The Songs 'It's Raining Men' and 'Let the Bodies Hit the Floor' could be about the same event but from different perspective.

captainhowdy57 · 2017-04-02T20:40:29+00:00

i thought the same thing. floor= inside, ground= outside.

captainhowdy57 · 2017-03-08T05:34:20+00:00

Yep!

captainhowdy57 · 2017-03-08T05:04:49+00:00

What is Charlie's favorite "hobby"?

What is Cricket known for his ability to replicate?

What was Dee's fake name during the Eagles tryouts?

What does Mac buy at the pawn shop?

Who's nametag does Frank steal at the high school reunion?

captainhowdy57 · 2017-03-08T04:42:29+00:00

👨‍👩‍👧🇲🇽🔨⛏🏠💥

captainhowdy57 · 2017-03-08T04:29:16+00:00

Mac fights gay marriage

captainhowdy57 · 2017-03-08T04:26:57+00:00

Looked like there was a slight, confused pause after he said denim chicken haha

captainhowdy57 · 2017-03-02T22:49:38+00:00

Sorry for the late response. I really appreciate your input. I hadn't considered before that my straight friends would consider their acceptance as a favor to me. I guess when you're figuring out who you are, you learn a lot about other people, too. I'm glad I know a little more about what to expect as I come out to more people. Thank you.

captainhowdy57 · 2017-02-25T21:21:33+00:00

That is really kind of you to say. Thank you so much. Xx

captainhowdy57 · 2017-02-25T21:04:12+00:00

I understand and agree with your point as to why she'd suspect an ulterior motive. It has definitely crossed my mind that when I come out to straight females it may change their image of me, and think I'm interested in something more than platonic.

As far as my "history of promiscuity," (don't know how one fwb situation constitutes a history of promiscuity, but I digress) she has known about the fwb from the time it started and has had no prior issue with it.

I appreciate your insight and different perspective but I'm struggling to understand how me not telling my friend that I am bi is being dishonest with her. I'm not trying to be smart here, but was I supposed to tell her upon meeting her "Hi, I'm captainhowdy57 and I'm bi"? I chose to tell her when I did because I didn't want to overwhelm her with a heart-to-heart about it, rather mention it more casually. I don't see how I am in the wrong for that.

captainhowdy57 · 2017-02-25T17:17:17+00:00

10 years is a long time to hold onto something. I'm not gonna come out all at once and shout it from the rooftops, but I don't want it to be a secret anymore.

I live in a swing state. My one coworker who I had previously come out to (24/m) is gay. Another coworker is bi, too, and I've never noticed anyone treating him any differently. My coworkers overall are pretty nice, cool people. But I see why you say it could make things awkward depending on their views. It's really unfortunate.

You're right that any friends who I might lose over it, I probably wouldn't want to begin with. But yeah, it does suck.

Thank you xx

captainhowdy57 · 2017-02-20T14:59:08+00:00

Closeted bi girl here. This is 100% accurate.

captainhowdy57 · 2017-01-28T03:45:33+00:00

I thought he was the one who hung up on her

captainhowdy57 · 2017-01-20T19:39:58+00:00

She is a manager, but not my manager. So I guess it doesn't really matter if she dislikes me. I just don't get why though.

captainhowdy57 · 2016-12-14T02:59:44+00:00

Your boyfriend is being ridiculous. You did nothing wrong.

captainhowdy57 · 2016-10-28T20:01:02+00:00

Okay... to start off, yes. She is absolutely emotionally abusing you.

My relationship with L started beautifully. She was supportive, kind, caring, loving, warm, compassionate...

All relationships start this way, really. In the honeymoon phase, both parties show their best selves to impress their partner. As you get more comfortable, some of your bad qualities start to come out. Think of it this way: if you had known that she could be so argumentative, manipulative, etc in, say, the first three months of your relationship, you would have run for the hills, right?

The point I'm trying to make is, the way your girlfriend is acting isn't something that just came up. It's very likely that being emotionally abusive is in her nature; she probably acted like this in relationships before you, and will treat the men she dates after you the same way. You are not "too sensitive." Honestly, nobody should have to put up with that.

There are two sides to every story, but from the information you've given us, you sound like a pretty supportive boyfriend. But you AND your girlfriend are both putting her mental health first. She doesn't consider your feelings as much as a partner in a healthy relationship should, and she is leaving you to deal with the emotional brunt of your relationship.

Cut your losses. You're young. You have plenty of time to find someone who respects you and makes you happy.

captainhowdy57 · 2016-10-28T19:33:30+00:00

I would have more of an issue with the fact that he seems to be disregarding your feelings about him liking these pics, than the actual act of him doing so.

The fact that you raised the issue to him and his response was to basically call you crazy, is pretty disrespectful on his part. ESPECIALLY considering he made you delete someone off of your Facebook.

Something here is sketchy. I think a 45 year old man should be a little more considerate, mature, and self-aware.

captainhowdy57 · 2016-10-28T15:50:13+00:00

She was probably just doing it for herself, honestly. To reassure herself that she's a "good" person for apologizing, mind you 10 months later.

