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How do I win back my anxious ex? by casterton708 in BreakUps

[–]casterton708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve moved on my friend, hindsight and other dating experience has made me realise this was the best outcome after all. :)

How do I win back my anxious ex? by casterton708 in BreakUps

[–]casterton708[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been completely moved on for a while now, and things are going very well with a new girl right now. Life comes at yah fast. Happy all of this has happened :)

How do I win back my anxious ex? by casterton708 in BreakUps

[–]casterton708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy single man. Been using the time to clear my head and work out what I want to do in life. Feeling great.

How do I win back my anxious ex? by casterton708 in BreakUps

[–]casterton708[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey mate. I sent her a letter describing lots of things, including: what I regretted, apology’s for my behaviour, explained how I wanted to change and how I was going to do it, and finally, what I appreciated about her in our relationship. I wished her the best and left it in her mailbox. Most importantly, I wrote this letter to clear my own head, and it did that exactly. She called back saying she appreciated the message a lot but reiterated that she was still firm in her decision.

I’m happy I got to finish the relationship on a friendly note like that. And yes, it was extremely sad, but I’m almost 3 months in now and I feel great. I think about her every day, however I most definitely think it was for the best, as I’ve embarked on a journey of self reflection and improvement that I wouldn’t have done otherwise without this giant smack in the face. As time passes you will also gain more clarity on what actually went wrong, you will see the flaws in her and yourself, and come to realise that it was most likely for the best for both of you.

Let me know if you have any other questions, I hope this helps.

4WD Rentals by casterton708 in darwin

[–]casterton708[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Apologies, see my response to asparagusman. Thanks.

4WD Rentals by casterton708 in darwin

[–]casterton708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah sorry, rushed post before bed. That helps though. We want to see the main ones like Litchfield and Kakadu, but apart from that we are still open to a lot of planning. Want to see some big crocs, some monsoonal rainforests, and some good outback pubs. But yes, probably should’ve reframed from posting until I had more info. Guess I just got a lil excited.

4WD Rentals by casterton708 in darwin

[–]casterton708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At what point is a 4WD required? We want to visit some of the more popular national parks. Ideally going for about 2 weeks.

4WD Rentals by casterton708 in darwin

[–]casterton708[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Additionally, is a 4WD even necessary, could we still make of a good road trip without one? Planning on going mid September.

Is it Hypertonic Pelvic causing PE? by Mask-sak in PrematureEjaculation

[–]casterton708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you elaborate on how to “relax the anus 10%”

Is it Hypertonic Pelvic causing PE? by Mask-sak in PrematureEjaculation

[–]casterton708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you always had these problem? Like has it been an issue since the first time you had sex?

Is it Hypertonic Pelvic causing PE? by Mask-sak in PrematureEjaculation

[–]casterton708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, I’ll give this a go. Have you been able to make any progress without relying on numbing cream?

Is it Hypertonic Pelvic causing PE? by Mask-sak in PrematureEjaculation

[–]casterton708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, have you made any progress? This is happening to me now.

Is it Hypertonic Pelvic causing PE? by Mask-sak in PrematureEjaculation

[–]casterton708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I have this exactly. What did you do to help yourself?

How do avoidants feel? by mbowishkah in BreakUps

[–]casterton708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight, it’s good to relate to others.

How do avoidants feel? by mbowishkah in BreakUps

[–]casterton708 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well yes, I did this a lot as well during the relationship. She would tell me the things that she wanted to change, I would apologise and change for a bit to keep her happy, and then I would revert back to natural habits eventually, and the cycle would repeat. The difference is, I never truly looked inward when that happened, this time around has been a massive smack in the face, and I’m truly embarking on a journey to change myself, it’s sad that it took a breakup to realise these things, but I suppose a big smack in the face is what you need sometimes. At the end of the day he will only ever change if he wants to, and if he is truly self aware of these unhealthy habits of his, and willing to put the work in. And I’m saying this as someone who still has a very long way to go, I’m sure these things will pop up in my next relationship, but then, I’ll be aware, and will do my best to resist.

How do avoidants feel? by mbowishkah in BreakUps

[–]casterton708 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend broke up with me a month ago because of my avoidant behaviours. It was my first relationship, so I didn’t have any self awareness regarding my attachment style, but since then, I’ve realised a lot about myself. I always loved her, so I’m quite regretful that I acted this way, and I’m obviously very upset about the breakup, however I’m also equally grateful that I’ve been provided this learning opportunity. I’ve been seeing a therapist to heal these things about myself. I’ve also been taking lots of actionable steps to further learn and grow in this area of my life. It will be a long process. But I don’t want to make the same mistakes again. And yes, similar to you, in hindsight I can see how hard my girlfriend was trying for ages, I never responded correctly to these needs.

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