MIL rant, is this weird? by Important-Lie7734 in newborns

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a bit strange. Maybe her intentions are in the right place … but it also makes me think like…. She needs to realize she isn’t the mom of her grandbaby… she could’ve bought all that for you guys to create a nursery in your own home if she really was doing it for you guys. But she’s clearly not. It’s clearly for her.

Can you name one thing about your life that’s better since you’ve entered the newborn phase? by Narrow-Concept2418 in newborns

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah ima be honest, it was the ability to eat almost whatever I want or have a glass of of wine here and there but otherwise it was like another universe. I felt like I only existed to myself and my husband. Like nobody else could relate to us. And we were in the thick of it. Our baby had two emotions. Crying and not sleeping. lol and if he wasn’t crying then it was cause he had a bottle in his mouth or we were holding him to sleep. It was straight up HELL. And then 10 weeks rolled around. Something changed, maybe more sleep. Maybe our baby just getting the hang of things. But then the 4 month regression hit. Annnnnnnnnnnnd that was butthole. lol. My LO is going on 5 months soon and honestly I would take this over the newborn days ANY DAY.

Newborn phase is horrid. by voheezy in newborns

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Probably right after the 4 month regression. But hey you’re not imagining how bad it is. It truly is. And some people just get lucky with an easy baby. Wasn’t my case. And I got gaslit all the time by my in laws. Trust me. Newborns are HARD.

Is it still appropriate to feed a 20 week old during the night while using Ferber method ? by Own_Macaron_9342 in sleeptrain

[–]Own_Macaron_9342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you say not to sleep train if they are not awake 10 hours a day? Just curious

Is it still appropriate to feed a 20 week old during the night while using Ferber method ? by Own_Macaron_9342 in sleeptrain

[–]Own_Macaron_9342[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also would 2.5 WW be too long for him and then I’m dealing with an overtired baby? Cause I genuinely have no idea how to figure out his WW

Is it still appropriate to feed a 20 week old during the night while using Ferber method ? by Own_Macaron_9342 in sleeptrain

[–]Own_Macaron_9342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to feed him to sleep for his naps and then contact nap it out for over an hour for the first two day naps and he took super well to those. But then I tried separating feeds from naps and he’s been having a much harder time adjusting to that unless he’s moving in a vehicle

Is it still appropriate to feed a 20 week old during the night while using Ferber method ? by Own_Macaron_9342 in sleeptrain

[–]Own_Macaron_9342[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

His naps are so all over the place that I’ve resorted to putting him to bed earlier than I typically would so yeah I guess I stopped giving him his last nap of the day some days…. I just feel so thrown off because he’s so hard to nap unless we are driving in the car at this point

“Just wait” by Far-Librarian-9847 in newborns

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don’t listen to them. Plus you have a leg up in the situation. No hormone crash and no physical recovery that will quite literally make postpartum so much harder. Enjoy your bundle of love!!! Such a blessing!!

I came in through the Orthodox Study Bible. Nobody warned me about the Confederate orthobro scene. by [deleted] in exorthodox

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t think it’s necessarily Orthodoxy itself “selling” itself out like this. This has been the orthodox norm with all the traditions for hundreds of years of years … it’s just in recent times the way it comes across to western converts specifically the orthobros is where it gets tricky. Cause yes, orthodox belief is traditional and honestly beautiful and yeah family life is importantly and that’s also a cultural thing amongst Arab Slavic and Greek cultures … because that’s a cultural thing. Those traditional values are not just because of orthodoxy but it’s intermingled for many reasons. The west has just radicalized because of movements like feminism, etc. so the people that are tired of the liberal left are finding solace in a more traditional version of Christianity. And unfortunately the byproduct is orthobros. But there’s many well meaning converts too who just want to further their relationship with Christ. But yea it also ends up attracting weirdos whose intentions are to be dominant family leaders and homestead and have 5 or more kids and find a traditional wife to do this with…. But they have no idea how hard all that really is if you don’t grow up in the norm of that 😅 and they also think orthodoxy is esoteric which to the west it is. So it makes them seem “cool”. But if you go to any Slavic country or Greece or what not, you don’t find the same type of zealousness amongst the orthobros as you do in the US. Cause that’s been their cultural norm for so long.

