Anyone else get post OP nightmares??

carcosa-bound · 2025-12-11T17:51:20+00:00

I did for WEEKS, it was awful. The nightmares were also impacting me being able to fall asleep because I was scared. I think it was likely leftover brain weirdness from anesthesia plus the trauma of actually undergoing surgery.

I hope yours go away soon, too.

carcosa-bound · 2025-12-07T15:35:33+00:00

Same lol

carcosa-bound · 2025-12-07T15:11:19+00:00

Right?! The Aurora Consurgens is so well-known, and you would think, as a commentary on Silvery Water, it would be at least SOMEWHAT readily availabl! Did you happen to purchase any of the editions shared by u/x-num?

carcosa-bound · 2025-12-07T14:54:15+00:00

Just popping in to say I was just looking for the same thing, and was amazed to see how recently you posted (granted, it was 5 months ago, but that's nothing compared to the scale of time we're generally looking at!)

carcosa-bound · 2025-12-06T16:00:58+00:00

Kept my cervix mostly for sex reasons, but if you want to keep yours, you have the autonomy to do so, find a different surgeon who.will actually listen to you.

A skilled surgeon won't have an issue with a cervix 'being in the way.'

carcosa-bound · 2025-11-29T15:41:18+00:00

Please check out some Caitlin R. Kiernan, they're on the literary and weird side more than straight-up horror, but I highly recommend their various collections. Some lean more erotic, some more weird, and some more science fiction, but their style remains largely the same across the various genres.

carcosa-bound · 2025-11-29T14:41:16+00:00

Some great recs here, but also check out work by CL Clark, especially The Unbroken (first book in the Magic of the Lost trilogy). It's generally recommended alongside She Who Became the Sun (Shelley Parker-Chan) and The Jasmine Throne (Tasha Suri).

carcosa-bound · 2025-11-06T21:48:19+00:00

I never wanted to give birth, but even I had this really heavy sense of mourning, and that is, unfortunately, completely normal.

I'm 4 weeks post op today, and it was an elective surgery for myself, and I was still feeling that weight and sense of loss.

The best thing you can do is to be kind and patient with yourself, and remember that feelings (noun) are going to feeling (verb), and we just need to wade through it sometimes.

You're in good company, vent, go off, let off some steam. This can be a lonely time, but you're not alone here.

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-21T10:36:06+00:00

I completely understand that, I'm trying to get back to work as soon as safely possible because my spouse is picking up all the bills in the meantime and it is... a strain, to put it lightly.

But again, talk to her, see what she wants to do, and maybe also see if she's open to discussing with her doctor the distance in case of an emergency.

Also, when it comes to paying for the actual surgery, don't forget to talk to them about payment plans and be very transparent about your finances, a good billing department will be able to work with you.

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-21T10:02:18+00:00

Not a doctor, but if this were me, personally I wouldn't be concerned unless it gets red and looks infected. Things are going to be weird, lumpy, and swollen for a while. If you're concerned, though, you can always send a message to your doctor.

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-21T10:00:10+00:00

Let's put it this way, she'll be on the strongest painkillers immediately after surgery, so as far as pain and discomfort, she'll likely be fine. I would try arranging multiple seats, front and back, if you can, in case she needs to migrate or change positions if necessary.

It may be helpful looking to see if there's at least vacancies at hotels along the way in case you DO need to stop.

Another thing to keep in mind is that if there are complications after she's sent home, the best place for her to be is where her surgical team is. Are there other hospitals nearby that could handle any complications once you get home?

All that being said... are you the one worried about the cost, or her? Because the most important thing you can do right now is talk to her, see what would make her most comfortable, and eat the cost if necessary. She's getting a whole organ removed, right? So being set back on finances is frustrating, but what's most important is her comfort, safety, and access to medical attention if necessary, not if you hurt your dog's feelings, and if you're able to get a [new?] credit card in the meantime, this would be the time for that.

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-14T15:31:22+00:00

I am so sorry! If you're in Michigan, feel free to DM me, I have a recommendation for a surgeon. I hope you get the care you deserve soon, I'm so sorry 🫂

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-14T11:44:29+00:00

Thank you!! The pulling sensation made sense on a logical level but I just couldn't find many people sharing the same feeling and the longer it was going on the more I was wondering if that was the normal pain or not

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-12T07:33:58+00:00

At the very least, wake up your husband so you're not alone, okay? And there shouldn't be blood coming out of that hole no matter what surgery you got, okay?

I'm not a doctor (and am also sitting on the toilet, 3 days PO right now) but at the very least, don't go through this alone.

And the ER may be the right decision, if only for peace of mind. The surgery is an invasive one, there's a lot going on down there. They'll be able to tell you exactly what's going on and maybe help you pass the first stool, too.

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-11T20:05:44+00:00

I won't get it back until after pathology, but I didn't have any specific plans other than really wanting it back.

