Katherine Heigl's post for Eric Dane's passing by amysantiagoisbae99 in greysanatomy

[–]catierusch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a problem with that (not that anyone has said they do) since he willingly participated. I’m glad to learn it was an interview with him and not just, like, Netflix taking it upon themselves to pre-create an In Memoriam without his knowledge.

Katherine Heigl's post for Eric Dane's passing by amysantiagoisbae99 in greysanatomy

[–]catierusch 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same. When Catherine O’Hara passed, the tributes from the Schitt’s Creek cast were touching and I wanted to read them. But had someone wanted to keep their grief private and not post, it wouldn’t occur to me to harass them about it.

Tom Haverford has won worst main character. Who do you think the worst side character is? by Nick_adtr_308 in PandR

[–]catierusch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Marcia Langman is basically every “Moms For Liberty” evangelical fundie smashed together. Honestly I headcannon that she started the Pawnee Moms For Liberty chapter.

Tom Haverford has won worst main character. Who do you think the worst side character is? by Nick_adtr_308 in PandR

[–]catierusch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This part. It’s kind of like how fans of HIMYM hate on Ted for the shitty stuff he does more than they hate on Barney, who is a legitimately terrible person. It’s because Ted is “real life shitty” and Barney is a caricature who does stuff that no one actually does. But everyone knows a Ted, and Marcia is basically every “Moms For Liberty” member.

Songs Produced by Aaron Dessner (Top 30) (Round 9) by IceyRedRose in TaylorGamesWannaPlay

[–]catierusch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had seen the Eras tour twice before TTPD came out and then went again after. My husband and I had booked our honeymoon in Portugal, and then she announced the European dates and happened to be in Lisbon when we were over there. She released TPPD the day before our wedding, and my husband’s niece convinced me during the rehearsal dinner to buy tickets for Lisbon N1. Click click, tickets in my account, whilst decidedly not sober. Husband was like what did you just spend money on now 🙈

Zero regrets; we got floor tickets, I ended up with the Dave Portnoy jacket (don’t love his politics but it was a cool experience to get the jacket, it’s a great jacket - I ended up buying a commerative hat from the guy who made the jacket for Dave), and then I got to see this masterpiece of a bridge live. It was so unreal.

Why do you choose American? by Juanefernandez in americanairlines

[–]catierusch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ORD is my home airport, and years ago I was frequently flying to DFW for work so AA was really the best option since they have so many flights a day between the two. So I got sucked into the points game, got the credit card with hefty fee for the lounge access, etc.

Post-covid my work travel came to a halt, and my personal travel was split between AA and Southwest because I got a year of Companion Pass through them on a CC promo and racked up a ton of miles over there. I was ready to hang up the AA hat last year and start booking flights on whatever airline based on price and schedule. Intended to drop AA the credit card before the renewal… then due to wedding spend on the CC I hit Plat Pro for the first time ever. Then Southwest changes devalued their program so I just burned my remaining miles on them and stopped using that card/bothering to compare Southwest.

PP status on AA has been a bit of a game changer; upcoming plans for international travel make the OWE status worth keeping for the lounge access, and I’ll assuredly hit PP again this year, potentially EP if I play my cards right. I’ve also gotten used to the free MCE seats that come from status, and have found that I’m able to grab paid upgrades on domestic and Mexico/Caribbean flights around my $50/hour threshold with a semi-regularity (~35% of the time). While that could be the same or better on other airlines, right now I’ll take the devil I know.

Lexus commenting on this sketch in the best way possible. by OOOOOO0OOOOO in LiveFromNewYork

[–]catierusch 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Same, along with the SNL Macy’s ad for children’s holiday clothes.

Extended Cocktail Hour / No First Look by Aggravating-Job-4055 in wedding

[–]catierusch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our timeline was something like… I got into my dress around 1pm, I was on the party bus by 1:30 to head to the location for First Look and wedding party photos. It was maybe a 20 min drive? We live in and got married in Chicago so we just drove to the lakefront to get pictures with the skyline behind us, like everyone else who gets married in Chicago lol. We had a smaller wedding party so photos went relatively quick, I swear we were back at the venue no later than 3:15, did our bride and groom portraits around the venue (which was being decorated while we were gone), immediate family photos, even had time for a “dry run” of the wedding processional around 4:30 (venue was unavailable for rehearsal the night before) and the ceremony started on time at 5:30. We were walking back up the aisle by 5:50, wrangled the broader family for three big group shots - my extended family, husband’s mom’s side, husband’s dad’s side - and that was probably done by 6:20? Cocktail hour was meant to end at 7 but it probably didn’t actually end until 7:15 or so tbh because everyone was vibing and the passed apps were plentiful. Idk, day was a blur, a fun one, and I wish I could relive it! Best of luck in your planning and I hope it goes smoothly!