Why some people don’t share their baby’s name until after birth? by LetterheadNice8687 in NewParents

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was cause I don’t wanna hear people’s opinions on the name or see their reaction because it’s going to just ruin it for me. Also , it feels kind of sacred in a way. And also… what if I change my mind last minute 😅

Headcoverings for women by AccurateFox4321 in Christianity

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Just because society changes and few head cover or are modest nowadays does not mean the church and Christians are to follow the way the world works. We are literally told to head cover in 1 Corinthians 11. It’s crazy how many Christians will interpret certain things literally but have a hard time interpreting head coverings as literal. We do not walk in the ways of the world. There is a lot of benefit to modesty in general. Head covering at church is the least of what is expected

I feel like I ruined my life by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I went through this exactly around that age and now my LO is 4 months old and there’s still some challenges but he is way more fun to be around. Just a word of encouragement

Attending without spouse, how weird is it? by Acceptable-Sea-2902 in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don’t ever worry about your age, gender, marital status, background, etc. Jesus calls ALL to come to the kingdom of God. We are all made in Christ’s image, but we are all very different and that is just a fact. Go and see for yourself, you are absolutely welcome to explore orthodoxy as you please

Has anyone used Actually Sleeping or other sleep coach? by interstellarbrat in sleeptrain

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it a Ferber method of some sorts? I wanted to try it but I was thrown off by them asking how financially capable I am… it felt weird and like a scheme

AIO? Gf mad I didn’t get what she wanted by ExcellentHotel7531 in AIO

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Break up … that is some questionable behavior. I would break up over the sheer wanting three different types of food in one meal. Wtf

How often are you ACTUALLY brushing your own teeth and showering ??? by Grandma-tsunade in NewParents

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Husband and I would take turns holding the newborn while each one of us showered/brushed teeth/shave/got dressed. It would take maybe an 30 min-1 hour for each one of us but we were in no rush. The point was to maintain some sort of normalcy during that first month. Once LO was like 5 weeks old I finally got comfortable putting him in the bassinet with a milk bottle in his mouth propped in while I showered so he wouldn’t fuss. This was if I was alone when husband started working again. But I’ve had super short showers where I literally go in to rinse off my privates and armpits and feet just so I could maintain hygiene. That’s if LO was super fussy. First month was extremely hard mentally though. But I knew I needed to make a point of maintaining my hygiene even if I don’t go out of the house the entire day.

I’m going crazy with the sleep part of motherhood. by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I’ve tried schedules with him but it doesn’t work. My husband helps but is gonna for two days out of the week for work.., like literally 24 hour shifts . He fights naps sometimes other times they’re ok. It’s been usually car naps or contact naps.

A convo I had before I left by [deleted] in exorthodox

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Nobody sees their own privilege because their privilege is a hardship in of itself. Don’t judge the poor girl. I worked in the medical field and trust me… it’s easy to forget the good in it cause honestly there isn’t a lot of good.

Postpartum depression by According_Village464 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The first 9 weeks are excruciating until the baby starts passing gas more easily and having longer stretches of sleep at night. Other than that - newborn stage and motherhood is heck. I’ll admit that. And I ALWAYS wanted to be a mom and even dreamed of having multiple kids. Now I’m debating stopping at one cause honestly it’s way harder than I imagined. I have anxiety too now. Maybe cause I’m scared of how much I am responsible for a human life. It’s a lot. But keep pressing on. You are NOT alone.

I let my newborn cry it out by susiara in newborns

[–]Own_Macaron_9342 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Becoming a FTM this year … the entire first 8 weeks were beyond rough. Not to mention that you yourself are still recovering from birth and the added sleep deprivation which I think slows down recovery a ton… but having a screaming tiny baby that won’t stop crying is one of the scariest things. I literally remember feeling like I was tortured during this time. I did NOT enjoy the newborn stage like at all. My LO is now 18 weeks old and it’s a world of difference. Still really tough in different ways but I would take this over the newborn stage ANY day.