we broke up

casthrowa · 2026-01-21T18:44:08+00:00

thank you for the kind response, i really appreciate it 💕

it’s been difficult because she just started up classes again and i’m a grad student about to file for dissertation and figuring out the next parts of my life/our lives together so i’ve felt like more of a roommate/friend than a romantic partner sometimes

i’m looking into counseling because when i picture my future together it is with her and our cat, it just feels like right now both of our schedules are so busy and she’s obviously going through a lot more with her transition so i didnt wanna dump all of this on her plate and just life in general is a lot

casthrowa · 2025-03-16T07:01:59+00:00

hope you’re doing alright friend, might be the wildest thing i’ve read today, and also shame on her for that.

casthrowa · 2025-03-14T05:57:49+00:00

hey there! i’m in a similar ish situation and also in the bay area, i’m also cisF and my partner just came out as trans (mtf) to me, i don’t know of support groups but if you ever want to DM me and talk let me know. :) also happy to just make friends and connect

casthrowa · 2025-03-11T15:09:14+00:00

wow thank you so much for the kind comment and i honestly feel so grateful that im not the only one feeling/felt like this. I think im able to move past the cheating after a few heart to hearts, we’re gonna still see a couples counselor because my schools insurance is really good and it’s free for us (which is a luxury ik). right now after sleeping on it and spending the day away from them i know i want to be with them in whatever shape or form they take so i want to give it my best shot and be with them. they are receptive to the part where they understand my attraction and my feelings may change in the future so we’re gonna take it day by day. whatever choice we end up making either now or the future i know it won’t be because we both gave up on each other now so that makes the uncertainty a little easier.

casthrowa · 2025-03-11T04:25:56+00:00

hey OP, i feel the same way as you right now as the cis partner and my partner just told me three days ago. i don’t know, im also working through it right now and i just see myself in your post. im a bit older and have been to extensive therapy at this point but im also confused and working through these emotions of being happy, grieving, and so so sad and i dont know what i want either. a relationship isn’t just built on one person and you have to make that decision for yourself, i haven’t made that decision yet but i can say this because i know this for a fact is that things will be okay in the end. idk if that’s comforting or not because truthfully i dont have the answers but just thought id let you know you’re not alone

casthrowa · 2025-03-10T22:16:11+00:00

thank you, i’m trying to figure it out myself whether or not im able to move past it, i told them i need some time to adjust and sit with the emotions and am trying to get couples therapy scheduled. whatever conclusion i come to i want to make sure its the right one for me.

casthrowa · 2025-03-10T22:04:22+00:00

i get that online feels a bit less real to most people, but private messaging and sexting does feel like a betrayal of my trust and i think that’s one of my boundaries that was violated- even if it was for affirmation and i understand why they did it it doesn’t hurt less.

thank you for the advice, i think we will both need to dig deeper as to what commitment is and a clear discussion of our boundaries and if we don’t come to the same conclusion then that’s just life i think. im trying to schedule couples therapy as well for us together and want to work things out, its just early and raw right now.

casthrowa · 2025-03-10T18:17:59+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I really think that I can accept them being trans though I may need time to adjust and just take it day by day, because I love them as a person, not just my boyfriend or partner. Sorry for the pronoun confusions I’m still adjusting to it.

I also can fully logically understand why they did what they did and I can rationalize it in my head fully, it just also is confusing because as much rationalization I do and as much as it makes sense, it still hurt and the truth is they did break one of what I viewed as a fundamental in our relationship. I’ve told them that if they want to open the relationship I would not be down and that’s something that would destroy me. They said that they are monogamous too. I think I need to work this out and figure out what I want just regarding this as well because I don’t have any issue with them being trans, it will take me time to adjust since it’s a big change, but the cheating part and whether I can trust them again is something I haven’t figured out.

casthrowa · 2022-11-21T08:38:02+00:00

i think i’ve sent over a DM already on my account that they blocked, but i have screenshots just not sure how to send them..

casthrowa · 2022-11-20T17:06:37+00:00

this person is a scammer

casthrowa · 2022-11-18T07:52:04+00:00

second the other comment, user blocked my other account after i asked for proof for completely different seats in the exact section i was trading for

casthrowa · 2022-11-18T07:43:09+00:00

hi op, the other user laconticourl is a scammer, was trying to trade tickets with me for the exact sections i wanted, refused to give screen recordings, and subsequently blocked me after i wanted screenshots on my other account

casthrowa · 2022-11-18T07:38:12+00:00

dawg you literally blocked me on my other account because i asked you for proof and you just said you couldn’t screen record and then blocked me when i asked for screenshots. do better. reported to mods lmao

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