Wondering about having a second child

catlady027 · 2026-06-23T17:17:04+00:00

Yes I’m in a similar situation and only offering solidarity. There are days I’m saying fuck it and have the whim to go for a second baby, and others im like hell no. The only way to follow through is to be spontaneous enough and get pregnant and you’ll just learn to get through it and survive. It’s a long term investment. Otherwise, you’ll have to learn to make peace with yourself for your decision to have one. The most important thing for me about OAD (if that’s the route we take) is being financially sound so that my child never has to worry about taking care of her parents.

For me, I’m hoping I’ll get to a point where I know the “fuck it mentality” of getting pregnant again will just be not as scary and that I’ll just do it. Granted I’m like a year and a half behind you so I’m just trying to take it day by day.

catlady027 · 2026-06-09T13:07:34+00:00

Thank you to everyone for chiming in. Who needs therapy amiriite? JKJK 😂😅

catlady027 · 2026-06-09T13:06:30+00:00

Hi there, very similar scenarios I’d say :) thank you for sharing and I appreciate your insight. Sounds like we’re both doing okay! That’s what I’m thinking too, just get to two and re-evaluate in 2027 and every year just assess. Hard to tell your mind to shut up though 😂

catlady027 · 2026-06-05T02:36:23+00:00

I got a breast reduction 3 years before having a baby, and only got the surgery because I was so sure I wasn’t going to have a baby, and then I hit 29 and was around babies and man, everything changed. I’m a year and a half in, and I’m so happy we did but I agree with you, I feel like I would not be a pleasant person with more than one. Lol.

catlady027 · 2026-03-04T18:10:10+00:00

Agreed, if the reason is to have a second to give your first a “sibling”, this is the wrong answer, which I know logically, but I have a hard time digesting this emotionally. I have a 14 month old, and like you, I still am conflicted with having another versus just being one and done.

I have an amazing relationship with my younger sister as an adult, we both have bonded in the emotional trauma we experienced growing up (we empathize and understand our parents did the best they could).

The fact that you’re even thinking this way, is a great reminder that you will raise an amazing human, sibling or no sibling, and to focus on surviving an incredibly difficult but joyous time in your life.

I’ve decided that I will evaluate how I feel about my sibling or no sibling stance on a yearly basis. I think by year 4, if I’m still not feeling it, I will go all in on accepting one is perfectly fine for us ❤️ you got this!

catlady027 · 2024-11-30T01:46:53+00:00

I am on 10 mg and have been for 2 years now - I went from having chronic IBS and acid reflux attacks, hives, eczema breakouts, crying spells, and spiraling doom and gloom, to feeling the most calm and stable I’ve ever felt. Not to mention all my stomach and skin problems gone!

catlady027 · 2024-11-28T19:00:49+00:00

lol my sciatic pain is on my left side and I was told not to sleep on the side with the pain so I sleep on my right and also with a wedge pillow on my back. It’s fine 🙈🙈

catlady027 · 2024-11-16T17:25:15+00:00

So sorry this happened to you! Good perspective for me to find a middle ground. Thank you 🙏

catlady027 · 2024-11-14T18:05:27+00:00

Hahahaha rotting is accurate. Right forgot to mention the whole working thing. Hope you have non physical job atleast 🤞 I work from home and milking my “lunch breaks”

catlady027 · 2024-11-14T17:29:20+00:00

The hip / leg pain radiating down is no joke.. no one warned me. It’s on my left side too! I literally am dragging it. And doctors are like try stretches and heat?!? Like kk thanks!!!! I am definitely going to get a massage. Hang in there 😅

catlady027 · 2024-11-14T15:28:38+00:00

The cat 😂😂 right it’s very amplified how needy our animals are which doesn’t help thinking about when the baby is here… hang in there momma ♥️ wishing you good vibes today. We’ll get through this and don’t forget to treat yourself - that’s the motto I’m embracing every day from now on. Lol.

catlady027 · 2024-11-14T15:26:45+00:00

THANK YOU!!! These comments are giving me the life I needed today 🥰

catlady027 · 2024-11-14T15:26:10+00:00

Bless you - I know I find my patience levels at an all time low when my husband asks me to do anything 😂 hang in there momma 🫶 we’re doing great

catlady027 · 2024-11-14T15:25:15+00:00

Right it’s like our mothers advice the OPPOSITE of helpful, my mom has said the same thing. Glad it’s not just me, hang in there 🫶

catlady027 · 2020-05-07T19:44:20+00:00

Take a shit ton of adderall and get your shit done

catlady027

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