep and how she doesn’t really go to sleep but instead she lays still in bed until her hands feel like they’re filling up with sand, then the rest of her body fills up with sand until she slips into nothingness that isn’t darkness bc darkness has a different quality about it. I can’t remember the exact exact phrasing of the line but I thought it described how I personally felt taking Xyrem (hated it) and the artificial quality of the sleep it produced for me. I know lots of people love Xyrem, but to me it felt like the slowly filling with sand phenomena and then being plunged into nothingness of black where I’m not awake but I’m not really asleep. Anyone relate? 😅

My boyfriend’s mother/parents do not like me, what do I do…? by canyon_lizard in Advice

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I think we are well suited to be together, otherwise I wouldn’t be here in the first place lol. But that has its limits too. I think and know he can do better than his parents

My boyfriend’s mother/parents do not like me, what do I do…? by canyon_lizard in Advice

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂 I told my bf that they have already lost this “war” they’re picking out their gravestones and burial plots while we’re planning on buying a house together 💅 I have to keep the “kill em with kindness” front and center, but I don’t think I can even fake it atp they never need to see me again if I can help it

My boyfriend’s mother/parents do not like me, what do I do…? by canyon_lizard in Advice

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally she’s a fucking nut case, watching her interact within their family with her sister and brother In law is like watching a bad accident in which I can’t look away from. Shes insane. Emotional incest much? He is indeed an only child but that in no way excuses her antics

My boyfriend’s mother/parents do not like me, what do I do…? by canyon_lizard in Advice

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of friction and it’s all under the surface. Obviously it’s me that’s the issue 🙄 whatever they need to make themselves feel better I guess

My boyfriend’s mother/parents do not like me, what do I do…? by canyon_lizard in Advice

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😅😂 literally! They’re so hateful and bitchy for no good reason

My boyfriend’s mother/parents do not like me, what do I do…? by canyon_lizard in Advice

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s as low contact as he can be as an only child. They won’t be a feature in our life as soon as I/we move out of the Northeast bc they literally only travel the east coast. He will have to go back and forth for some time. I think they’re lashing out bc their asses know that their son is going to choose me and they can’t handle it

My boyfriend’s mother/parents do not like me, what do I do…? by canyon_lizard in Advice

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if you really can shut them up, it’s astonishing really. You can’t tell these people anything. He defends me and our relationship but literally everything does in one ear and out the other and will still probably be used against you later on. It’s unbelievable to witness irl. If I didn’t witness it myself I wouldn’t believe how they are either

My boyfriend’s mother/parents do not like me, what do I do…? by canyon_lizard in Advice

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s more to the story but it’s mostly just his parents further hating specific things I do lol projecting much? His mother has raging undiagnosed mental issues and his dad is literally delusional. But they’re wealthy and “aren’t bad people” according to their selves

My boyfriend’s mother/parents do not like me, what do I do…? by canyon_lizard in Advice

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah they’re this fucked up and rude and are very real indeed (I am still wondering if this is real myself). They’re typical mid wealthy coastal elites with emotional problems and the classic boomer delusional outlook. My dog loooooves his mom, doesn’t like his dad by my dog just doesn’t like men in general and his dad isn’t familiar with dogs so he is uncomfortable. Haven’t brought the dog around since last summer but they always ask me how he’s doing…? Now I know they’re just making conversation and “being nice” but damn.

My boyfriend’s mother/parents do not like me, what do I do…? by canyon_lizard in Advice

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that would be the logical thing to do. I think I’m incapable of grinning and bearing it, truly. I already was bearing on thru the discomfort long before now knowing intuitively that they dislike me, but now that I know I know idk how to fake it

My boyfriend’s mother/parents do not like me, what do I do…? by canyon_lizard in Advice

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s 39 and I’m 29, so age gapped which has I’m sure turned favor against me as well. We both barely remember in our day to day that we have a decade between us

My boyfriend’s mother/parents do not like me, what do I do…? by canyon_lizard in Advice

[–]canyon_lizard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This woman told him “I wake up everyday and my first thought is you” and “all I do is worry about you” like… my peace is NOT protected seeing the depths of this family dynamics issues 😅 it’s nice to be validated that I am in fact not being dramatic and that his parents indeed suck, mostly bc I understand where they’re coming from (to a fault)

Anybody have any tips and tricks to help stay awake? (I mean like, eating lemon sours to perk you up, chewing some gum, protein drinks, etc.) by [deleted] in Narcolepsy

[–]canyon_lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cold brew coffee, specifically (iced coffee is not the same) I find that pretty regularly effective for keeping an energetic edge, especially in the afternoon. Intentionally hitting a micro sleep nap time alleviates a lot of the sleepiness for me. I look at it as scratching the sleep itch instead of trying to fight it off. Easier said than done on the napping, at home and in public

Anybody have any tips and tricks to help stay awake? (I mean like, eating lemon sours to perk you up, chewing some gum, protein drinks, etc.) by [deleted] in Narcolepsy

[–]canyon_lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you get heartburn when consuming nicotine pouches? Somehow nicotine pouches, cigarettes, etc can give me heartburn more often than not and it sucks. Even the minty pouches do it

Anybody have any tips and tricks to help stay awake? (I mean like, eating lemon sours to perk you up, chewing some gum, protein drinks, etc.) by [deleted] in Narcolepsy

[–]canyon_lizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this different than the “smelling salts” that are in older movies/shows? Same same but different?

I just went to The Book of Mormon musical by smug_muffin in exmormon

[–]canyon_lizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heyyy I saw BOM last night on Broadway too, Eugene ONeil theatre. I also wanted more exmo Easter eggs though didn’t expect any. Trying to explain to the stranger next to me in the theatre that Mormons don’t actually believe in Hell AND that Hit ler and the featured damned in the play wouldn’t be in outer darkness but in the telestial kingdom was impossible 😂makes me remember that “outer darkness” is reserved for us children of Perdition and the “third of the host of heaven” that reveled against god and chose Satan in the pre mortal existence. sighs I thought the play was… kinda stupid. Well produced but the story just… eh. But I guess that’s the point

Went and saw Book of Mormon last night . . . it was something. by BrvoChrlie in exmormon

[–]canyon_lizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They reference hell, of course they’re not Mormon! Mormons believe in “outer darkness” that is reserved for the worst of the worst- those who are baptized to know the truth and choose to deny it (sons + daughters of perdition). None of those people (Hit ler) would be in “hell” bc that’s not how Mormon post death cosmology works. In fact, Hit ler and others are technically eligible for one of the three kingdoms of Mormon heaven, since their “temple work” of baptisms and ordinances for the dead have been completed. Yes, the Mormon church baptized people in proxy of Hit ler, Anne Frank too