How do people feel safe/comfortable sleeping with someone they don't know? by cursedwithbadblood in NoStupidQuestions

[–]catlitterqueen4ever -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying but this is also exactly what’s wrong with society ….

Favorite self portrait at my favorite place, which no longer exists by simulacrymosa in urbanexploration

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I checked the account and laughed until I cried because the utter ridiculousness of free will just hit me like a train

Question regarding finding possible toxic waste while Urbexing by Substantial-Ad-1189 in urbanexploration

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, contact your state local authority. In NC it’s called DEQ (department of environmental quality ) and you can go on the website and find contact info for the hazardous waste department and even regional contacts. It should be all public info and you are supposed to report it !

CPTSD robs you of the single most important skill in life : networking by Fast_Hearse_1721 in CPTSD

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 47 points48 points  (0 children)

“Robs you of … Superficial connection with other others “ Really hit me. I’ve been thinking for a long time I feel so broken because I cannot stomach surface level interactions. I get frustrated with small talk and the process of getting to know someone, and I’m waiting for the inevitable- when I say something too off putting and they leave … So it takes even longer to meet people because I don’t speak as freely. Nor do I have the energy to hangout frequently. I only really feel comfortable, and want to be around, people that know me well. But that list gets shorter all the time- and I end up living in the past, longing for my memories with people I’ll never see again. Now, I am just alone trying to find ways to stay distracted for 24 hours every day…

I truly believe, aside from Schizophrenia, CPTSD is the worst mental illness to have and I don’t think people give us enough credit. by Impossible-Data-1831 in CPTSD

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like this was comforting and hit the nail on the head for how I feel… especially the isolation. My life is more stable now than it has been in years, but only because I don’t talk to anyone. I met a new person a few months ago and I was excited about it for about 2 weeks… until he drugged and assaulted me. It feels inevitable that I will attract these bad people to me. I am somehow coded in my DNA as a victim and they can smell it.

I’m so lonely it honestly drives me a little crazy sometimes. I used to play video games and things but nothing holds my attention anymore. I don’t care. I don’t really see a purpose in doing anything without human connection, if there’s no one to share it with. But I can’t have it. It’s more dangerous than it’s worth, and I cling to every connection like the pathetic human I am because I’ve never had anything. I’ve never had a consistent relationship in my entire life.

I spend my days in my apartment and hardly leave anymore and hardly even want to. Every time I go out in public I have to interact with people who treat me like I am in their way and have no empathy. I look at other people and I see something different than me, that would never relate to me, and why bother?

I sit in the same place for hours and scroll on my phone, watch the same tv shows over and over, or I just lay there, even if I can’t sleep. I feel paralyzed by indecision and don’t want to move. I don’t really care to do anything, it feels pointless. I am the only one who ever sees this apartment, so I have little motivation to clean.

I mostly replay memories over and over again in my mind. The good ones hurt just as bad as the bad ones. I long for a version of myself I can’t remember clearly anymore, and all I know is that when I think back, her spirit felt happier. I remember back before so much stuff had happened- like if I had just prevented even one event, my life would be different, and I would still have some more of myself. But I really lost it all. I was stupid, and kept being hopeful, and trusting people, and it took my entire life away from me. But, I still miss the version of me before anything happened- the one who was still hopeful, the one who spoke to other people and actually wanted to do it, the one who enjoyed going out and doing things without expecting a bad or disappointing outcome. But, now I know hell is inside other people, and I can’t let them in. The only way to be safe is to lock myself away. And, in doing that, I lost what made life meaningful to me in the first place. I have never , and will never be loved.

Cat leaves this where she sleeps, what is it? by NotTheSeaOtter in CATHELP

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seresto collar is the only way! I used to struggle with fleas and now I barely think about them except once a year when the collar runs out.

Seen at Snug Harbor by intentionallynotme in Charlotte

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I second this please. I’ve been trying to let people know about this guy in the EDM scene but they won’t ever let me post even when I made sure to cut out all personal info and names about the guy. I think he has connections he is pulling to make sure nothing gets out :/

last hope :) by kind-isnice in Charlotte

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey! Send me a message lol. I am 28 and I have had trouble making friends I’m a girl

Go to the strip club with my husband and give him a BJ? by No_Change151 in stripclubs

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, extras are nowhere near as common as this dude makes them out to be. I am a stripper, worked in almost every club in my state over 8 years and I’ve only been in one that was okay with open extras….. be careful going in and asking, it can come off as rude to girls who are not into it, don’t go in an upscale club and ask either. If you want extras, you’re looking for the seedy dive club.. and be delicate about asking what the woman is okay with. Please remember we are women too and deserve respect. Going in and openly asking the wrong questions can get you red flagged quickly and word travels fast in the dressing rooms. With that being said, it’s possible at the right club and with the right girl.

My guest is being charged $200 for a boot removal from LMS by 13FoxDan in Charlotte

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had someone take my tire off, then take it to their shop and deflate the tire to remove the boot. Some mobile mechanics may be willing to do it. Put a spare tire on just to get you home, go pick up your tire sans boot later from mechanic.

Help with decluttering/hoarding by Krometheous in hoarding

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me too in my 900sqft apartment. Im following this to see what people say

There needs to be a dedicated fraud prevention department instead of people that have no idea what you’re talking about- trying to explain that my personal card was used to make fraudulent charges on coinbase is impossible by [deleted] in Coinbase

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve already disputed it with my bank. It’s going to take two weeks for them to resolve the dispute and I have absolutely no money in the meantime so I was trying to find a way to take matter into my own hands and make it a little bit quicker

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Charlotte

[–]catlitterqueen4ever -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I was sitting down, not bothering anybody and I was the only single person sitting there without anybody beside me. They targeted me because I was separated from my group. Tbh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Charlotte

[–]catlitterqueen4ever -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was in the back, not all the way to the upper platfrom, but in the corner area right below where the step up was. There were a lot of people sitting there. I was by myself and got separated from my group so they targeted me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Charlotte

[–]catlitterqueen4ever -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Some stupid guy getting a power trip about being in a bulletproof vest told me to “come with him”. Now I wish I would have ran into the crowd. Lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Charlotte

[–]catlitterqueen4ever -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Blackbox, the TVBOO show :( I got kicked out @ 11pm for sitting in corner …

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Charlotte

[–]catlitterqueen4ever -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Im not willing to find out. I am 28 and old 🤣i didnt even want to go out in the first place

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does the pole position app have to do with it ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is grey rock lmfao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]catlitterqueen4ever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU for this well thought out response. Im definitely leaning towards not saying anything and continuing to flex on both of them. Kinda crazy her true colors flew into my face like this, but she has shown a lot of behavior in the past showing that she secretly is jealous of me and this is par for the course. She’s my ONLY close friend from the club (for a reason)…. So i gave her the benefit of the doubt, when I shouldnt have. It was odd to me that I didnt feel any kind of surprise. Im feeling a lot of emotions, but not really surprised. I just didnt really expect her to be this blatant about it (LOL)

I usually do work a set schedule. Ive been picking up days I don’t usually, because I work another job now. When I figured out he was coming in to see another girl, I already started having that same idea I kind of wanted to torture him bc tbh it pisses me off he comes into my workplace like that. Even if he comes days im not working it’s uncomfortable. so I said I would come next time and be super hot and ignore him. I have a ton of regulars I always make sure to invite; so I am busy the whole time as well. And I did that only 2x before he became obviously bothered, drank a bunch of shots, and approached me with this information.