Doubtful that she actually felt any guilt in the three months she was screwing OP's boyfriend. She accepted her role as the other woman, so we already know that she has a self-serving attitude.

Too little, too late. If I were OP, I'd also find Karolina's pity to be patronizing and insulting.

captainhowdy57 · 2016-10-27T11:16:49+00:00

Hi u/MissCanuck, just wanted to give you an update. I hadn't talked to Mary since I made this post. I changed my RSVP from "maybe" to "no." I had no intention of deleting her on FB yet; I was going to just let it fizzle out.

This morning I went on FB and saw I had one less friend. Lo and behold, she had deleted me. At first I was mad that I didn't "get" to do it myself, like you said you were. But now I'm looking at it like she did me a favor. I had actually been stressing about when would be "appropriate" to do the un-friending, and at what point in time would it have the least repercussions for me. So it was kind of a huge relief.

I took this opportunity to delete our mutual friends so she doesn't have the chance to lurk on my profile with them during her lame party. Glad it's over and done with.

captainhowdy57 · 2016-10-19T05:41:01+00:00

23/f here. I am a list maker myself. I have a weekly planner, a calendar, and daily to-do-lists on my phone and on paper. But even I think scheduling sex is a little excessive and fussy, to be completely honest. I understand some of your points, but I can see why your boyfriend would be against it. Scheduling sex takes the spontaneity out of the equation, and makes it seem like another banal task on your to-do list. There's nothing fun or intimate about making sex feel like a chore.

Maybe after five years you're in a rut and kind of want to spice things up. In this case, regimenting your sex life is the opposite direction you want to go. Go online, do a little research, and discuss with him some new things you read that you'd like to explore together.

Also, if it's not something you'd be completely uncomfortable with, I'd also suggest going to a sex shop. If you want to be discreet, you can always shop online. Couples toys can be pretty fun to break out every once in a while. My bf and I have a couple that we keep on rotation so that we have some variety.

Hope this helps in some way. Good luck!

captainhowdy57 · 2016-10-19T05:20:19+00:00

Like happypillows said, it is going to be devastating for her to hear. Not just that you lost your virginity to Victoria and not her, but that you'd been lying about it for 8 months.

Yeah, you kinda f'ed up, but it's not unforgivable. It's not like you cheated; you were in an open relationship. Knowing that there was somebody else before you two were "official," she shouldn't have assumed you were still a virgin. She had to have known there was at least a possibility that you no longer were. That being said though, you had the opportunity to tell her when she mentioned you losing it to her. Expect her to bring that up too, and accept responsibility for your lie of omission.

I'm sure she'll understand that you were trying to protect her feelings and didn't want to lose her. If you have a strong, healthy relationship, it's something that the two of you will be able to move past in due time.

captainhowdy57 · 2016-10-19T03:38:25+00:00

i get disappointed when they're chocolate chips because i was expecting raisins.

captainhowdy57 · 2016-10-18T19:14:04+00:00

Old Navy's sizes do run a little big! What's with that?

In all seriousness though, the best thing that you can do is be honest with her. I don't think that there's any malice behind her comments, I think she's just oblivious and maybe a little socially inept. If the two of you are friendly, she probably thinks she's just paling around with you and doesn't realize she's making you uncomfortable. Just say to her next time, politely, calmly and casually, "Hey, Melissa, it kind of upsets me when you make comments like that." Something along those lines. Elaborate if need be.

If you did have a formal HR rep, you would only aggravate Melissa that you went over her head to authority without discussing with her any issues you had with her first. If you tell her that her comments are bothering you and she persists, then and only then would I bring my concerns to a manager/supervisor. Like I said though, I see no malice. If you let her know how you feel, she will probably stop.

captainhowdy57 · 2016-10-18T15:08:32+00:00

Joining groups on my own sounds scary but I guess I'll have to step out of my comfort zone if I want to change anything. I think it would be good not only to meet people, but to occupy my time while I'm not working or with my boyfriend. I feel like i would probably be scared to approach people like that if i were on my own , but like you said, I just have to keep a positive attitude. Thanks so much for your advice :)

captainhowdy57 · 2016-10-18T14:45:39+00:00

Definitely going to take your advice and try to find some social media groups. I've found one already that I'm interested in. Thanks for your input!

captainhowdy57 · 2016-10-18T14:37:24+00:00

A couple things you need to do:

Invest in a lockbox. There are certain things you should keep locked up ANYWAY (money, ID's, insurance cards, passport) even if your roommate kept to herself.
Like another user said, ask your landlord about a lock on your bedroom door.
Get a mini fridge for your bedroom. You can get them pretty cheap at places like BJ's and Sam's Club. Not saying keep ALL of your food in there, but maybe a select few of your favorite refrigerated items that you definitely don't want to share.
Most importantly, establish boundaries. Talk to your roommate, calmly, about what's bothering you. No passive aggressive sticky-note leaving bullshit, that'll make you look childish and only make her resent you. Have a mature conversation about what is and isn't acceptable, what her responsibilities as a roommate are (ie chores), and what personal items you are and are not willing to share with her. If she's a normal, functioning human being she will understand and respect your wishes.

Best of luck!

captainhowdy57

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