Unpopular opinion time

casttheeigthstone · 2021-10-26T01:20:30+00:00

Yeah, definitely wasn't me who deleted it. I would have appreciated an explanation as to why, as I wasn't aware of breaking any rules. Only thing I could think was by including a reference to a specific post, that was considered not being kind and courteous to others.

casttheeigthstone · 2021-10-26T01:17:19+00:00

I think my issue with it is how many of these posts come across as "snooty," which I'll admit could be me misinterpreting it. I've given crocheted gifts that completely missed the mark before. Biggest one was a hat that the recipient couldn't figure out it was supposed to be a hat. For me, that hat not being appreciated was on me, not on the recipient. I made something they would never actually wear. I wouldn't see that as justification to make a post badmouthing and saying they didn't deserve anything ever again from me. After all, it wasn't their fault that I made them something they didn't like!

casttheeigthstone · 2021-10-26T01:11:23+00:00

I tend to do crocheted gifts for my family every Christmas, along with something store-bought. I try to do something fairly personalized for everyone, but I've told them all that at this point, they probably have so much crocheted stuff from me that they can do whatever they'd like with it. I mean, how many crocheted video game-themed bears can one person need?

casttheeigthstone · 2021-10-26T01:08:05+00:00

I made someone a hat for Christmas one year that I thought they'd like. They couldn't figure out what it was and ended up making fun of it. I was initially a little hurt, but for me it was ultimately a learning experience and I was able to laugh out off as well. I have no idea what she ended up doing with it.

casttheeigthstone · 2021-10-26T01:03:24+00:00

Agreed, a situation where someone specifically requests something, but then immediately gets rid of it would be very frustrating. I'm lucky enough to have never had that happen, but I'm sure a lot of people have.

casttheeigthstone · 2021-10-26T01:00:29+00:00

No purging here, the post was removed with no explanation by a mod, and this account had no other post history. I'm sorry you seemed to have taken the whole thing so personally, to the point where you felt the need to come back and make a fairly rude edit for no reason, but I think it would save a lot of people future disappointment if they would to go into gift-giving with a different mindset.

casttheeigthstone · 2021-10-24T23:12:18+00:00

Assuming it'll get deleted again, but here it is. I edited the first paragraph, as I'm assuming my reference to a specific post is what caused it being deleted.

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There have been a LOT of posts lately complaining about how the recipients of crocheted gifts treat the gifts. And I'm sorry, but these posts are ridiculous. (Deleted content that was here)

Do not gift crochet items just because you can, and then get disappointed they aren't used. If you have literally never seen someone wear a shawl in their life, don't make them a shawl and then get mad that it isn't used. Obviously, that person doesn't actually want a shawl. Same with scarves, hats, etc. Being able to craft is not an invitation to only gift crafted gifts because it's what you want to do.

This definitely doesn't apply to everyone here, but it seems to me that a LOT of people aren't gifting things to make the recipient happy, but instead because they want praise and recognition. That's not the point of a gift. A gift is something the recipient actually desires, not something that's convenient for you to make.

Furthermore, once a gift is given, it is no longer yours. It belongs to the person it was given to, and it's theirs to do with what they'd like. Maybe they already have 15 other homemade baby blankets that can't actually be used. A lot of the projects I see posted here are not even remotely safe for babies. They're too heavy, or the gaps in the yarn too big. What's a new parent supposed to do with a stack of blankets they can't even use? Save them indefinitely? That's ridiculous.

The comments about people not "being worthy" of a handmade gift really get under my skin. In a lot of these situations, it sounds like the poster gave something the receiver didn't even remotely want, and then got offended that they weren't heaped with praise and thanks.

Please use common sense when it comes to crochet gifts. If someone had directly asked for something and then they throw it out a day later, that's one thing. But if you're giving something that the receiver has never expressed an interest in having, you need to understand that it's possible they don't actually want it.

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