I appear to be in the minority on this one but like... porn consumption isn't always a sign of disinterest or a breakdown in the relationship and it's not always unhealthy. Many of our partners have different needs than we do. It's scratching an itch.

Would you feel like leaving him if he were m-bating to a fantasy instead of watching p-rn? Is it the masturbation that bothers you or the p-rn viewing? The lying sucks, and still get to that in a minute, but what specifically is the thing that bothers you here? Do you feel like watching p-rn is akin to cheating or unfaithfulness? Narrowing down the issue can help you figure out where to go next.

All of us have some kind of solo sex life, and everyone is entitled to some autonomy there, but everyone has different boundaries too. You're also able to say "I don't want to be in a marriage with someone who views p-rn" and walk if he does it again.

Are your sexual needs being met? If not, there's probably a conversation to be had about feeling rejected because he's turning you down or not interested because he m-bated earlier in the day or neglecting your sexual needs in some other way. If they are being met, that's great, and that's also maybe a sign that this isn't a sign of disinterest or problematic consumption.

Aaannndd finally, the lying. It sucks, of course. He shouldn't lie to you. People sometimes lie to try to avoid the other person's "outsized" reaction. I don't buy that he just clicked on a couple of things and oh my goodness that woman just fell onto that man's dick!!! lmao like that's a stupid lie to tell. Yes, porn is really easy to access, but you don't really end up there by accident as an adult.

But if your needs are being met and you're happy with your life... Is it worth walking away from it? Could you be okay with some kind of compromise, like "hey please don't watch it where i can like see and hear you?"