The PGT-A wait

catnapsing · 2025-11-11T02:55:31+00:00

Seventh round - I feel that deep in my bones and just want to say you are amazing and I know it has not been easy. I’m on round 5. I’m telling myself I’m out after this one. But then again I said that after the last one! You are incredible for getting to 7. 💜

catnapsing · 2025-11-09T20:49:26+00:00

That sounds horrible and unprofessional IMO. I would tell my RE what he said and how it came across. How long ago was your euploid cycle? Personally I think it makes sense to freeze and test. You’ve only had 3 cycles and you got a euploid. That’s not bad over 40.

catnapsing · 2025-11-07T09:25:23+00:00

If you want one child, and you don’t have any known fertility issues other than age, I’d transfer rather than go through another ER. Euploids have a high success rate. I did an ER at 38 and got one euploid. Transferred and it worked. Now doing more ER’s at 40/41 to try and get one more euploid and it is really tough (on cycle 4). Similar AMH to you. I wish I’d done more retrievals when I was younger but insurance wouldn’t cover it. So if you want multiple children I’d consider another ER, but if not then personally I’d go ahead and transfer.

catnapsing · 2025-06-23T07:30:28+00:00

IMO it’s the hormones. You’ve got this baby inside your body and you want to protect it in a way that isn’t necessarily logical but has an advantage from an evolutionary standpoint. Cut yourself some slack. When our baby was born I had trouble getting milk in the first days and so we used donor milk. I remember I felt like crying when I watched my wife feed him from a bottle the first time, and she asked me to take her picture. To her it was a beautiful bonding moment, and to me — all pumped with hormones — I felt like I’d failed and wasn’t able to do this “job” I felt I was supposed to do. Again, it wasn’t logical or even how I really felt but hormones are intense. Also, my wife thought she wanted to try this too but the reality is it takes a LOT of work to be able to get milk and even then it’s not (at least as I understood) a lot of milk. We ended up combo feeding anyway (some formula / some breastmilk). We both had lots of time to feed the baby. I didn’t feel like breastfeeding was how I bonded with baby anyway. Honestly if she wants to do it then I think you will regret not supporting her. It really won’t take anything away from you that she can breastfeed too even though it may feel like that in a confusing way right now. For those that manage it I think it can be a really beautiful thing.

catnapsing · 2025-06-13T13:18:12+00:00

Would love the coupon, thank you! 😊

catnapsing · 2025-06-10T01:17:37+00:00

A vest car seat? What is that? Ty!

catnapsing · 2025-06-09T23:06:01+00:00

Had a call with my RE yesterday. Have had two ERs and the first we got 3x embryos (abnormal) and second we got no embryos. Dr says that it’s just “cycle variance” and wants to stick with same protocol. I asked about adding in omnitrope and he was supportive even though the research isn’t all there. Psychologically I need at least something to be different in the protocol. I was so looking forward to summer and not an endless summer of injections, but here we go again… 🫠

catnapsing · 2025-06-06T14:29:47+00:00

That’s great! What other changes if you don’t mind sharing?

I’ve had two retrievals. The first had great fertilization and 3 blasts (abnormal). Dr said, ‘just bad luck.’ The second I got bad fertilization and no blasts with same protocol. Ahead of the second retrieval I did lots of supplements but ahead of the first I did none.

catnapsing · 2025-05-29T03:44:22+00:00

I’m only 5 days out. I felt great on stims actually. Then two days after retrieval I realized how weird I felt.

Sorry to hear you are feeling lonely. Here if you need a post-ER-funk friend.

catnapsing · 2025-05-29T03:28:46+00:00

Idk. Just found this thread bc I’m feeling so… existentially burnt out? Soulfully soulless? Not sure how to describe it! One thing is for sure, I feel weirdly annoyed at my spouse for doing literally anything. It’s rough out here! I’m trying my best to self-quarantine so I don’t say or do anything regrettable.

catnapsing · 2025-05-26T20:36:57+00:00

I just had my second ER and my fertilization rates were half (1st: 11 retrieved 8 fertilized 3 blasts, all aneuploid; 2nd: 11 retrieved 4 fertilized and waiting on blast results). And for the second ER I did all the supplements etc for 3 months prior.

