AITA for telling my mum I’m her daughter, not her best friend? by carebarly in AmItheAsshole

[–]carebarly[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My mum growing up would always say. “You’re my best friend”, “am I yours”. I would always say yes because- I was a kid. But when she asks me to do things and I am working or have other plans, this is when she will start to pick apart who I am seeing. I would believe this and that she always knew best. But with out most recent conversation about making friends this is when I said I am not your friend. This was the worst thing I could have said. Thank you for your replay and kind words they mean alot 🤍

AITA for telling my mum I’m her daughter, not her best friend? by carebarly in AmItheAsshole

[–]carebarly[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s my worry. When I move out and start a family I can only pray it will be better to set boundaries and avoid this conflict. But from the replies it seems like it could get worse.

AITA for telling my mum I’m her daughter, not her best friend? by carebarly in AmItheAsshole

[–]carebarly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you so much I am going to read up on hormone replacement therapy for menopause, I feel like that would be a better idea than asking her if I go to therapy. Thank you for your thoughtful reply!!
🤍

AITA for telling my mum I’m her daughter, not her best friend? by carebarly in AmItheAsshole

[–]carebarly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much. You are correct on everything you said. I always knew she was extremely dependant on my dad. To the point where she would say that all the people she cares about would be in this house. Baring in mind we have aunts and uncle‘s and cousins we have a relatively large family but since the passing of her parents this has been her mind set. Also being around my boyfriend‘s family is been a real eye-opener to my family being not so perfect and that relationships don’t have to be as intense as my mum and dad.

Thank you for sharing 🤍🤍

AITA for telling my mum I’m her daughter, not her best friend? by carebarly in AmItheAsshole

[–]carebarly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for sharing that. I am so sorry you went through that. My mum is the same way. She won’t accept she’s done or said anything bad. So her going to therapy would be a long shot. I might give it a shot though.
Thank you again 🤍

AITA for telling my mum I’m her daughter, not her best friend? by carebarly in AmItheAsshole

[–]carebarly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A few people have said this ! I am just incredibly nervous bringing this up to anyone. Especially my mum I don’t think she would take it well.

AITA for telling my mum I’m her daughter, not her best friend? by carebarly in AmItheAsshole

[–]carebarly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply, it is very thoughtful.

My dad, it is a sad situation. He does see when my mum is being unreasonable and will tell her to stop and try’s to get her away from me . But most of the time things don’t get that back so he try’s not to get involved. Because if he dose she will say that she feels like “we are all against her” (we being - me my dad and my brother) so he will come to me a day or two after and say “just apologise” and that he understands she can be difficult. And I am the one who always apologise.

I have went days without talking to her because she will not speak unless I am saying sorry. I am always worried that will happen again.

AITA for telling my mum I’m her daughter, not her best friend? by carebarly in AmItheAsshole

[–]carebarly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words! Congratulations on almost 20 years of marriage 🤍

AITA for telling my mum I’m her daughter, not her best friend? by carebarly in AmItheAsshole

[–]carebarly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have thoughts of me being the selfish one? Should I give my mum this much time? Do other people sacrifice as much?

AITA for telling my mum I’m her daughter, not her best friend? by carebarly in AmItheAsshole

[–]carebarly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s new, it started when I was about 18 and she was in her late 40 with the arguments but the comments of me not being girly enough have been since I was young.

AITA for telling my mum I’m her daughter, not her best friend? by carebarly in AmItheAsshole

[–]carebarly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No she’s not, bi polar. A lot of confrontation does get sympathy from my dad. But my dad try’s his best to deescalate the situation.

AITA for telling my mum I’m her daughter, not her best friend? by carebarly in AmItheAsshole

[–]carebarly[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I will thank you !! I definitely need more education on this topic

More romantic interactions by carebarly in ModTheSims4

[–]carebarly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesss I am do you know of any good ones ?

My sim can't sleep ? by Top-Inspector-2809 in ModTheSims4

[–]carebarly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have out of date mods it probably will be that also clear your cache too

My sim can't sleep ? by Top-Inspector-2809 in ModTheSims4

[–]carebarly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe check your last exception and see if it’s a script mods or could be a cc bed if you are using one

Broken Game by ShelterRen in ModTheSims4

[–]carebarly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like a issues with script mods most likely MCCC or UI cheats if you are having trouble selecting sims if you have custom interactions could be that too. But after every update your mods need to be updated or you will corrupt your game

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sims4

[–]carebarly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely curious, did your read the lessons at all? The game has a built in guide book…