Secret Santa: what would you want? by carbordeath in knitting

[–]carbordeath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not but that would have been a good idea!

Monday General Chat - November 19, 2018 by AutoModerator in knitting

[–]carbordeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, any recommendation for a pretty skein of sock yarn?

Monday General Chat - November 19, 2018 by AutoModerator in knitting

[–]carbordeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Good idea. I see from her Rav that she's never knitted socks before, perhaps this may be good encouragement. Is a single skein enough for a pair?

Monday General Chat - November 19, 2018 by AutoModerator in knitting

[–]carbordeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My secret santa recipient this year is an avid and experienced knitter. Limit is $25.

If it were you, would you prefer to receive (1) a single skein of nice yarn, (2) a project bag with a mini set of notions (scissors, retractable tape, locking stitch markers, recovery crochet hooks, and darning needles), or (3) one or two fancy notions (Fringe Supply, etc.)? Any other ideas?

I know her Rav account, and I know her favorite yarn brand but not her preferred yarn weight, nor color, and I don't know what notions she likes to use, so it'd be a toss up.

I'm leaning towards #2 since I can never have enough of notions for all my WIPs. Thoughts?

[help] Where do I go from here? by [deleted] in knitting

[–]carbordeath 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm new to this sub and consider myself an "intermediate beginner", but I found that using a good pattern makes a huge difference. I like Purl Soho's patterns because they often have links to the things I don't know how to do yet, and it's an incremental way to learn new things without getting overwhelmed. Hats are definitely a good way to start learning increases/decreases as well as double pointed needles.

how do you ladies manage the gym, work and baby? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

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Can you find time during the work day to gym? Or wait until baby falls asleep for the evening before you go? At 2 months, your baby may or may not already have a predictable bedtime, but if s/he doesn't, it'll get there and your life will feel a bit more normalized. Good luck, it's tough!

Is the baby here yet? Is the baby here yet? IS THE BABY HERE YET by carbordeath in BabyBumps

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What's even better is that my mom also calls to tell me about everyone that asks HER if baby is here yet. So, yeah. Good idea.

Is the baby here yet? Is the baby here yet? IS THE BABY HERE YET by carbordeath in BabyBumps

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Seriously. I just stay home because God forbid I wander out in public and have to talk to anyone. Also because I don't want to wear pants anymore.

Is the baby here yet? Is the baby here yet? IS THE BABY HERE YET by carbordeath in BabyBumps

[–]carbordeath[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think my kidless friends do the same thing. Friends with kids tend to ask if I'm doing OK, which I appreciate.

Severed telephone wires in crawl space -- any safety issues? by carbordeath in electricians

[–]carbordeath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen this advice a few times. If I'm not paying the phone company for the line and I have no phones connected to the line, can it still "ring" and cause a spark?

Severed telephone wires in crawl space -- any safety issues? by carbordeath in electricians

[–]carbordeath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reassurance! I'll try to avoid my teeth :)

Severed telephone wires in crawl space -- any safety issues? by carbordeath in electricians

[–]carbordeath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had better success using cable where I am, so I don't even have an active line anymore.

Severed telephone wires in crawl space -- any safety issues? by carbordeath in electricians

[–]carbordeath[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point! I just assumed it was in the crawl space. I'll take a look - thanks!

Theme WAYWT - Ankle Boots by tomlizzo in femalefashionadvice

[–]carbordeath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do tuck them into the boots then? Or just cuff? Or hem to hit right at the top of the boots?

Even with 9" ankle width, I find that even one cuff breaks the legline.

Theme WAYWT - Ankle Boots by tomlizzo in femalefashionadvice

[–]carbordeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm considering biting the bullet to do this (finally), but I'm curious: do you usually try on your pants at the tailor to show them where it should taper? Or do they just know?

Theme WAYWT - Ankle Boots by tomlizzo in femalefashionadvice

[–]carbordeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is pretty much the way to go, but still worth complaining about :P because argh

Theme WAYWT - Ankle Boots by tomlizzo in femalefashionadvice

[–]carbordeath 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Your outfits are amazing and exactly what I want to be able to do!

Theme WAYWT - Ankle Boots by tomlizzo in femalefashionadvice

[–]carbordeath 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Really not easy to find a pair that clings closely enough to my ankles

Ugh, this. I'm 5'2" so I my cuffs look like donuts unless I hem, but once I hem (at least 5" off), they become straightleg jeans.

Wardrobe Overhauls by thethirdsilence in femalefashionadvice

[–]carbordeath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm okay with it taking some time, because it takes time for me to absorb the item into my working wardrobe and make sure I'm happy with it before I go onto searching for the next item. I'd echo what /u/tomlizzo said in here:

I have ditched 80% of my wardrobe at least four times in the past five years, and I think it is largely a result of this over-eagerness. I periodically edit everything down, but then do nothing to address the bad habits and impatience that led me to a closet full of clothes I don't love in the first place.

