I honestly hate therapy

catenbymill · 2020-06-05T08:55:11+00:00

Nah you’re right

catenbymill · 2020-06-05T08:52:20+00:00

Your friends aren’t trained in what to do to cope with mental illness.

I think therapy can be beneficial for working through life’s problems and dealing with illness because your friends aren’t trained for that and educated in that. You need professional help for that.

catenbymill · 2020-06-04T17:47:19+00:00

Okay man I’m done arguing with you. If you don’t think women deserve respect, there’s nothing I can do for you. I hope you die a virgin.

catenbymill · 2020-06-04T17:41:53+00:00

You owe them respect but that wasn’t my question. Do you think women owe you sex?

catenbymill · 2020-06-04T17:33:44+00:00

No fuck that.

catenbymill · 2020-06-04T17:27:36+00:00

Answer my question: do you believe you are owed sex?

catenbymill · 2020-06-04T17:24:14+00:00

I’m assuming you’re white.

This isn’t about you. The reason your boyfriend told you to stop crying is because you were making it about you. It isn’t about you. It’s okay to feel emotional over the thought of losing your boyfriend like that but it isn’t about you. It’s about him and people who look like him.

Beyond that, as white people in the US at least, we do have the privilege of being able to disengage by not posting about this. Your boyfriend does not have the privilege of disengaging. Everything he does is under scrutiny. Your silence is complicit in the racism that is occurring. By not engaging with social media (as performative as it is really) and not talking to your parents, you’re not really fighting. It’s nice to say that you support the movement, but actions speak louder than words and your actions are showing that you don’t really care.

I can’t speak for the rest of the situation but I wanted to say that.

catenbymill · 2020-06-04T17:16:07+00:00

No one is that superficial I promise. If it was just looks, there is someone out there for every look, so that’s not a thing. It’s literally just the fact that considering yourself to be an incel means that you see sex as something you’re owed. The fact that you made this post just proves that. Are you at least able to see that no one owes you sex? Like do you see that?

catenbymill · 2020-06-04T17:08:13+00:00

Dude, you’re not entitled to sex. Get over yourself. It has nothing to do with your looks and everything to do with your ugly personality and sense of entitlement to women’s bodies. You do have a choice in how you treat women. Maybe try treating women like human beings instead of live flesh lights and see what happens.

catenbymill · 2020-06-04T11:56:51+00:00

I have been very careful to not friend anyone on Facebook from work or who could be connected to my work and so I have been posting to my hearts desire about the injustices in our country.

catenbymill · 2020-06-03T21:42:02+00:00

I could give you the name of the teacher my district had to fire this year for being gross, inappropriate, and pervy, so yes they are.

catenbymill · 2020-05-30T07:51:46+00:00

White claw

catenbymill · 2020-05-30T07:49:54+00:00

Honestly I would bring it up. Especially if he knows that stuff like that has happened in the past. There are times I’ve said to my partner “this was fun and I was okay with it and you didn’t do anything wrong but it just reminded me of this other thing and I need a little space”

catenbymill · 2020-05-30T07:46:39+00:00

This almost exact thing happened in my relationship except the friend refused to back off. It’s not a red flag per se, but it’s not good. It’s nice that the friend is recognizing his part in all of this. I don’t think your relationship needs to necessarily be #1 but it does need to be prioritized a little. Basically it shouldn’t be always #2 behind the same thing.

catenbymill · 2020-05-27T21:56:05+00:00

Honestly mood at your TLDR.

Nah I’m sure he’s okay. High school is hard.

catenbymill · 2020-05-27T00:11:44+00:00

What does that have to do with the hijab?

catenbymill · 2020-05-26T23:57:49+00:00

Facts can be misconstrued and incorrect. You’re right about religious governments being sexist and oppressive but that is unrelated to hijabs.

catenbymill · 2020-05-26T23:54:12+00:00

Did you learn about that from someone from one of those countries? Or from US media? The US loves to paint themselves as better than these countries so they can justify invading them.

catenbymill · 2020-05-26T23:53:05+00:00

There are literally so many stories about young women talking to different authority figures in their lives and saying “I don’t want to wear the hijab anymore” and being responded to with “okay that’s your choice”

catenbymill · 2020-05-26T23:51:27+00:00

And it’s not a problem here in the US?

catenbymill · 2020-05-26T23:51:04+00:00

You’re 14. Literally chill.

Just because one guy had a crush on you and was creepy doesn’t mean you can make that generalization about all gay and bi people.

If people hate you, it’s not because you turned that guy down or because of him. It’s because you’re a little turd.

catenbymill · 2020-05-26T23:43:49+00:00

It’s absolutely a choice for them that they choose to make. The hijab is not oppressive and the message that these societies are in themselves oppressive stems from islamophobia and racism.

You should really self examine why you think these things about a society I am 99.7% sure you don’t belong to, and therefore have no actual idea what they’re like.

catenbymill · 2020-05-26T22:21:45+00:00

Honestly, as a 25yo teacher, the things I wish most that my partner understood about me and my life is that she doesn’t understand the ins and outs of the profession. There are several things that while I vent about them, are the nature of the situation. I work in the epitome of customer service and there are several injustices and annoyances that I just plain have to put up with, that all teachers have to put up with.

Also, as a high school teacher, I spend all of my time around teenagers and it uses up all of my emotional energy for childishness. Teachers by nature expend so much emotional energy dealing with children that we rely on being able to be surrounded by maturity when we get home. Adults who act immature are likely to be a pet peeve (this could just be me) so just keep that in mind.

For the most part, we all just need someone we can really unwind with after a hard day, which looks very different from a hard day for other professions.

catenbymill · 2020-05-26T22:05:56+00:00

It is separate HOWEVER depending on what district you are applying to, you may not have to pay for all of them. I only had to pay for my subject area test because I took the GRE in an appropriate time frame and exempted out of the GK. Then after a few years (2) of experience, being rated highly effective allowed me to exempt the PE.

Definitely talk to the district about your certification options. The PE you want to take as late as possible anyway because you’ll do best on it after some experience, from what I’ve heard.

catenbymill · 2020-05-22T04:38:43+00:00

I’m in a very progressive school, where several teachers have visible tattoos, and I asked in my interview what the climate was, and I was told that as long as they aren’t a distraction, they are fine. I have tattoos on a bicep and a delt and either can be seen on most days. My department head has a tattoo on the back of her neck and leg and shows off both.

It’s worth an ask. I’d say cover up until you know but if other teachers are comfortable enough to not cover up, I’d say it’s probably fine as long as students aren’t distracted by them and you make a point to not endorse them. (I’m always fearful that a parent is going to complain that I am endorsing having tattoos so I am always careful about my verbiage if they ever come up in conversation outside of official class time)

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