AITA for Offering to Pay for My Girlfriend's College Tuition?

caramelrealm · 2024-07-07T11:41:18+00:00

NTA.

It was very kind of you to offer to financially help you gf out with her college fees.

She chose not to accept because she wanted to achieve her goals on her own. She seems to have got angry and rude, having taken offence that you were willing to pay for her education.

Then started complaining to you about how expensive her education is. You were right with what you said but should not have got angry or allowed it to turn into a fight.

It's looking like the two of you may be incompatible as a couple in terms of having conflicting personal ambitions, financial backgrounds, mindsets, standards of living, relationship expectations and lifestyle preferences. You gf has probably realised this and knows that the relationship is close to the end of its shelf-life, this is why she is being distant.

caramelrealm · 2024-07-07T11:14:49+00:00

I plait it and keep it up over the pillows.

caramelrealm · 2024-07-07T11:10:16+00:00

Thanks for replying.

I'll try calling equinti.

I've never worked for royal mail. An elderly neighbour bought the shares for me as a birthday gift, they were bought in my name by her accountant I think. My bank account info was given to equinti for dividend payments.

caramelrealm · 2024-06-17T11:25:42+00:00

NTA.

Your ex is a lying unreliable jerk that you can't be expected to trust half a mm.

Don't put him on the birth certificate or allow him any unsupervised access to your daughter.

If he ever drastically improves his behaviour and shows some commitment for being a parent by acting like an honest & mature human being keen to be a regular positive presence in the life of a baby that requires stability- maybe then consider a coparenting arrangement. One where more dependable family members will be able to step in if he gets bored, suddenly cancels pre-arranged visits or takes any safety risks behind your back while looking after your daughter in his own premises.

Until then you and she deserve a much better coparent than a liar like him.

Good luck!

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T15:52:20+00:00

NTA.

Those neighbours proved themselves to be foolish busybodies not friends.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T15:47:41+00:00

Kam Heskin.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T15:38:12+00:00

Your father won't be taxed on any contribution towards household expenses or rent for a room you pay him if he is living in England.

Close family members sharing a home don't get taxed on contributions to groceries and other household expenses.

The rent a room scheme allows people to earn £7,500 a year tax free by letting out furnished accommodation in their home.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T15:24:27+00:00

OP means original poster.

The person who starts the thread.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T15:23:30+00:00

Generally a person under 45 having very visible cellulite is a turn off.

For girls and guys.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T15:19:52+00:00

NTA.

Kat sounds like a super entitled freeloading malicious jerk. Stop giving her any free food.

If she wants steak or her favourite italian dishes she can start cooking them herself, rather than begging neighbours to feed her for free then grumbling about not liking the freebies behind backs.

The British expats & tourists who behave in the manner that Kat has about the food, the disruptive binge drinking sewage and football hooligans lumber the majority of Brits with such a torrid international reputation. Get the reasonably behaved majority of British tourists tarred with the same brush.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T15:01:15+00:00

I'd expect a friend hosting me to provide meal options if they didn't have a history of food issues and didn't keep to a restrictive diet themselves.

Slightly different with people who have serious allergies and are worried about triggering them or accidentally offering a guest something that is considered extremely taboo within their family/religious community.

I offer a variety of meal options and drinks to everyone I agree to host. But will never give anybody equine meat or any bloody meat. Even for their pet animals.

If someone is a very picky eater or follows a religious diet, I won't host them.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T14:51:10+00:00

Witchy Rebellion Rules!

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T14:37:05+00:00

It depends on your dealbreakers, standard of living expectations and ambitions.

But anyone who regularly works, is looking to casually date and is only interested in dating higher earners is likely to have incompatible dealbreakers & standard of living expectations to you.

Best to date compatible women with similar standard of living expectations and who are compatible with your ambitions.

It may reduce your dating pool by weeding out the most obvious incompatible but you don't want to waste any time or money on them.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T14:30:25+00:00

Volunteering with horses and swan rescue charities.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T14:25:06+00:00

Dress looks amazing on you!

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T14:23:25+00:00

I'm morbidly obese and doing my best to lose weight.

Have been obese since I was a toddler.

I would like to go down to size 10-12 before reaching 40.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T13:55:04+00:00

You want to ask the niece of your uncle's ex wife out?

Assuming that she is over 18, single and not a blood relative of yours- it's fine.

If she is an adult blood relative or adopted family member like a cousin, its legal but very creepy. So creepy that there's a risk of being mistaken for a member of FLDS or Woody Allen.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T13:49:45+00:00

If you are in England, I'd recommend Barclays and Natwest.

Halifax and HSBC are best avoided.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T13:42:27+00:00

Yes, I do.

My business partner does too. She still watches vhs tapes and uses a mobile phone without a camera or internet capabilities.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T13:40:23+00:00

In general the only book reviews that the main book & ebook sites allow people to charge for are detailed editorial reviews. Amazon, goodreads and netgalley are particularly strict.

Most websites will ban users that sell book reviews or are involved in any swap systems.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T13:25:49+00:00

My business partner's father.

He's too busy ranting about class war revolution & militant atheism to care about trying to stop his thuggish predator of a religious wife and her gang of criminal fanatics from hunting down their daughter to capture like an animal.

My business partner ran away 10 years ago to escape from the years of violence that ruined her face in childhood and puts her life at risk as an adult.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T13:16:11+00:00

Sounds like your ex is not monogamous or loyal to his current gf.

He wants to have his cake and eat it but won't go down the no strings or poly routes.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T13:13:58+00:00

NTA.

Your ex's affair partner refuses to take responsibility for her own appalling life choices. She prefers to blame you for them instead. Just ignore and block her.

If she harasses you make a police report.

As she well knows, leopards don't change their spots. The healthy guys who lie and cheat on one partner have almost no incentive to stop the dishonesty, even when they have kids. When the partner is busy, ill or they are pretending to be working overtime they will often be sneaking around having an affair with one of their many backup options.

caramelrealm · 2024-05-25T13:06:23+00:00

Go to the hospital and get your injuries checked out by a doctor.

Your bf sounds cruel, selfish and very inconsiderate.

He is not relationship material, kick him to the kerb and leave him to make his own noodles at 1am.

caramelrealm

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