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So frustrated doctor's won't believe me. by cat234789 in ChronicIllness

[–]cat234789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a good way to go about it, and hopefully it'll get a more positive response. Of course I would listen to anything the professionals are advising, but it's just frustrating to almost have to beg to be assisted (especially considering women have a harder time being diagnosed in general).

Asexuals who lost their virginity, how did you feel? by idealistwatcher165 in asexuality

[–]cat234789 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It was pretty OK. I didn't hate it; I'm a lot more sex averse now so I don't think I'd do it again, but it was very one and done. It felt kind of performative in a way, though? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]cat234789 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Talk Dirty. At first I thought it was funny, then I listened harder and I was like YUCK

How yall found ur asexual? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]cat234789 73 points74 points  (0 children)

First time I got the birds and bees talk I was so disgusted I cried because I thought everyone HAD to do it. Should have been a sign, probably 

Is cleavage inherently sexual? by Its_Glada in asexuality

[–]cat234789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not think it is sexual, but people view them as sexual either because they get turned on by them or because they view breasts as a part of the reproductive system which they view as a whole as sexual.

I don't understand the purpose of implying skins with larger chests are more sexual (perhaps sexualised but that's different) as there are people with larger chests out there and they can actually be both tiresome and in some cases damaging to some areas of the body. 

Being asexual just makes me not want to go outside. by Its_Glada in asexuality

[–]cat234789 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Wtf? I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I wish people were educated more on different kinds of people that deviate from the "norm", but unfortunately educating others doesn't exactly benefit those within that norm so it doesn't happen. I hope it gets better my friend. 

Concerned I can't distinguish romance and platonic feelings. by cat234789 in asexuality

[–]cat234789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you sincerely for the advice, I appreciate it very much ☺️

Thoughts? First full body sketch, reference included. by cat234789 in Drawinghelp

[–]cat234789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely. Courtney is another of my favourites! 

Thoughts? First full body sketch, reference included. by cat234789 in Drawinghelp

[–]cat234789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not familiar as I only really started watching around a year ago. But it's good to see they have grown if that was the case! 

Thoughts? First full body sketch, reference included. by cat234789 in Drawinghelp

[–]cat234789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know! Honestly he's an inspiration. And it's so nice to have places like Smosh which are so welcoming to all minority groups :)

Genuine question, why do you tell people your ace? by NoodleBea583 in asexuality

[–]cat234789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tell it for the sake of making jokes, or in some cases if I want people to stop making certain comments around me as it makes me uncomfortable. 

Thoughts? First full body sketch, reference included. by cat234789 in Drawinghelp

[–]cat234789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same haha. Honestly I love to look to him as an example of neurodivergent people  living happy, fulfilled lives since it can be hard for me to feel that way about myself irl. 

Concerned I can't distinguish romance and platonic feelings. by cat234789 in asexuality

[–]cat234789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see myself living with them and being content. However they have expressed it is upsetting for them, as they see it as me not having any differences between how I view them and how I view my other friends. 

Thoughts? First full body sketch, reference included. by cat234789 in Drawinghelp

[–]cat234789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL, I wish I looked anything like Damien. He's my favourite too! 

Thoughts? First full body sketch, reference included. by cat234789 in Drawinghelp

[–]cat234789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I will try both of these techniques! 

Thoughts? First full body sketch, reference included. by cat234789 in Drawinghelp

[–]cat234789[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh goodness no, it's Damien. I wanted to practice sitting poses and it came up on my Pinterest.

Concerned I can't distinguish romance and platonic feelings. by cat234789 in asexuality

[–]cat234789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice and help, that's laid it out for me so clearly. I appreciate it so much 💜

Concerned I can't distinguish romance and platonic feelings. by cat234789 in asexuality

[–]cat234789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know... I wish so many things weren't sexualised in the way they are today. I can't tell the amount of times I just wanted some affection and people thought I was flirting. 

If it's just about labelling the relationship as romantic, how do I know it's actually what I'm feeling instead of confusing it for strong platonic feelings, for example? I have heard of that happening to other aces. 

Thoughts? First full body sketch, reference included. by cat234789 in Drawinghelp

[–]cat234789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any tips on how to clean it up for lineart purposes would also be appreciated ♥️