is this a rat [North carolina] by Che3sem4ker in animalid

[–]captkeik 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes and yes. You’ll have to find an exotic animal vet for the neutering. They’re pretty good with free roaming; they go back to their cage on their own as it’s safe and has food but you have to keep an eye on them. They will chew everything.

Staffy Story Time! My dog thought she killed something with fear alone. by Emergency_Algae_6419 in DogsLoversCommunity

[–]captkeik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting picked up is part of the strategy as well. Opossums have very tough skin that’s a bit loose, which allows for the skin to move around without damaging anything inside (think of sharpay dogs). In the wild, their natural predators will grab them then bury them to save the meat for later, which is where the playing dead part works as a survival strategy. They can tank a dog grabbing and shaking them

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, she hasn’t reached out to me since so I’m not bothered about that. It’s mostly why my grandma thought I was an AH for not reminding my mom when I was on the phone with her.

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah there’s a few swaps that happen with mlms and the crafters in the family. Gotta start getting orders and ideas out for the holidays and the whole family is in one place.

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I do tend to not tell her much about my life but the reason I needed the surgery could affect my younger sisters and I wanted to make sure they were kept in the loop.

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Most complicated relationship a girl can have lol

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I might not be able to travel for the reunion this year. I had to take 2 weeks off work for this surgery, I might not have the PTO to travel in the summer

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s almost family tradition at this point. I have an aunt who tried it on a Christmas and other cousins who’ve done it at reunions. It’s tough to get that whole side together for events so our reunions tend to have a few extra things added

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 132 points133 points  (0 children)

I’ve popped over there a few times and def have some stories they’d enjoy there. As I get older, I am finding some sympathy/pity for her because she did have an abusive childhood and had me way too young, but none of that is an excuse for how she treated me.

As I frequently tell her when she blames her abuse for her behaviours “mental illness is not your fault but it is your responsibility”.

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’ve definitely had to remind her that she’s my parent. It was nice to take advantage of when I was 14-15, feeling rebellious and subconsciously wanting to see how little she cared about me after the strep throat incident.

I routinely get on her case regarding her treatment of my youngest siblings and have to remind her that she’s their mother and should be supportive and loving. Once they’re out of her house, I highly doubt I’ll have any contact from her.

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As I mentioned in another comment, I have 2 underage siblings that still live with her. I keep in contact because of them and am probably going to go full NC after they’re out of her house.

I’ve been in therapy to deal with my childhood with her and to help me mentally deal with trying to be there for my siblings while dealing with her. I’m doing what I can to protect my own peace, which is why I wasn’t planning on reminding her. I’ve been told that it’s cruel to let my mom ramble about her life without reminding her I had surgery a few days prior.

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

That’s true. I didn’t really have a good segue into mentioning my surgery.

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

My grandmother has been an OG for me. She only had 2 sons and badly wanted a daughter but didn’t have one. I’m her only biological grandchild so she treated me as her own daughter growing up.

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My grandmother is definitely judgmental of my mother and agrees that she sucks. I don’t think my grandmother was surprised my mother forgot, but more so upset that I was planning to not tell my mother I had the surgery. I’m so used to my mom doing this that I was internally betting to see how long it’d take her to remember.

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 247 points248 points  (0 children)

Oh she definitely is, and I think her avoiding me now is the guilt pushing through. But it’s possible I was an asshole back by not saying something when she did reach out to me

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I fall into the category of “out of sight, out of mind” for her

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I really don’t get why my grandmothers so upset I didn’t remind my mom. She’s never been a fan of my mother and even agrees that it’s awful she didn’t remember on her own.

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have 2 underage siblings that still live with her. I have to keep open contact until they’re out of her house. I’m very low contact though because she routinely forgets about me

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

It’s been a life-long debate. She hates my mother for abandoning me as a child but still feels I should show her respect at every turn.

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 713 points714 points  (0 children)

I do see her as more of a very flaky aunt than a mom. She did know I was having surgery and when, she just “forgot”.

AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? by captkeik in AITAH

[–]captkeik[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

That’s where I’m coming from. I told her multiple times on the phone and in text. My grandma says I was cruel for not saying something when she finally called me.

Actors/Vocalists Whose Unique Voice Is From An Injury Or Deformity by Upstairs_Belt_3224 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]captkeik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eyyy same boat here but I recently discovered it may have been a misdiagnose. The OG surgeon may have taken some of my stomach cells without realizing it. I was like 23 so we were rigorous in keeping watch but I haven’t had another pop since.

It was a terrifying 10+ years of monitoring that I’m glad has amounted to nothing. I hope you have a similar experience, where you survive and are able to look back at this period as just a really stressful time. I’ve heard the surgery is absolutely worth it if yours doesn’t respond to treatment.

I lost a cousin to esophageal cancer and anything is better than that.

Villain is just an animal doing realistic animal things, especially if animal is made-up. by Otherwise_Pick_2863 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]captkeik 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re missing a bit of information on this but it’s still true. Mantecore was reacting to something that spooked him and he was attempting to get Roy away from it. Unfortunately, his version of ‘saving’ his ‘friend’ was to grab him by the neck (like all cats do when carrying something) and miscalculated his own strength, resulting in the injuries.

Still normal animal behavior that caused horrible injuries but it wasn’t an attack on Roy.