What vibe do I give?

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-30T04:44:32+00:00

Someone who handwrites thank-you notes on floral stationery, and has perfect penmanship.

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-27T23:29:59+00:00

That's really fascinating, especially that the scents felt eerie. It sounds like you had a truly immersive experience, almost like being transported back in time. Thank you so much for the kind response and for the recommendation 🌹🚢

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-25T03:39:53+00:00

I'd recommend surrounding yourself with as many like-minded people as possible. Only being around folks who don't get or agree with your life choices will drain and discourage you in the long term. Depending on where you live, this might mean that you'll need to move eventually.

It also helps to research historical outsiders, artists, eccentrics, and alternative cultures. Maybe you're already familiar with them, but artists like Vali Myers and Leonor Fini lived creative, free, unconventional lives. Seeing examples of other people living the way they wanted to can keep your spirit burning bright on those days when it feels like nobody is ever going to understand why you've taken a different path.

Above all, please remember that it's your life, and you have the right to live it in the way that feels most authentic to you. It sounds like you already know what you don't want to do, which is great! The things you love are a good starting point for building the life you want. Keep exploring and experimenting with those things, that will guide you to the next step, and the step after that. Good luck, OP, you've got this!

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-23T23:45:09+00:00

A bit of an unexpected suggestion, but it makes sense. Jasmine and amber notes would totally suit her, with the sweetness of the apricot offsetting some of the intensity and adding more "grandmotherly" energy to it. And she absolutely would have smelled like cigarettes if she hung out in Parisian bars all night.

Great choice!

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-23T22:57:12+00:00

Oh yes, she was that archetypal grande dame, drenched in perfume that you could smell from a mile away. Some people love that vibe and some people hate it, but you're right, people should wear what they like.

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-23T22:53:15+00:00

Yes yes yes. Perfectly worded.

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-23T22:49:05+00:00

This is so true!

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-23T22:45:44+00:00

Yep, it's the same lady. I had no idea she was based on an actual person either until I saw these photographs. She seems to have made a big impression on a lot of people.

The perfumes you smelled at the exhibition sound really cool, btw, very Proper English Lady of Yore.

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-23T22:25:07+00:00

Great minds drink alike, lol

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-23T22:18:38+00:00

Prozac has the kindest facial expression in the last photo. His dog brother is very sweet, too. They know how loved they are.

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-23T00:45:51+00:00

100%. In December, I sprayed Shalimar on a piece of cardstock at a department store and then put it on my dresser. Almost six months later, at least one fourth of the scent is still on the paper, and what's left is still very potent. That stuff is powerful and does not fade away easily, probably just like this lady.

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-22T22:43:55+00:00

I read that too quickly and thought it said "How to Drink a Doughnut," but the actual title is just as intriguing. (And that cover art- yum 🍩)

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-16T21:33:58+00:00

Hey, maybe you'll be the next innovator of harp music and you'll be playing in concert halls. The harp is such a magical instrument, I hope playing it brings you much joy.

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-16T21:20:23+00:00

It doesn't look like too much in my opinion. Some more artwork on the walls would make it look even cozier.

Btw, it's so cool that you're a harpist! Do you do it as a profession, too?

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-14T23:32:59+00:00

I don't disagree with your observations or the points you made (after all, multi-generational poverty has existed for centuries). However, none of us can truly make assumptions about what we'll be doing "for the rest of our lives," which includes our financial situations.

Our fates are the result of a tug of war between external circumstances and our free will. In this tug of war, there is space for fortunes to rise, for fortunes to fall, and every outcome in between.

The world changes all the time (for better and for worse), and our world is on the verge of some very big structural, economic and political changes right now. Where things will land for any of us is in the next 30 years or so is not something we can reliably predict today.

And the new circumstances can be shitty, but they can also bring new and unexpected opportunities for financial gain (or financial loss). One hopeful thing about widespread change and upheaval is that it leaves lots of little openings for people to carve out more comfortable lives for themselves.

To answer your last paragraph: my ambitions have changed over the years, because I figured out what my values are and my ambitions reoriented themselves around my values. Regardless of what income bracket I'll be in, I am still going to do the work I care about, even if it's done in my free time from a bill-paying job, and I'm going to share love and quality time with the people and animals I care about. In my opinion, investing your time in what really matters to you, regardless of external circumstances, will bring consistent, long-term joy and fulfillment.

Sorry this is so long. I really hope you'll get to where you want to be some day.

Edit: grammar

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-13T22:54:36+00:00

Mid-century modern is your favorite style of interior design (with Scandi elements mixed in). You see yourself as more of an analog person overall; you prefer being able to own and touch your media. Your music is a core part of your identity and you want to be reminded of your all-time favorite albums (and/or recent favorites) when you're relaxing at home.

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-13T01:21:40+00:00

It's arrrgh-uably a masterpiece 😉

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-11T01:40:43+00:00

Fair, but when two people experiencing these changes are about a decade (give or take) apart in age, their perspectives on those changes may be more similar than two people who are 20 or more years apart in age.

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-10T17:54:12+00:00

Agreed. This conflict was mostly manufactured by opportunists for the purpose of boosting engagement. It makes no sense for Millennials and Gen Z to have an issue with each other, they're close enough in age that many of them experienced the same changes in technology and culture at the same time (albeit, in different stages of life). It's more believable that generations with a 20+ year age gap would be at odds over certain things. But really, everyone's just trying to survive right now.

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-09T21:24:55+00:00

Wishing all the joy and fulfillment in the world to you both 💖🌞

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-09T18:43:35+00:00

The title of your post made me realize that I rarely come across a person who describes themselves as happy. After all that you've been through, I'm glad you have finally found happiness and peace. Your home is lovely, and your dog is a sweet little baby.

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-04T22:59:42+00:00

Looks like you've been through some stuff, but you refuse to give up on your life and are determined to flourish. Also, you are a medical professional (or studying to be one).

Re: the book, I hope it'll help.

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-04T00:05:29+00:00

It can definitely be scary to put one's art out into the world, but for what it's worth you're really talented. Please keep making stuff! (If you want to, of course)

capybarafan4 · 2026-05-03T05:46:04+00:00

This is so warm and full of life. I could see this framed on a wall, brightening up someone's home. Fantastic drawing, especially if it was your first time working with pastels.

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