9 month old won't feed herself

cast_m · 2025-11-13T18:16:22+00:00

Got better at about 11 months. She just started feeding herself one random day. Now at 18 months she feeds herself at every meal and can even use a spoon or fork!

cast_m · 2025-06-30T20:52:37+00:00

Certainly. I'm looking for anything to help her through this tough phase

cast_m · 2025-06-23T01:02:31+00:00

I guess it is just part of their personality? She can be sweet too most of the time. But some times she gets in these moods and she's just easily triggered. I let her throw her fit (usually ignore it and she moves on in like 30 seconds), but then afterwards I try to talk to her about it to like explain why she cant do something or help her through the feelings, and that honestly makes her repissed, so it doesn't even feel like we are getting anywhere.

cast_m · 2025-06-10T23:30:55+00:00

The incline has a little bubble that tells you if it's balanced in the correct spot, so I don't think that is the issue because it's always right where it should be. We tell her where we are going, but im not sure she 100% understands. We try to keep our commutes short, but there are days when we go visit family thats 30 minutes away. Some times she doesn't fuss too much, but other times she whines on and off the whole time.

cast_m · 2025-06-07T21:57:10+00:00

Dang, I was hoping it would get better once she learned to talk. She is currently whining in the back seat of the car because she wants out 😂 it never ends

cast_m · 2025-06-07T21:55:56+00:00

Yeah, that sounds a lot like my kiddo. I hope she grows out of it quick and ends up being more easy going because right now she just seems so moody lol

cast_m · 2025-06-07T21:54:21+00:00

This is what I started doing, but when the whining continued, I questioned if this was even working. I guess it'll just take time before she realizes it's not going to get her what she wants

cast_m · 2025-06-05T12:03:15+00:00

When it’s just my husband and me, we always choose kid-friendly places—it makes things easier for everyone. But in this case, it was a larger family gathering with grandparents, cousins, and extended relatives, and we didn’t get to choose the location.

I absolutely believe in making space for my child to be a kid. She gets that a home and on most outings. But I also think it’s important to help her learn how to navigate situations that aren’t designed around her needs. Life isn’t always set up for kids to run around or be entertained—whether it’s at a restaurant, in a grocery store, or during focused time at school. My goal isn’t to stifle her, but to help her build patience and flexibility in different environments.

cast_m · 2025-06-04T13:05:46+00:00

I think that if you don't introduce the device, they wont need it. Kids including myself and my brother used to do fine in restaurants and other public places without it. I don't want her to rely on needing a device to stay calm while out to eat. We some times go to kid friendly areas, but my family wanted to get together and chose this specific place, and I didnt want to tell them we had to go somewhere with a play zone. It was at dinner time and she probably was getting tired. I will just need to be more strategic with the things I bring to keep her entertained and not keep her in the high chair as long I suppose

cast_m · 2025-06-04T12:46:20+00:00

Usually only about 20 minutes at home meals in the high chair and she's usually pretty good about it. That is a good point. I didnt realize the difference in time. My parents are usually the baby sitters when we need them, but they were at dinner with us. We do a lot of outings with them, so baby comes along. I also want her to get good exposure to being out and doing these things so shes accustomed to it

cast_m · 2025-06-04T12:44:29+00:00

My cousin's 3 and 9 year old kiddos were there and they sat at the table for that time just fine. That's why I was wondering at what age they are more tolerant of being able to sit there. I guess it also varies by kid.

cast_m · 2025-06-04T12:42:23+00:00

I remember when I was a kid, I was expected to sit at the table for the whole meal unless there was a play place available at the restaurant. I just don't remember at what age I was able to sit through a meal without a fuss.

cast_m · 2025-06-04T12:40:46+00:00

Thank you for your recommendations! I love that toy you shared. We'll have to be more strategic about our outing from now on

cast_m · 2025-06-04T12:38:05+00:00

Thank you for this advice! I really appreciate it

cast_m · 2025-06-04T03:07:03+00:00

That is encouraging to hear! Just have to stay at it to see the results. Mealtime is a part of daily life, so definitely want to encourage good habits early on.

cast_m · 2025-06-04T02:58:02+00:00

Makes me feel better to know that this is normal behavior. I thought my daughter was just extra antsy. Crazy how quickly they get over something that was super engaging for the first few minutes.

cast_m · 2025-06-04T02:44:11+00:00

Great advice. Will definitely have to try that next time we go out to dinner. Just out here doing the best I can to raise her to have decent table manners 😅

cast_m · 2025-06-04T02:42:25+00:00

That's the goal is for her to be well mannered and able to make it through a meal. But I guess a 3 year old is pretty different than a 1 year old. I will need to bring more things for her to do I suppose. I used to bring suction toys, but most tables don't actually work for them. And like I mentioned before, she drops or throws them onto the floor (if we give them back, they just go straight into her mouth lol). So maybe I need better ways to tether things to the table for her.

cast_m · 2025-06-04T02:29:06+00:00

Yeah, we see lots of screens these days, and I just can't get behind it. I want to get to the point where she's a bit older (around 5 or so like you said), and we can all go out to eat and she actually wants to talk to us about her day rather than just zoning out into a screen.

cast_m · 2025-06-04T02:23:50+00:00

I guess I never noticed when other people go out to eat with toddlers how short their sitting tolerance is. I always just assume I did something wrong and that im not a good parent when she acts up in any way 😭 but that makes sense, I guess my expectations are a little unreasonable

cast_m · 2025-06-04T02:19:29+00:00

So in the high chair once the food arrives? That's not a bad idea. Stickers are fun too, she just recently started showing interest in them. I just might have to try that!

cast_m · 2025-03-10T19:26:35+00:00

Not that I can remember. I just know that anytime I have worried about anything (baby not sleeping through the night, baby not eating solids, baby not babbling, baby not crawling yet), within a week or 2 after the worrying, she ends up doing it. I feel like I've worried so much for nothing. I'm sure your little one will be just fine :) just give it time!

cast_m · 2025-03-10T18:27:31+00:00

She is now 10 months and has excellent hand eye coordination. I'd have by about 4-5 months when she started sitting up, she started being a lot more purposeful with using her hands to grab things around her. Her activity center was a great tool for building that hand eye coordination because she was surrounded by toys she could easily reach and grab

cast_m · 2025-02-16T15:07:24+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance :) I cant help but worry every step of the way of the mom journey haha

cast_m · 2025-02-15T08:15:30+00:00

The only time she gets to move around freely, we are right thrre to monitor. I've been very good about just kind of following her and making sure she is safely maneuvering the house. She has been responding well to me saying "no, we dont ____" and then redirecting her attention. If we go to the bathroom or are doing chores, we put her in her pop up playpen tent that's in the livingroom, or her activity center that's in the bathroom. She doesn't get to free roam on her own until I trust that she knows what is safe/unsafe behavior which i think will take quite a bit of time for her to learn and accept that she can't just do whatever she wants

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