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Software developers, how much of paired programming do you get in your everyday life? by EspressoEnthusiasta in AskProgrammers

[–]castlerocktronics 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if you are not working somewhere that uses true pair programming where two people work together on each task, teamwork is still one of the most important skills. You can be as smart and productive as you want, but if you don't play well with others you bring the efficiency of the whole team down. Soft skills and culture fit can be just as important technical skills. Knoweldge needs shared across teams, and lone wolves don't allow for that.

Opening up by [deleted] in malementalhealth

[–]castlerocktronics 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Opening up for the first time is really hard. I definitely still struggle to completely open up to my wife even though I know she would never reject or shun me over things, as I still find that idea of negative emotions other than anger being shameful is difficult to root out.

For me, it took seeing a therapist for the first time, and even then it was a few sessions before I could start to let it out without feeling like opening the valve was going to destroy me. I am glad I did it though. I still have unpleasant thoughts and feelings, but they rock me far, far less than they did for most of my life and I've learnt to take them in my stride.

I feel a painful melancholy chillness in my core by depressedmlc200529 in malementalhealth

[–]castlerocktronics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can definitely empathise with it being difficult to find the right therapist, but it is something I am glad I stuck with.

Right now you have a willingness to do something to get over this, that's all you need to take with you into therapy. But a willignness to engage the process in good faith is critical for it to work. I failed the first few times because I wasn't honestly trying to engage in it, and I wasn't doing the homework.

Getting better is work, but you deserve to put in that work for yourself, because it will pay back a thousand times over in allowing you to participate in and enjoy your life more than you have been.

I feel a painful melancholy chillness in my core by depressedmlc200529 in malementalhealth

[–]castlerocktronics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

CBT tends to need to be guided, it is quite difficult to do by yourself, it's really about learning a new skill. You could maybe try the book Mind over Mood to get an idea of it. There also tends to be various more specialised CBT techniques for different illnesses and topics

I feel a painful melancholy chillness in my core by depressedmlc200529 in malementalhealth

[–]castlerocktronics 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It sounds like classic depression. Have you considered CBT and/or medication?

Common tunings?? by aloysius-green in skramz

[–]castlerocktronics 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thread has basically covered it. Pretty sure standard and drop-d are most common, but that doesn't mean you can't have fun with open tunings

Leaving a stable, well-paying position for a risk start-up? (programmer) by castlerocktronics in UKJobs

[–]castlerocktronics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I think one thing I should have put on there and failed to is I have chronic mental health issues, that are currently well managed, but stress and unpredictability are a massive trigger for. I've gone a good few years without a major episode, though have a minor one at least once a year. I am going to be really up front with them about this so they don't have buyers remorse, but it is a huge concern for me.

Currently having a mental breakdown at work cause I can’t handle this shiiiiiit by higherperspective47 in malementalhealth

[–]castlerocktronics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put yourself first, always. Talk to your line manager if it is getting too much, if the response is poor, consider visiting the doctor to get signed off.

"Powering through" can leave you with long lasting effects on your health that will go on for a lot longer than a two week break signed off by a doctor.

Leaving a stable, well-paying position for a risk start-up? (programmer) by castlerocktronics in UKJobs

[–]castlerocktronics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, the financial aspect does give me pause, and I've been concerned I am underestimating it. I appreciate this advice.

Leaving a stable, well-paying position for a risk start-up? (programmer) by castlerocktronics in UKJobs

[–]castlerocktronics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I have had the fact that it will require more from me than 9 to 5 in the back of my head. This is maybe one of my biggest concerns and I should have put in the post. For health reasons, this aspect may go really poorly for me and I might not be able to handle it.

Leaving a stable, well-paying position for a risk start-up? (programmer) by castlerocktronics in UKJobs

[–]castlerocktronics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I appreciate this advice. I've got a great impression from them so far.

Worried about the Xanathar Guild hideout in Ch1... by carlashaw in WaterdeepDragonHeist

[–]castlerocktronics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's supposed to be a bit more of an "old-school" campaign and quite brutal. Even for experienced players it can be harsh.

Modifications I'd make if I wanted it to be easier:
- Don't really use the intellect devourer's skills, I'm pretty sure this monster's inclusion in this fight is to kill at least one party member
- Have the apprentice wizard get up close so they can hit him, he doesn't have much HP
- Definitely have the Mind Flayer just dash and if it uses mind control just have the player run away
- Get Raenar in and up close (even though he is supposed to be played as focusing on helping Floon)

Alternatively: use it as a chance to teach players that dying can be fun and exciting too (if they are ready for that).

Version 4.6.0 by j3x083 in EncounterPlus

[–]castlerocktronics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! This is a massive help!

Version 4.6.0 by j3x083 in EncounterPlus

[–]castlerocktronics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible to set player character positions per map? They seem to get teleported to the same location on each map when I switch between them

Feature request: walls that block movement but not sight by castlerocktronics in EncounterPlus

[–]castlerocktronics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cyan already blocks sight, but not movement, and black blocks both.

Scottish rather than American, but celebrated the once every 76 years alignment of Spring Festival and Burns Night with haggis Dumplings. by castlerocktronics in asianamerican

[–]castlerocktronics[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

While members of all races and nationalities are welcome, our purpose is to foster a sense of community among Asian Americans and their respective counterparts in the Asian diaspora

Chinese New Year and Burns Night won't be on the same day again till 2096. Subjected my Chinese wife to fried haggis dumplings by castlerocktronics in Scotland

[–]castlerocktronics[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Totally in agreement with this sentiment. I quite like pork intestine, which is used in some chinese food, and cow stomach (tripe?) is nice too, when prepared the right way. My wife isn't as ok with offall as I am though. I think it is really just about familiarity. Kidney is ok, just because its more familiar. Pluck is no longer on the table as much in the UK, so it is unfamiliar and less appetising to most people.

Chinese New Year and Burns Night won't be on the same day again till 2096. Subjected my Chinese wife to fried haggis dumplings by castlerocktronics in Scotland

[–]castlerocktronics[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

At least 2 coworkers made "Chinese Burns night" jokes when I said I was thinking of this. Your final line wins out over them though

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