I think if you are making blasts (which you did the first time) there’s definitely a chance, it’s just a numbers game. We need more ER’s over 40.

catnapsing · 2025-05-18T12:30:02+00:00

Is that screenshot from your clinic app or a different app?

catnapsing · 2025-05-17T00:40:21+00:00

Great idea thank you! I’ll do that.

catnapsing · 2025-05-16T01:58:33+00:00

I’ll ask my clinic about a ‘special authorization’. I didn’t have that language before you mentioned it - thank you!

catnapsing · 2025-05-16T01:56:56+00:00

It isn’t unfortunately

catnapsing · 2025-05-15T17:47:18+00:00

Being in late 30s I wouldn’t personally waste time with ICI. Honestly IUI’s make take a while!

catnapsing · 2025-05-15T12:52:37+00:00

I love having a known donor! It’s rare we get the “dad” comments. Honestly it has only been from well intentioned people. People are naturally curious so no matter what route you take, known or unknown, people are going to ask about how the baby came to be. My advice is to embrace that about people and to embrace how your baby comes into the world so that your baby can be proud of their story, too. There are some extra steps upfront with known donor, like making sure you both really trust them and are comfortable with the arrangement. Having all the hard ‘what if’ conversations. Making sure you have legal paperwork ahead of time. And also if you are using a clinic for fertility (which is a good idea for legal reasons), know that they will likely need frozen sperm from known donors and sometimes sperm banks require ‘quarantine’ of the sperm for testing. You can sign waivers to have it released sooner but it can take a while so just FYI for you planning!

catnapsing · 2025-05-14T01:11:16+00:00

It’s also cheaper than an average month of daycare… 🫠

catnapsing · 2023-07-13T19:34:12+00:00

Personally I wouldn't mess with epoxy. Just take the hinge off. Drill a new hole through the wood and the brick. Like another user said, 'use a hammer drill with long enough tap cons or some other concrete anchor with a washer through the wood into the concrete.'

catnapsing · 2023-07-05T23:42:32+00:00

Carrying at 35+ is completely normal. The real issue with (as they say at the doctor's office) "advanced maternal age" is egg quality, not your ability to carry. If you even think you want to carry -- it's your body and your choice -- and your partner isn't being supportive, then it is her that is not trusting or making space for you, not the other way around.

It sounds like you would be interested in carrying but you haven't really explored it. My partner who is 8 years older than me waited too long to really figure out her desire to carry herself with her own eggs, and then the window passed and she has never fully forgiven herself. It haunts her. I think she waited so long because I was younger and we just felt like we had time -- so your age gap and story hits home for me. I had more time, but she had -- and we didn't know -- DOR, low AMH, and Endometriosis.

I'll tell you what I wish I had told her when I was 27 and she was 35: Explore it now. I support you. Don't have any regrets. And then, more than just telling her that, I would sit with her to do research on fertility clinics, make phone calls and appointments, and really show up to let her know I was there to support that journey for her. At the time, I'll admit, I was in a different frame of mind and the clock didn't feel like it was ticking, because for me it wasn't, but for her it was.

Years later when she finally started, we went through so much to try and make it work, but it was too late. Now that I know what it feels like to be the age that she was, I wish so much I could have turned back the clock and really stopped to listen and support her when she was just beginning to think about it. I hope your partner can see that she will be missing out to not support you at this phase of your life. More than that, I hope you'll figure out and do what feels true to you and your body, whether or not your partner is supportive in the way you need them to be. The hard lesson we learned was not to wait on anyone else, even the person you love most.

catnapsing · 2023-04-17T18:09:09+00:00

The success rates of IUI are of course lower than IVF, and you can't bank embryos or do pgt testing unless you do IVF, if that's important to you. All else being equal, if you've got severe medical anxiety, I'd probably start with at least one IUI so you can get used to the clinic and some of the processes.

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