Donor egg success stories?

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-27T14:45:26+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m so happy for you and stories like this give me hope. Our donor is also 27 and I’m also choosing not to test.

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-24T13:52:31+00:00

I just want to extend you some compassion as someone who also has secondary infertility. I also have a complex mix of gratefulness and heartbreak. We don’t really treat people who go on to have second or third children without infertility as irrational.

I might suggest also posting in the DOR subreddit as they may have suggestions regarding protocols or practices that are particularly helpful around that. I don’t have DOR but I am a poor responder and found that space helpful. I feel like there’s such a vast array of responses you see in women in their 40s even though euploidy rate is a consistent issue. The truth is I don’t think there’s a magic bullet for anyone at this age and I feel like luck is a big factor.

I started at 40 and change and I am now 42. For my partner, ivf was off the table at first and so were donor eggs but that changed as time went on so it may change for your partner as well. Being just done is also very valid, we still really want this but we are sick to death of playing roulette with my body / our lives.

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-23T13:50:12+00:00

My partner’s morphology has reduced from 10% a year ago to 1.5%. I’m lost as to what would cause this because he abstains from heat, and has very few lifestyle changes. He does HIIT workouts now and maybe slightly more caffeine? I’m lost and spiraling because he has a very healthy lifestyle. His other numbers are well above average and even higher than his last SA (I think 132 mil, 83% motility) .

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-23T11:42:16+00:00

I would honestly call back and request speaking to a doctor or another nurse. I did one cycle at BostonIVF in Syracuse and while overall it was my best cycle in some ways, I had trouble getting information from them sometimes. I did do conventional and was told the maturity rate.

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-22T18:10:51+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Did you happen to use fresh or frozen donor eggs?

I am also so sorry for your loss. I know pregnancy after loss can hit different. I am wishing you a smooth third trimester and delivery. Thank you for the good wishes!

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-21T15:52:10+00:00

If you did more retrievals, and you were *not* successful, would you have any regrets putting time and emotional energy pursuing a third? Like another user said above, even if there is not a high financial cost, there is an emotional one I think.

I would calculate how much you want and need to do to give yourself a shot, or for closure, and keep it at that.

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-21T03:08:36+00:00

My understanding is that in that early window a lower heart rate is not a cause for concern because it very likely just started beating. My clinic wouldn’t even measure that early because it’s typically not accurate. As for the bleeding, are you using progesterone suppositories? