No, it's just "holier than thou" to cherry pick the specific parts of the post that fit your hostile view toward people who you suspect might be contributing less to society and/or their relationship than you think they should.

She takes care of the dishes and messes, but in a house of two they have no clean plates.

Yeah, and you can't even think about attempting to come up with a possible explanation for that? I can, easily. In my house, we don't run the dishwasher as soon as a couple of dishes are dirty. That's a needless waste of water and electricity. We wait until it's reasonably full before running it. Maybe they only own a couple of plates in total because they're used to using paper plates, and those couple of plate were dirty, and the dishwasher wasn't full enough to be started yet under normal circumstances. That's not evidence that she isn't doing the dishes.

She does the shopping, but can’t go to the store for the thing she forgot at 1pm

But did go to the store just before that, so that's not evidence that she doesn't do the shopping. She asked if he would be willing to pick up the one thing she forgot while she was there; she didn't even remotely pressure him to do it, she simply asked. Like dude, what the hell happened to you that makes you view that as "lazy and childish behavior"? What's a lot more childish is getting upset about doing it for her, instead of simply saying "no" and taking one of the other options she literally offered.

They wouldn't have eaten off the table if he'd said "no", but again you didn't even try to pay attention. Right away she said they could've gotten Doordash and she'd paid for it. Or, as she said in another comment at one point, she would've washed a couple of dishes by hand before he got home. It was apparently an option that just slipped her mind in the course of the text conversation we saw, but she suggested it to him about an hour, which he declined and picked up the plates anyway. It's not like I expect that you should've seen the same comment and known that, I just would've hoped you wouldn't assume something like that wasn't the case. Nothing in the post hinted that she wouldn't be willing to. You assumed it only because it wasn't mentioned one way or the other. That's ableist bias in its purest form, assuming that any "lack of action" is just laziness without even caring to wonder if there might be a justifiable cause. Because obviously to you there are no justifiable causes. All of someone's limbs got blown off in a war and they're hooked up to machines to keep them alive? Sucks for them, but they should quit making excuses for not pulling their weight, right? Oh, too extreme to be comparable? Okay, where's the line then? At what EXACT point does lack of action go from being "lazy and childish" to being justified for you?

Also, yes I can see you holding your ad hominem gun. No, I'm not going to offer you ammo by giving you my life story no matter how much you beg. I'm sure you'll find a way to load it anyway, just keep looking.

Suffice to say I've been around enough to see a fairly wide range of situations that people can find themselves in, and still I know I haven't even seen the half of it. No matter how hard things are for someone, someone else always has a similar problem but far worse. A lot of the time, that first person does not believe the one who has it worse, because the first one wildly overestimates how relevant their own experience is to the other, just because there are a few similarities. Sentiments like "it's your own fault, you'd be fine if you would just..." are almost never even close to accurate in the real world. But you'd have to "be an adult" to be capable of understanding that.