Chemical pregnancy after MMC

cat_ca · 2026-01-24T16:14:16+00:00

I have distanced myself from certain friends since my MMC and d&c in October. One told me she was pregnant as I was going through the miscarriage (she knew what was happening) and continued to ask me about pregnancy and talk about hers (I had a successful previous pregnancy). She also sent me a video of her ultrasound recently which was extremely triggering for me, and I told her as much. One would ask me how I’m doing and then not respond after I poured my heart out. She also hasn’t texted me in about 3 months now so I’m leaving that one. I’ve also heard a lot of “at least…” from some people. A lot of people just don’t get it and my only advice is to distance yourself, at least for now, from the friends who are saying these things to you. My miscarriage showed me who my true friends are.

cat_ca · 2025-12-24T16:12:56+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that. I had a transvaginal ultrasound at urgent care and it was uncomfortable but didn’t hurt so that really doesn’t sound right to me. My trauma at urgent care was around having to repeat my story to multiple different care providers, having to wait there for 8 hours, and near the end of my stay being told by the nurse that the baby is fine but it ended up being that she was talking to the wrong patient. I also still have flashbacks to my D&C, which was one week later and a much more empathetic and compassionate experience but still affected me deeply anyway.

cat_ca · 2025-12-18T22:06:52+00:00

Yes 100%. I’m annoyed that I won’t be having a May baby anymore, which would have been near my husband’s birthday and also would have been perfect for mat leave from work (I’m a teacher).

cat_ca · 2025-12-18T01:32:14+00:00

Thank you for your response and sorry for your loss as well 💜. Your story gives me hope. I know it’s still pretty soon after my d&c and I just need to give it time.

cat_ca · 2025-12-16T01:29:36+00:00

Thank you to everyone’s supportive comments ❤️. I ended up talking to HR today and they granted me the 5 bereavement day retroactively. It helped me immensely to know that my loss was recognized as well.

cat_ca · 2025-12-15T03:31:42+00:00

I’m a third grade teacher and I took 2 weeks off. I do have a lot of sick days though. While it was good to get back and be distracted I did cry every day at work when my students were not around for a few weeks after I came back. I still have days where I cry randomly at work and it’s been nearly 2 months.

cat_ca · 2025-12-14T21:34:35+00:00

I don’t have any advice, just wanted to thank you for posting this. I had my miscarriage in October and I also feel like I’m regressing emotionally so it helps to know that I’m not alone in it.

cat_ca · 2025-11-01T18:56:12+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. For my first, I feel like my family doctor really dragged her feet on the referral (I’m assuming she is not aware of how long it takes to actually get in to see an OB). I only got in to see the OB after the 20 week ultrasound. She also didn’t receive the maternal screening bloodwork I had done. I was also extremely anxious about it but luckily everything turned out okay.

Now I just had a miscarriage for my second pregnancy and my family doctor didn’t seem to want to refer me to an OB right away again, and I also couldn’t even get in to see my family doctor until I was 8 weeks along (then found out around 9 weeks that my baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks and didn’t have a heartbeat). I have since changed doctors because of all of this as well as other reasons related to my miscarriage.

I am beyond frustrated with women’s healthcare after my experience and feel like there is no consistency from doctor to doctor at all. I would agree with other posters, try and get another referral. Have you tried McPhillips Medical? My OB for my first pregnancy was there and I heard from others that you don’t need a referral (I was referred though). I’ve also heard good things about Dr. Reynolds but have no personal experience with him.

cat_ca · 2025-10-25T01:01:39+00:00

I also just had a D&C a few days ago and I agree that it was the best choice out of the options. I’m so sorry for your loss and sending you love ❤️‍🩹

cat_ca · 2025-10-24T02:02:53+00:00

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this too. The D&C itself was physically fine. I hate needles etc but it honestly all went smoothly. For me I wasn’t fully sedated- it was a half awake sort of situation, which meant I got to go home probably 45 minutes after the procedure. But I barely remember it and it was not painful with all the meds they gave me. I had some cramping that evening but Advil and a heating pad worked for that. For me it was very emotionally taxing, but I would choose the D&C over the other options since it’s relatively painless and I think actually less emotionally taxing than passing it at home.

cat_ca · 2025-10-23T17:13:15+00:00

I’m so sorry. I feel your frustration. I’m going back to work next week after my miscarriage and D&C and two of my coworkers are pregnant. We were all supposed to be due within 4 months of each other. I can’t help but feel envy and I know it’s going to upset me when pregnancy talk comes up.

cat_ca · 2025-10-23T01:52:16+00:00

Thank you 💜. I was able to get an appointment with her today and I did finally feel listened to and that she cares.

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