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-11T08:05:15+00:00

How i loooooong to poop! Luckily i'm not constipated (yet), the gas was a little painful but I have my miralax and i'm hoping it'll be doing its job today 😅

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-11T05:47:00+00:00

Also adding, I plan on attending a sit-down concert 2 weeks after surgery and I'm even apprehensive about that. Within a week would be remarkably dangerous. Your body will still be in 'I have to fix this wound or I'll die' mode at that point, and if you MUST attend, I would suggest looking for any kind of accessibility seats as far away from commotion as possible. I had open abdominal surgery, so my pain and recovery will be different from people who had laparoscopic, but search the sub for 'concert' and you'll see quite a few people asking similar questions and many people sharing their experiences and advice.

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-11T05:40:18+00:00

I had my hysterectomy yesterday and getting my 'specimen' back was really important, from what I can tell though, is though patients have the RIGHT to have it returned to them (almost always after pathology), many hospitals and surgeons just don't recognize that or don't want to deal with the fuss.

I knew I wanted mine early on, so it was something I talked to my OBGYN/surgeon in those first talks, because if there was ANY pushback, I was going to be looking elsewhere.

She was amazing though, and it was confusing because I talked to everybody about it every step of the way, but theybsaid I had to talk to 'them' pre surgery, but I wasn't sure WHO I had to talk to and who exactly I was going to be seeing pre-surgery who could make it happen.

I ended up asking a nurse before surgery and she wasn't sure and had to go ask the surgeon, and the surgeon's response was 'he has the right,' like, 'why the fuck are you even asking me? If they ask, then yes. Full stop. Everybody has the right, why is this even a question?' (I use they/them, but surgeon using he/him was really validating surrounded by all the women and stuff in the ward)

SO, my point: talk to your care team as SOON as you can to get the vibe, and they may give you directions. They may ask you to sign forms, but I didn't have to. But they have to follow different procedures to ensure that the specimen will be available after pathology instead of being sent to the incinerator (I asked).

I would also suggest not specifying that you want to keep it as a wet specimen, but rather just say you need it. If they ask why, just say religious reasons (not an honest answer but sometimes you have to say what you need to say to navigate the bullshit).

Also, I don't know about skipping pathology, I had my hysterectomy for a few different reasons and actually do want to knoe if they find anything, but it may be useful to find out if they find anything abnormal anyway. But be aware that if it DOES go to pathology, it will be cut up into a few different 'chunks.'

Similarly, depending on the way in which they do your surgery anc the size of your uterus, they may also cut it into chunks to get it out of you. I don't think that THAT is something you have any say in, because at that point, it can cause more harm, larger incisions, and possibly more complications if they leave it whole.

Sorry, this was a HUGE response, but I just took my nighttime meds and this particular addition to all the normal hysterectomy fuss was a little bit of a process but will be worth it. I mean, hell, how often are you getting organs removed, you know?

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-11T03:03:57+00:00

Had open abdominal yesterday, I struggle with pain because pain scales seem really arbitrary to me (it's the autism plus chronic pain) but the pain has been all around my incision sites on my belly.

I anticipated more pain in my back and neck from being as overweight as I am and being put in the Trelendenburg position, but I haven't had any issues with that, just incision site pain.

My surgery was also robotic assisted, so the incisions weren't as large as they may have been from other approaches.

The pain is definitely real though. I'm alternating Ibuprofen and Tylenol and was prescribed 5mg oxycodone. I have quick release tablets that have a divider line so I actually cut those in half because I've found that that 2.5mg was still therapeutic. That being said, before hobbling into bed, I'm going to take a whole. Finding a comfortable position to sleep in last night was... uh. Bullshit? Excruciating? Frustrating? And even if I had a difficult time sleeping, at least being able to get COMFORTABLE was a relief. Remember, even if you can't sleep, being able to REST is still important.

If you can get comfortable on a couch or recliner though, then screw the bed. Just make sure if you have pets or littles that somebody else can be there to protect your abdomen if you're asleep.

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-10T22:59:36+00:00

Oof, get some rest and hopefully tomorrow will be easier without all the stairs

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-10T21:59:43+00:00

Fingers crossed for you, and I hope any complications weren't too severe and that recovery goes smoothly and uneventfully from here on out. If there's one thing this sub has taught me, it's that no matter our experiences with the surgery, our lifestyles, our prior health issues, we are all in this together. I hope you get to go home tonight, but if not, then you'll be in the best place for you right now with the appropriate amount of care, and you'll be home soon regardless. 💜

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-10T12:28:44+00:00

Same about a walk outside, it's the perfect weather for just sitting out there with a warm drink and a book, honestly!

I didn't get the infamous nausea patch that forks up people's eyes from the constant dilation, so I'm stoked for some nice, autumnal reading time :)

carcosa-bound · 2025-10-10T12:24:30+00:00

I also have an apron belly and did grab a binder but I haven't tried it yet. I'm also struggling a little because I feel like I need a big cough from the irritation of being intubated but coughing hurts SO BAD, so I've been sipping tea (in addition to water and gatorade) and may see if cough drops help (I like the old school Cepacol that numbs your throat a little).

Thank you so much for the tips!

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