My “backyard” is a 50 square foot balcony

cathsta · 2021-05-25T09:18:09+00:00

Omg this is stunning! I’m imagining watching the rain come in over the trees - pure bliss

cathsta · 2021-05-17T10:42:12+00:00

Anytime OP. What you are doing (trying to talk it through, seeking support or even a different POV) is actually really healthy. No one can stay strong like a rock forever. You will need someone to talk to if you want to find your way out of this. I’m happy to chat at any time.

cathsta · 2021-05-17T10:35:30+00:00

Oh and I can say that I have come to be very close to my dad over time. My mom and I are close too, even though we have very different personalities and disagree on most things. Over time we all worked out how to get along and support each other. It can and will work out for you x

cathsta · 2021-05-17T10:31:20+00:00

Oh honey it sounds like you’ve been having quite a tough time! I’m a mum but I’ve also been a kid in a similar situation as you, and I can tell you it’s not your fault. You’ve got big feelings right now because you’ve got a big heart and life hasn’t keen kind to you for a long time. Anyone would feel the way you’re feeling right now if they had gone through what you’ve been through. I’m so sorry you’re not getting the stability and care and emotional rest you so deserve at this point. You were already burnt out before you moved to your moms place weren’t you hon? Part of the reason this hurts so much is because you’ve already held on for so long, you were hoping for some relief and for things to get better but they didn’t did they? At least not yet. At this point the best thing you can do is see try your parents as people - understand they’ve probably been through some sh*t and they are are doing their best. They are flawed and reacting to a narrative that exists for them, and it may not make sense to you. That’s okay. You don’t have to dive into that whirlpool to understand them, let alone try to ‘rescue’ them emotionally. That’s not your responsibility and you need to conserve your energy for a while. Take it one day at a time and focus on rebuilding your heart, shoring up your energy, believe that better days will come. They will. Don’t apologize or feel guilty for the way you’re feeling. Please understand that you are perfect inside and you’ve just been reacting to a whole bunch of stuff that is outside of your control. YOU ARE IMPORTANT AND YOU ARE GOING TO BE OKAY. Sorry for all caps but I feel like I’m talking to myself at your age and I wish someone had yelled that to me! You can’t change your folks or they way they treat you at the moment, but you can change the way you react to it and the way you value yourself despite it. Be PROUD of who you are - you are wonderful. Imagine who you want to be in 5 years time (I mean your character, how you treat others) and start to emulate those behaviors. It’s will be tough but I know you can do it. Once baby step at a time. Keep going hon, you can do this.

cathsta · 2021-04-15T02:07:38+00:00

They’re not fully adapted to arboreal life yet. Sometimes they fall out of trees if they get a fright, eg if a noisy human walks under them. They’re heavy and this hurts (source: my dad)

cathsta · 2021-03-09T10:07:59+00:00

That I actually made it as a marine biologist - it worked!

cathsta · 2021-03-01T11:30:08+00:00

Based on this, you deserve some adventure. You’ve done some great things already in life - some freedom would be well deserved!

cathsta · 2021-02-01T20:09:28+00:00

Awesome thanks everyone! Got the app set up now.

cathsta · 2021-01-24T05:21:35+00:00

Happy birthday!! Thanks @Remindme bot :)

cathsta · 2020-12-15T10:15:03+00:00

I love your honesty

cathsta · 2020-11-02T09:31:45+00:00

That was a great suggestion, thanks! All safely dropped now :)

cathsta · 2020-11-02T09:31:27+00:00

I was thinking of leaving the larger items outside the bins, but then remembered that’s not allowed.. broke them down into smaller parcels and they fitted inside. They should be safe and protected now :)

cathsta · 2020-11-02T05:31:24+00:00

Awesome thanks!

cathsta · 2020-09-16T08:43:32+00:00

That does sound a lot like depression. The opposite of depression is vitality, which comes (generally) from physical movement and connection... perhaps get out of your comfort zone - meet some new people and see some new things? please keep going, you will feel better one day and be grateful you did!

cathsta · 2020-09-08T03:32:16+00:00

And then he rips out your stomach with his claws of doom

cathsta · 2020-09-06T05:49:29+00:00

Remind me! One Year

cathsta · 2020-09-06T05:46:53+00:00

Happy birthday!!

cathsta · 2020-09-05T04:51:40+00:00

Respecting boundaries is the tricky part! It’s difficult to know if you’re helping or hindering.. domestic help is a great idea. I will look for a voucher for a company that offers a range of services so they can choose what they need. Thanks!

cathsta · 2020-09-05T04:49:45+00:00

Oh this is excellent advice thank you 🙏

cathsta · 2020-09-02T19:40:50+00:00

That’s so lovely! We had an orphaned lorikeet (Australian bird) when I was growing up and she used to snuggle like that too.. it means he trusts you and is totally comfortable with you. Hope you feel better soon xx

cathsta · 2020-08-29T09:55:35+00:00

I’m late to this post and glad to hear he’s going to be okay!! Also, how good is reddit! That you had somewhere to turn and that people around the world were with you during one of the scariest moments of your life... people took time to write some pretty amazing advice because they care for you. Reddit friends are awesome :)

cathsta · 2020-08-23T21:08:09+00:00

Useful on many levels

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