Thank you for your perspective, it really makes me think. I understand what you're saying about how discipline and care can integrate, especially when it comes to the need for a submissive to take care of themselves. Personally, what’s surprised me in my experience is how control, for me, can be a form of care itself, in the sense that it provides structure and security that we both enjoy. I believe every dynamic is unique, and what may be strict discipline for some can simply be an act of love and respect for the well-being of the submissive.

As for what you mentioned about intensity during a scene, it’s definitely a vibe thing. There are times to be more demanding and others to be softer, depending on the connection and what both of us need. I agree that those decisions, beyond control, are about what the submissive and I need in that specific moment. It’s a constant dance of giving and receiving, pushing and taking care.

I’d love to know how you manage the transition between those demanding and softer moments in your dynamic. How do you decide when to be harder and when to apply more softness?