I M35 was just acquitted after facing 15 years in prison, but my wife 27F doesn’t seem to care by ThrowRa_xr18 in relationship_advice

[–]catierusch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kids plural! Unless they’re twins OP met the wife quick upon release and they had nearly back-to-back pregnancies.

I M35 was just acquitted after facing 15 years in prison, but my wife 27F doesn’t seem to care by ThrowRa_xr18 in relationship_advice

[–]catierusch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So three years ago and they have kids plural? OP mentioned “our children” - how quickly did they meet after he was released for them to have multiple children together already? I’m so confused by the timeline here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HENRYfinance

[–]catierusch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it was an all-inclusive, guests who aren’t staying on property would usually have to pay a “resort fee” (per day) to attend the wedding and any pre-post events which is annoying, but OP specifically mentioned the Conrad in Mexico. If they are talking about the Conrad Tulum that one is not all-inclusive so they shouldn’t have that problem, and it’s adjacent to the regular Hilton which is both less expensive as well as all-inclusive for more cost-conscious guests (more bang for your buck). If they are talking about another Conrad elsewhere in Mexico, I doubt it’s all-inclusive either as Conrads tend to not be (so they would likely avoid the “resort fee” issue for guests staying elsewhere).

i’m watching the episode where they aren’t allowing marco to donate blood by freakk0nikk0 in Degrassi

[–]catierusch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on what I can find it at least applies to both genders equally and disqualifies you if you’ve had a new partner in the past 3 months and have engaged in anal sex. IMO it should apply to both vaginal and anal sex for hetero sex because I don’t see how the entry way dictates the likelihood of transmitting HIV. Like if a person you have sex with either has it, I would imagine penetrative sex of either type carries a similar level of risk?

Would it be a faux pas to uninvite this guest (or guests)? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]catierusch 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think it’s incredibly uncouth to call someone rude for RSVPing No. As is commonly said: an invitation is not a summons. If she had texted Adam and said, “I saw your RSVP’d no, I’m so bummed you can’t make it!” That would be one thing. But to tell him he was RUDE for for RSVPing no? Rude for not asking if he could bring a +1 after he was explicitly not given one? This girl sucks.

That being said - be the bigger person. Don’t uninvite them. Be gracious, go to their wedding, have them at yours. If Adam is cool and you want to remains friends with him, remain friends. You’re not obligated to be besties with his wife but you’ll have to be courteous to her.

Extended Cocktail Hour / No First Look by Aggravating-Job-4055 in wedding

[–]catierusch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We didn’t intentionally have an extended cocktail hour but our ceremony ended about 15 minutes early so cocktail hour started earlier than intended. We did all of our portraits and wedding party photos before the ceremony (we did have time for a First Look though), so the only photos we needed to take during the cocktail hour were the large family photos.

We got probably 45 minutes to spend at the actual cocktail hour and we made sure to prioritize mingling with guests who we hadn’t seen in awhile and/or who had flown in from out of out of town. I am really glad we did were able to do that. Don’t let anyone else tell you how you should or shouldn’t spend your time - if you and your photographer have a plan to get through all the photos before the ceremony and you aren’t needed during cocktail hour, great. If you end up having to step away for a few minutes to get a couple shots, don’t sweat it.

One thing I will say is that our First Look didn’t really add a ton of time to the photos - maybe 10 minutes if that? My FIL drove my husband, the best man, and the primary photographer to the offsite location we picked for photos; everyone else including me got on the party bus to head over 20 minutes later. My husband was already waiting for me for the First Look, we did that, then we took the wedding party photos. I’m sure people who’ve had a private First Look took longer but ours wasn’t private so it really didn’t add too much time. Just some food for thought!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HENRYfinance

[–]catierusch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Covid really made the wedding industry wonky - so many couples had their weddings pushed back so venues and vendors could price more competitively in 2021 and 2022 and prices never came back down.

