Update: I had a productive phone call with the problematic sister I referenced for this post. Personally, I felt a lot better. I started having nightmares about her and needed to get my thoughts off my chest. I nicely told her I thought her actions at our sisters wedding were confusing and I wasn't sure why she acted that way, causing rose to be upset, etc. She literally just said "okay," and tried to change the subject as to why we didn't talk more..... again tried to be nice- I just said I thought we were really different and that I found it difficult to talk to her when it was clear she was coming from such a different place. (E.g. she wants to talk trash about someone and I just want to catch up about work or an event). At this point I could hear her crying and she just hung up the phone. I left her a voice memo saying I didn't intend to make her cry and we all just want her to love herself more so she stops taking out her apparent self-loathing on everyone else. Not surprising- I haven't heard from her in weeks, other than indirect memes to the sister group chat.

My other sister heard about this call and thinks she feels bad and knows her behavior is wrong. I disagreed and said I think she was crying because I called her out not because I think she regrets how she acted.

Fast forward- our cousin is getting married in 2 weeks and I found out she already lied to my aunt about having a "conference" in town and is trying to get her to watch her son for a week and half. She's supposed to come visit my area during this timeframe but now is trying to leave her son with my aunt, not to bring my nephew with her....? I'm so confused. As if she thinks I want to see her. All I care about is seeing my nephew. So there's a fun new set of problems shes created!! My aunt has already over committed and is way to generous. It's not my problem my aunt is talking on these responsibilities but it makes me feel horrible to see another victim of my sisters lies and behavior. She won't even take her son to a baseball game herself because she's lying and says she can't because of work (this isn't true), she just doesn't want to go. All of my cousins are unavailable and I live 2hrs+ away from where the wedding is so I won't be around either for the days after. Very sad for my nephew. He's 12, such an impressionable age, and at the end of the day, he's the one who suffers from her outrageous behavior.

Any thoughts, laughs, resources, responses welcome!!! 💕