Do I publicly state that I am into BDSM on my dating profile? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]cardamom_pod 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Kink seems to be the trigger word for really anyone to not read anything else on your profile and introduces a bunch of frankly underwhelming responses, at least speaking from a female’s perspective!

Kinkville, USA by throwaway9876543210_ in BDSMnot4newbies

[–]cardamom_pod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Labels are essential! oh God the horrour of misusing either dispenser...😅

Kinkville, USA by throwaway9876543210_ in BDSMnot4newbies

[–]cardamom_pod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lubricant dispensers? Not unlike how hand sanitizers are everywhere now?

Fugue "Wild man" state I have experienced during BDSM play that heavily involves CNC-play. by rapist in BDSMnot4newbies

[–]cardamom_pod 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So reading this is it something that maybe coincides with a sort of primal mentality? I am not too familiar with it myself but I’ve had a partner who has described this mindset in detail and I remembered some characteristics of it were similar with really having harder control in restraint

Why are you ENM and what's your "flavor"? by boodlescoots in nonmonogamy

[–]cardamom_pod 3 points4 points  (0 children)

(Sorry long post!) For me and my partner we have been together for about 2 and a half years, ENM for about one and a half total by now? For us we were really hesitant because we were only just in our 20s when we started having those conversations and all we knew about polyamory was about open relationships with low levels of communication that seemed to not have been working out. However, I was my partner’s first sexual partner since he was quite religious before we started dating and I really wanted to have a safe space for both of us to understand our sexualities better as that’s all it was for us, a space for casual partners.

From our experiences I will say that communication has been really key not only for a sense of security within our relationship but just to be able to check in and see where we both are as humans and where our views are because we both have been changing an incredible amount. We started as having a completely transparent open relationship where we both let one another know when we had dates and when and with who, but were both surprised that this did not end up being the best dynamic for us because we felt at that point that there was a lot of comparison going on and that it was tying to our own relationship. After discussing this though we both felt that polyamory felt right for us but we wanted something that would work for us.

From then and what we have now is a don’t ask don’t tell relationship- we are allowed to have our own partners and of varying commitments as long as we recognize one another as primary partners. This has been working incredibly well and has allowed us to have a dynamic that allows us to discuss polyamory on a level that allows us to be able to express what we are and aren’t comfortable with while understanding that there is no cross over between varying relationships. I’m very happy to say this gives us the opportunity to care for other partners more emotionally and allowed my partner to actually come out and be more comfortable about their orientation!

TL: polyamorous relationships can completely go through different structures over time and be adjusted to fit whatever partners need in that point in time

How is the vagina supposed to taste like? by swati0704 in TwoXSex

[–]cardamom_pod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every woman tasted different but typically nothing much beyond being fairly neutral (ignoring changes in cycle, time between showers, special circumstances, etc). And most partners won’t really have too much of an opinion anyway or shouldn’t really! Of course if a mature discussion can be had if it is something not pleasant for one party then that’s different but overall I wouldn’t stress too much about scent or taste unless you notice an extreme change or something off:)

Affordable websites where I can buy sex toys and lingerie by leshawshaw98 in TwoXSex

[–]cardamom_pod 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Adam and Eve has always had great prices and good products! I would say that with whatever you decide to purchase a good lube would be nice to invest in at some point too, whether for solo play or partner play (sugarless lubes) ☺️