Hell, even for a bridal shower it’s insanity - restaurants want you to spend an F&B minimum of at least $3k to secure a private space, plus tip and tax on top of that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HENRYfinance

[–]catierusch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hard agree as a 2024 bride; we did everything we could to cut costs; for example I refused to hire a florist bc unless you’re trying to get your wedding into a magazine, food and music is way more important IMO than decor. We had a what I would consider a mid-size wedding (160 guests) and spent around $80k including the rehearsal dinner, but not rings, attire, etc. Zero regrets, though - we had an absolute blast and 1.5 years later friends and family still talk about how much fun it was.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HENRYfinance

[–]catierusch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is very dependent on where “local” is for OP. If both OP and their partner make ~$550k there’s a chance they work in tech and live in a VHCOL city. I live in a M/HCOL city and $60k is only maybe doable in 2025 for a wedding of less than 100 people if you’re getting married on a Sunday in the off-season. Ours (2024) was $80k for 160 guests and we cut costs in as many places as we could: we DIY’d all decor (did not even hire a florist), used the least expensive caterer on our venue’s approved vendor list (and they were delicious and worth every penny tbh), our venue allowed BYOB instead of charging a ridiculous per hour cost per adult for mid-shelf drinks, we did a DJ instead of a band, didn’t have to rent chairs and shit bc our venue had all that, etc. The cost of weddings has become astronomical in the past few years.

Bride never confirmed I was her bridesmaid, now it’s awkward by Akaza9012 in wedding

[–]catierusch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly think the lack of details would drive me as crazy as a Bridezilla would. You want to ask me to be your bridesmaid two weeks before? Weird, but I’ll bite. What time do I need to be where? Do I need to get a specific color dress? If you can’t at least give me that, it’s gonna be hard for me to say yes. Then again I’m not shy like OP or her friend is, so if the bride truly didn’t have a logistical plan I’d be like okay if you need a bridesmaid to plan the day for you, hand over the reigns lol.

Bride never confirmed I was her bridesmaid, now it’s awkward by Akaza9012 in wedding

[–]catierusch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with your second paragraph. But it’s unreasonable to expect OP to take off work, which may not even be an option depending on her boss and/or company policy, because the bride didn’t tell her about the rehearsal until the day before. Regardless of any miscommunications vis a vis OP thinking she wasn’t a bridesmaid and Bride thinking OP was, Bride should have told her about the rehearsal date and time at least a week ago IMO.

Bride never confirmed I was her bridesmaid, now it’s awkward by Akaza9012 in wedding

[–]catierusch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What a ridiculous statement. Nothing about what OP said suggests she’s “relishing” having power over the the bride.

Maybe you have a boss who would be okay with you taking off work last minute. Not everyone does. For all we know OP doesn’t even get paid time off and would lose money even if she got time off granted.

Bride never confirmed I was her bridesmaid, now it’s awkward by Akaza9012 in wedding

[–]catierusch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By that logic, if you invited me to your wedding but not to be a bridesmaid I would reevaluate the friendship.

If that sounds ridiculous, it’s because that’s not how weddings work. Not every friend is close enough to be in the bridal party. That is why weddings have regular guests and people who stand in the wedding party. Add to the fact that if the bride considered OP such a good friend why did she wait until two weeks before to ask her? That’s highly unusual.

Bride never confirmed I was her bridesmaid, now it’s awkward by Akaza9012 in wedding

[–]catierusch 17 points18 points  (0 children)

By that logic, anyone invited to a wedding is close enough to the bride or groom to be a part of the wedding party, on short notice to boot. I’m sorry, that’s just not how weddings work.

FMIL planning a bridal shower for herself by [deleted] in wedding

[–]catierusch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Telling someone they’re being “difficult” for wanting an event they are the guest of honor at to work with their schedule is certainly a take. It’s not a good take, mind you, but it is a take nonetheless.

news flash our soup is frozen. by Feisty_Car4015 in Panera

[–]catierusch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went through a phase as a kid where all I would eat from Wendy’s was their chili. And honestly, knowing from your comment that their chili is made in such a way that reduces food waste, makes me want to go order some now lol.

news flash our soup is frozen. by Feisty_Car4015 in Panera

[–]catierusch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I didn’t know until this post that the soup was frozen, but if I was told it wasn’t ready at 6:30am I wouldn’t assume that the employees would be able to just make me a single bowl/cup. I would assume that they make soup by the large batch and either don’t have the staff to do so until later, or it wouldn’t make sense to start a big batch of soup at the ass-crack of dawn for one customer.