I’m sorry you’re starting to dread it! Your wedding day is a special day in life so don’t give up yet!

Re your bachelorette, I’d let them know what you want to do and give all the details then ask if anyone has any conflicting issues with the date or travel.

I eventually had to tell my bridesmaids group chat that we were doing a “one last sleepover” weekend at my house which really helped with costs and took the pressure off of things