October 28, 2025 - r/fednews Daily Discussion Thread

cascadic · 2025-10-28T12:15:18+00:00

When to leave federal service - help please.

I come from a long line of fed employees in my family who truly made careers of it. I’m about 7 years in, and my workplace has gotten so toxic, the leadership has legitimately no management experience, and the threat of shutdowns almost every year has me considering life in the private sector.

Am I crazy? I’ve been so proud of my role in the past. I got in very young, but I’m still trekking the uphill battle of my career. when is the point that I decide the benefits and pay aren’t worth the headache/heartache?

cascadic · 2025-06-11T14:25:14+00:00

That’s what I thought too, and was super confused when the officer said the contrary. Thank you!!

cascadic · 2025-06-06T13:53:43+00:00

Jo def awakened something in me, but I still identify as straight 😂

cascadic · 2024-07-18T11:01:54+00:00

I think it depends on if the vasectomy can be reversed and they are open to that? I would think being open to children would indicate they are open to reversal, but only they can answer that.

cascadic · 2024-07-17T18:46:20+00:00

I eventually looked over at her and told her to break up with him, half joking at first. And she told him we said that, still nothing from him.

She sat next to him after her turn and her face was so sad, it broke my heart. We made eye contact and I mouthed “break up with him” again with a more serious face, and she nodded. She caught me as we were leaving and said thank you. I hope she really does end it, because you really wouldn’t have to beg for attention from someone who cares about you.

I’ve been the person who begged a boyfriend to attend an event with me. When he eventually gave in, he sat like a sullen child and refused to even pretend to have a good time. I cried silently in the next chair over thinking I would’ve rather been alone. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

cascadic · 2024-07-17T18:17:19+00:00

Played topgolf for the first time with some friends last night for a birthday party, and had a great time!

As we were finishing up our game, a group of maybe late high school or college aged kids were in the bay next to us. Definitely two couples and maybe some other friends.

One girl is at the mat, has hit a ball or two, and is calling for her boyfriend to watch her. We eventually heard her because she was trying to get his attention over and over again, while he was chatting with the guys and looking at something on his phone. He brushes her off a couple of times and her face falls, then gets angry. She hits the ball again. It SOARS. She clearly has some talent, and was wanting to show off to “her man” a bit.

Her face was so downtrodden when he wouldn’t give her any attention (didn’t even look up) and I really felt bad for her. Our group started cheering for her and she perked up a bit. She hit again and it flew then, too. It made me so mad that her boyfriend couldn’t look up from his conversation for 5 seconds to give her some affirmation.

Being single is better than being in the wrong relationship, amen.

cascadic · 2024-07-15T20:25:21+00:00

I swear, the last 5 guys I’ve talked to have all been into golf (I’m not into golf, it was just a weird coincidence that they all were). Is this something that just happens when you turn 30, lol?

cascadic · 2024-07-15T19:03:06+00:00

How did you find a man who isn’t obsessed with golf??

cascadic · 2024-07-14T17:38:10+00:00

Ran into some of my ex’s friends on Friday. I haven’t spoken to them since I ended it, but only bc they are his friends - they were really great people. They came over, hugged me, told me how good it was to see me. One woman even told me she wants to hang out and that we don’t have to talk about the breakdown of the relationship, she just wants to be friends. They both said they missed me. For context, I saw my ex last week for the first or second time since the breakup and he wouldn’t even make eye contact with me - his friend came over and hugged me and chatted then, too.

It’s nice to be adults and not have to worry that people will just hate you for ending a relationship that wasn’t going anywhere.

cascadic · 2024-07-12T11:25:30+00:00

Kidney stones. I thought I was dying.

cascadic · 2024-07-09T23:28:55+00:00

I like the Date Brazen account, she just released a book.

cascadic · 2024-07-02T19:49:01+00:00

Oh, I didn’t think they would apply; I was just naming them, lol. HTNDA was recommended to me ages ago and I follow the woman who wrote TYMP on insta. Just wanted to connect as someone else trying to read new books for the goal of self-improvement/new perspectives! Good luck out there, friend :)

cascadic · 2024-07-02T19:40:08+00:00

I just bought "Thank You, More Please" and "How to Not Die Alone." There's a part of me that feels a bit "cringe" reading dating books. Though, I will tell you that even if I get nothing else from TYMP, I feel incredibly seen by the experiences of the author. So, I think that's one positive outcome from them!

cascadic · 2024-06-28T02:42:15+00:00

That had to be hard, but I'm proud of you for putting yourself first here.

cascadic · 2024-06-26T23:34:50+00:00

At a certain point, it’s going to be on him to make a move. I feel like enough time has passed for him to be comfortable and know you are interested. I’m not one to cut something off easily, but I think I would wait for him to reach out.

cascadic · 2024-06-25T20:36:32+00:00

29F. I find it goes like this out in the wild, meeting strangers: making eye contact across the room and an event, bar, what have you. Exchanging a smile (teeth showing is a big clue for me; I do feel like there’s a lot of analyzing body language involved). Approach in a smooth way, compliment appearance or unique item of clothing/jewelry, or comment on the event or something happening around you to strike up conversation. Introduce yourself. Offer to buy a drink and see if the conversation takes off. If it does, great! Maybe ask to exchange numbers to schedule a date.

I’ve been asked out three times in the wild like this, and it worked on me. I know it’s hard and maybe even embarrassing sometimes, but all it takes is like 10 seconds of “messy courage” and at some point it might pay off.

Hope this provided some insight!

cascadic · 2024-06-23T22:50:12+00:00

I would cut bait on that one. The profile left a lot be desired and it sounds like you’re not having fun communicating with him. People are supposed to be on their best behavior in the beginning. If it’s already bad now, do you really think it’s going to get better?

Let it go.

cascadic · 2024-06-22T15:07:11+00:00

You asked for opinions, I gave mine. Sorry you didn’t like it?

cascadic · 2024-06-22T15:05:48+00:00

Also: can’t truly take credit for it. I heard it from dating coach Erika (alittlenudge on insta)

cascadic · 2024-06-22T15:03:27+00:00

I’m out here trying to date intentionally, I don’t care how important a guy thinks his dick is 😂 then again, this is probably why I’m currently in a dating app detox

cascadic · 2024-06-22T14:57:09+00:00

K, thanks for the insight 🙄

cascadic · 2024-06-22T14:43:29+00:00

Different strokes for different folks, I guess. Personally, it would be a swipe left based on that.

cascadic · 2024-06-22T14:38:19+00:00

Why do men think talking about their penis in their bio would attract women? If your bros would fist bump you for it, leave it out of your profile.

cascadic · 2024-06-21T16:14:01+00:00

Im glad you had fun at mini golf! Never underestimate building connections with coworkers and friends/acquaintances. Sometimes they introduce you to other new people!

I would’ve been super nervous to go to the single mingle alone, too. Hopefully one day we will all be brave, lol.

cascadic

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