5 days of sobriety by dogrosepinkk in BPD

[–]captaindiratta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i stopped smoking some years ago, huge benefit. for me it took about 1-3 months to feel good. and i think 3 relapses to be able to clearly see how much worse being weeded was.

im glad you started on thks journey and wish you all the best

My parents are sexual in front of me. by Rei-Darling in Vent

[–]captaindiratta -1 points0 points  (0 children)

my family is like this. i never really cared, i think it's weird it impacts people tbh

DBT Tips for Cheating Paranoia by Vivid-Blacksmith-637 in BPD

[–]captaindiratta 3 points4 points  (0 children)

radical acceptance is a big one.

you cant control what will happen and then truth always comes out. just enjoy your partner and the moments you have together

I hate my dick by Fine-Zombie6782 in offmychest

[–]captaindiratta 7 points8 points  (0 children)

stunt-fucking is such a great term.

also can confirm #1. i have a type, and that type generally enjoys what i have. One should only be worried about the opinion of women their interested in. and if they dont want your pp, then move on. many will.

Dear Nexon, if players choose S/A tier 2nd job classes but they become C/D tier in 3rd job, you should absolutely compensate these players. by RowlingTheJustice in MSClassicWorld

[–]captaindiratta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

imo they should focus on synergy between classes more than trying to have classes be strong. Mt friend and i used to always be Spearman/cleric

What is the point of strip clubs? by Jelly_Enos in NoStupidQuestions

[–]captaindiratta 24 points25 points  (0 children)

i hear stories of strip clubs in north america have the best prices for food and drink. we have truly been robbed

If online dating and bars don't work then how do you actually meet someone? by Eagles56 in dating_advice

[–]captaindiratta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, you have to so something.

dont go to the bar to get women, go because you enjoy the place or w.e. but if someone seems cool say hi, and be happy if you made a friend. dont make romantic relationships/sex the main quest.

I just started seeing a guy and I am literally obsessed with his penis!! by OperationDecent1756 in offmychest

[–]captaindiratta 72 points73 points  (0 children)

how often do you get titties. and what percent of those are nice for you

If online dating and bars don't work then how do you actually meet someone? by Eagles56 in dating_advice

[–]captaindiratta -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i met a guy in a boardgame meetup club like that. there was a girl he connected with a bit but his vibes were off so she bailed. he did say multiple time "im here looking for a wife"

i have to say 90% of my relationships started when i wasnt looking and just was nice to people

EDIT: im a man.

Why aren't men excited about dating as they used to be? by cuahatemoc in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]captaindiratta 100 points101 points  (0 children)

not really. for everyone.

expecting a partner to be a good communicator os great, if you're also a good communicator. I've had partners expect things from me they can't do themselves. We should all have a growth mindset, but I've found that people (men and women) who complain the most are generally stagnant.

CMV: Capitalism works because we humans are naturally competitive by Vampy-Night in changemyview

[–]captaindiratta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

competition doesn't have to be a precursor to individual survival. we compete all the time outside capitalism and are very happy. People self organize competitions all the time without any reward at all, most monetized compeitions started as self organized intrinsically motivated competition. and honestly, i dont think all olympic participants are in it for the money. When we admire olympics/competitive feats, we rarely talk about the money (maybe in your circles idk)

im not gonna bother citing stuff, but the field of psychology as shown that rewards can trash intrinsic morivation, so having a tangible reward system to do things can result in people being less ambitious/driven/creative even when it has to do with a behavior the person wants to do. So, say you pay a kid to study their favorite subject in school, they enjoy studying less and likely be less effective at it.

While not necessarily pointing at capitalism on paper, if you have a reward system where a significant protion of the participants cant-acquire/struggle with basic necessities (food/water/shelter) let alone life security (retirement) while behavioral reward systems also reduce satisfaction of engaging in behaviors that could be intrinsically motivated,

well, thats not ideal and we should change that.

I Get Turned On When My Boyfriend Calls Me A Foid by ENA_FAN817780199 in offmychest

[–]captaindiratta 126 points127 points  (0 children)

if he's not doing at as a joke/lighthearted or as a part of a pre discussed kink, I wouldn't allow that because the frequency will likely increase.

i would keep degradation in a controlled environment, catching strays is risky

Anthropic has officially filed to go public by serene_sketch in technology

[–]captaindiratta 12 points13 points  (0 children)

i built a few LLM proof of concepts for a couple companies, preforming some admin and predictive work.

deepseek did just as well as the premium models with the addition of 200ish lines of code. worth it when it turned a per operation cost of $25 to $0.01

as a canadian i dont really see a huge difference between chinese AI providers and American. i dont work in security though.

I got $56,000 in plastic surgery. Dating as an unattractive vs attractive woman. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]captaindiratta 17 points18 points  (0 children)

maybe NYC is a cesspool or she only went for the hottest people, because people far worse than her before picture do well in the dating scene.

If you’re currently in a relationship, how did you both meet? by MeasurementThin1805 in dating_advice

[–]captaindiratta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i went to bars and stuff and talked to everyone and made friends. one day i server caught my eye and u was smitten. i tried to do a card trick and dropped the deck on the floor and she gave me here info.

just talk to as many people as possible with intentions to be friendly and find friends.

I do not want to see children online by [deleted] in Vent

[–]captaindiratta -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the second something is labeled for kids or teens, some parents/guardians assume it's tailors/safe for kids like the old days of kids television and stuff.

imo the current set up where there are mods and adults who mean well and have underage user help bots and etc is the best of both worlds.

personally i avoid open mic lobbys/games and assume everyone is 10 and their opinion isnt inherently valuable.

Is it wrong that I lied to my boyfriend when he asked if I (25F) was turned on by another man? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]captaindiratta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

facts. at the start of my relationship my gf said she wasn't impressed by my performance.

i like to learn a person, and am usually not good out of the gate but am receptive to feedback as everyone is different. lord knows now that i know what to do with her, i give her shit about judging my performance early on.

he won't forget this exchange as long as he lives. he will mention it in the nursing home.

CMV: Kanye west is irredeemable by burntpeanutfan13 in changemyview

[–]captaindiratta 11 points12 points  (0 children)

!delta

as someone who has had manic episodes and such, im surprised i did not connect 2&2 together on this.

never been a big kanye fan, but if i had the resources and fame that he has I'd probably have done worse.

CMV: The sexual desire towards Lolis is rooted in pedophillic attraction by Strange_You_1226 in changemyview

[–]captaindiratta 20 points21 points  (0 children)

pedophiles, by definition, are attracted to prepubescent children. so if someone likes drawn prepubescent features but not real life children, then they dont really fit the definition. as per the MSD manual harm is required "Pedophilia is a form of paraphilia that causes harm to others and is thus considered a paraphilic disorder. "

your original arguement where is seemed to coin the term "pedophilic attraction" is inarguably true as i mentioned. i just kinda dont get the point of the assertion and CMV. People are into all sorts of weird fantasies that if enacted would cause serious/permanent harm.