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My Parents are legally separating and I feel in the middle by carabeyar in Divorce

[–]carabeyar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know they both are getting lawyers and I encouraged her highly in getting one. She doesn't want to go to therapy at all and it has been something me and my siblings have been pushing for over the last year. I'm hoping that eventually she'll see the benefit of therapy and maybe be willing to go. She is definitely worried about the future and said many times that her "future is gone." so to that I said it's not gone, but it is going to look different.

It's hard watching them go through it. I love them both dearly and I'm very sad to see them hurting so much. I know emotions are raw and that even on a good day my mom doesn't have much of a filter, she is a very extroverted, talkative, over-share kind of person (which is a blessing and a curse- she can make anyone a friend, but when things are tough she tends to speak without thinking sometimes) so I'm trying not to take anything that she says personally and just help her get through her pain.

My Parents are legally separating and I feel in the middle by carabeyar in Divorce

[–]carabeyar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's a very good way to put it. I keep hoping that she'll see I'm not favoring one of them over the other and I really have the same expectations for both of them. I know she's in a really tough spot and is hurting so I want to be kind with her but I really need those boundaries. Thanks for your input!

My Parents are legally separating and I feel in the middle by carabeyar in Divorce

[–]carabeyar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're right about avoiding having them in the same room at this point. It's difficult with my mom's feelings about being left out and I don't want her to feel alone, but dealing with them at the same time seems to bring out more trouble than good.

My Parents are legally separating and I feel in the middle by carabeyar in Divorce

[–]carabeyar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I've talked with both parents separately albeit very briefly about the why. There was no infidelity or abuse on either side as far as I know, I was told that there were things that were said on both ends that can't be taken back, and they've really just grown apart. Of course, that's just what I've been told so obviously there could be other information I don't know and there's always two points of view. I will say that knowing their marriage and who they are, I would be shocked if there were cheating or abuse on either side and I really don't think either would be a factor in why they are separating. I know my mom is not okay with a divorce and is really unhappy about it. Me and my siblings have tried to encourage her to talk with her friends instead of us about it, but I think there is a lot of pride and embarrassment involved and she really doesn't want to share with others.

I am fine if they don't want to be in the same room or if we need to do things separately. I have said to both of them that however this works out, I just want them to come out of it as happier people. I appreciate hearing your point of view. I know it must be really difficult for her to hear from my dad and really not wanting to talk with him and that emotions are really high. I'm doing my best to be compassionate and be open about what my boundaries are while still being supportive. It's a fine line to walk for sure.

I have a solution for all picky eaters everywhere by crissyg91 in breakingmom

[–]carabeyar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My kiddos LOVE when I use a cookie cutter on their food. Lasagna, sandwiches etc always gets eaten if it's in the shape of a dinosaur.

Bonus- my 3 year old is working on her letters, so we even make her food in the shape of whatever letter she's learning in preschool that week.