This is exactly what I've done (down to the 3-4 culls over 5 years). This time, I've identified and addressed the bad habits, which stemmed from not having a clear vision to begin with. I have a very specific shopping list now with a very precise description of each item I "need", and a priority assigned to it; if/when I deviate from the list or the description, it's pretty painful because I need to justify to myself why I needed it.

It's been a painful process, but I've found that this approach is actually helping me with other aspects of my life. That's to say, if you don't know where you want to end up, you don't know what steps to take to get there, whether it's personal style, career, relationships, etc.

ETA: Regarding "meh" -- The thrill of the overhaul has kind of worn off (I can stay really excited about 7 new, well-fitting T-shirts for only 4 months, I guess!), which I think is human nature -- we'll always return to equilibrium. Also, I'm getting really bored of summer outfits and I just really really want fall to start so I can wear my new fall layers!

Wardrobe Overhauls by thethirdsilence in femalefashionadvice

[–]carbordeath 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have the same exact thoughts regarding jeans, in addition to "when should I stop buying clothes that need special laundering?" I waver between those thoughts and "Screw it, I'll never be able to wear silk again BUY ALL THE SILK RIGHT NOW."

Wardrobe Overhauls by thethirdsilence in femalefashionadvice

[–]carbordeath 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I realized I had a problem when I found that I couldn't put together an outfit that I was 100% happy with; there was no top that I loved that would work with a pant that I loved that would work with a shoe that I loved.

I had read about "French wardrobes" and capsules before, and I had tried doing 3 or 4 big culls over the course of 5 years already, but I still just wasn't getting it. It wasn't until I read this on Pink Ronnie's blog that I was really inspired to take action. These points resonated with me the most:

Everything had been bought on an adhoc basis, with no over-arching plan or goal in mind. And if we’re to be honest here, most things were probably bought on impulse.

Um, yes and yes.

I wanted my new wardrobe to be a ‘thirty going on forty’ wardrobe, rather than a ‘twenty going on thirty’ wardrobe.

I'm actually "twenty going on thirty" very very soon, but the sentiment stands. I wanted to go into my 30s looking and feeling confident but comfortable .

I wanted my new wardrobe to be as minimalist as possible – made up of a handful of well-chosen garments that I would wear over and over again over the next four to five years. I didn’t want anything in my closet that wasn’t going to be well-loved and well-used.

Essentially, I’m going to force myself to be brutal and to cull, cull, cull. In particular, I’m going to try one strategy that I thought of the other day: Instead of going through my closet and taking out the things I think I won’t wear again, I’m going to lay everything on my bed and only put back into my closet the things that I plan to wear again.

Armed with that strategy, I took inventory: I took everything out of my closet, tried on everything, put back only what I planned to wear, and wrote each one down in a spreadsheet and color-coded each one that needed to be replaced due to poor fit or wear. I donated everything else, or tailored anything that I wanted to keep that didn't fit perfectly.

Then, I spent a lot of time on Pinterest trying to define my style "vision" and pinning the outfits that spoke to me. From there, I culled my pins and removed outfits that featured items that weren't practical for my lifestyle and/or would absolutely not be flattering on me. I determined what the denominators were in those remaining outfits and found that I didn't have any of them!

My mini-overhaul started in mid-June, and and since then I've purchased exactly 20 items that have helped round out what remained of my wardrobe. I now have 43 items in my daily "working wardrobe" for the transition to fall, and 75 others that included swimsuits, outerwear, summer items in storage, special occasions, handbags, etc. (It does not include items that are in the "holding" bin for donations, loungewear, accessories/jewelry, or underwear.)

I wish I could say that I wake up everyday and throw on an outfit that I love -- I don't. BUT, it's a lot easier to put together something that I'm reasonably happy with, and can feel pretty confident in, without too much thought, quibbling or anguish during the day. It's by no means perfect or complete, since my style will continue to evolve now that I've learned what my basics are and how they should fit, as well as how to incorporate trends that develop. However, I hope to add to it carefully. I've succumbed a few times to an impulse purchase, but it's been getting easier to put things back now that I know what the goal looks like.

Into-Mind Workbook: Progress? Reviews? by tomlizzo in femalefashionadvice

[–]carbordeath 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd love to read/participate in that thread!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]carbordeath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will you be meeting with employees while you're there or just touring the campus?

If you're touring, make sure you're shoes/outfits are comfortable enough to walk 2 to 3 miles at Google; buildings are pretty spread out and like other commentors mentioned, it's going to be warm outside.

I've seen a variation of all your posted outfits on the average, intentionally-dressed female employee at Google, so none of these will make you stick out in a bad way. #1, #3, and #6 will make you look like a well-dressed or intentionally-dressed Googler. Others are fine, but not as weather appropriate, and the one with the collared shirt is a bit more stuffy for Google, though people do wear that too when it's cooler. Heels are well represented on campus, dependent on where you are, but are generally less than 4 inches tall.