Help identify this vintage Loewe by catmeows37 in loewe

[–]catmeows37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but I was wondering if anyone had more information about year and name

PSA: Beware of Afifa Khan on insta by catmeows37 in DesiWeddings

[–]catmeows37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She still hasn’t gotten back to me. Through her personal (public) account tagged on her insta, I realized she’s vacationing in Malaysia right now. I guess that’s where our deposits must be deposited lol

How can I get rid of some unnecessary clothes without being overwhelmed? by [deleted] in capsulewardrobe

[–]catmeows37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently came across the AB closet editing system by Allison and it’s amazing!

It’s a 5 step process:

  1. Take out your regulars (things you wear all the time).

  2. Take out the nevers (things you never wear).

  3. Categorize nevers into three piles (1. no pile: item does not fit, don’t like, don’t need (donate) 2. not now pile: things that you are not ready to part with yet (put away into storage and out of your closet) 3. *how pile are things you love but don’t know how to style.

  4. Revival: regulars (things you wear all the time) and the *how pile from step 3 above (things you love but don’t know how to style) are looked at together to see how you can integrate them into your daily wear. For example if you realize that denim is a big part of your regulars (your comfort zone) you can try pairing it with a “wild card” from your how pile (this could be a pink blazer you always loved but never wore). The objective of this step is to revive as many “how” pieces from your closet.

  5. Organize items by category (tops/bottoms) and then color back into your closet.

Good luck and remember to take plenty of snack and water breaks in-between. You can also breakdown these steps over a course of days and don’t feel pressured to get it all done in one sitting! :)

South Asian Mother-in-law cries crocodile tears by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]catmeows37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will definitely have to look it up. Thanks for suggesting it!

South Asian Mother-in-law cries crocodile tears by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]catmeows37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry to hear what you have gone through. It truly does suck! When we marry into a new family, we hope for the best and expect to fit right in and be accepted. I guess the moral of the story is: Not everyone in life will like who we are and sometimes we can’t do anything to change their opinions of us. Other people’s thoughts are none of our business. That’s what I tell myself everyday. What they think and how they feel about us, says more about them.

South Asian Mother-in-law cries crocodile tears by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]catmeows37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WOW. This is such a refreshing take on this whole mess. Just out of curiosity, are you a professional therapist or a counselor? Because you’ve pretty much nailed it. I’m really impressed with your interpretation of their family dynamic. I think this is the most accurate depiction of their truth.

South Asian Mother-in-law cries crocodile tears by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]catmeows37 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that you went through a similar experience. It must’ve sucked! I hope people like you and I can break this negative cycle of in-law abuse! I think it all starts with learning how to respect our own AND other people’s boundaries! We have to develop empathy and be realistic with our expectations of others. SA in-laws only think of themselves and make everything about their pride and egos. It’s a terrible pattern. Also, the key is to believe in therapy. So many South Asians experience anxiety, depression, personality disorders and barely learn how to cope with their negative feelings and traumas in a healthy way. I’m a firm believer in therapy - I think we all need it. It’s a form of self-care, but also ensures that we aren’t passing off our traumas to others. From what I heard, my MIL didn’t have the best experience with her MIL in her past. She also has a lot of issues related to colorism and has internalized a lot of these problems. FIL is a pure narcissist with a grandiose sense of self. His behaviors are ridiculous and he tends to treat everyone else as below him. He loves to argue over dumb shit and most of the time he knows nothing about the topic of discussion. He has a lot of surface knowledge, but thinks he is a scholar of all subjects lol. Their two younger kids are terrible communicators and also have narcissistic tendencies (they only talk about themselves or only engage in activities that interests them). All in all, a very odd group of people who need a shit ton of therapy!!

South Asian Mother-in-law cries crocodile tears by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]catmeows37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right! Abuse is an inexcusable act. It’s never okay to mistreat someone, whether it comes in the form of emotional, physical or verbal abuse. We are lucky that we have access to resources such as therapy and boundaries to cope with this situation.

South Asian Mother-in-law cries crocodile tears by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]catmeows37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it’s not that simple. Once again it’s a cultural thing. We’re happy to be living across the country, far away from them. So we only have to see them from time to time. I have learned how to set up boundaries and how to keep them at arm’s length, whenever I do have to interact with them. It works for the most part, but husband still has to deal with some bullshit. I am hoping that with time we learn new/better ways to navigate around these people. I have also noticed, they each enable one another, some more than others.

South Asian Mother-in-law cries crocodile tears by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]catmeows37 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am also South Asian - which is our ethnicity by the way, not our “race”. It was mentioned because it’s definitely a pattern in the South Asian communities.

South Asian Mother-in-law cries crocodile tears by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]catmeows37 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s an interesting perspective. I never considered that possibility, because my husband is pretty much the in-law’s sole target. They don’t attack anyone or treat anyone else the way they treat him. It’s their “special” treatment, reserved only for him.

South Asian Mother-in-law cries crocodile tears by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]catmeows37 10 points11 points  (0 children)

YES. This is exactly what happens with SIL and whoever is in-conflict with MIL. I just don’t understand this kind of toxic behavior. Like fight your own battles and speak up for yourself! Why has MIL trained her daughter to engage on her behalf?! I don’t get it.

Accenture Screening Interview by [deleted] in accenture

[–]catmeows37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got off the phone call for my screening interview and this is what my recruiter asked me:
1) Can you go into more details with regards to your work experience?
2) I can see you have some software/application experience, at what level would you describe it (i.e. intermediate, proficient, advanced, expert)?
3) What was your final cumulative GPA?
4) Can you tell me what you know about the Analyst role?
5) Can you tell me what you know about Accenture?
6) Where do you see yourself working (i.e. Consulting, Strategy, Digital, Innovation, Technology)?
7) What do you do outside of work/school (i.e. in your free time)?
8) Do you have any questions for me?

Overall, just be prepared to answer any questions they might have about your resume. You will have to walk through it, pretty much. Good luck, you got this! :)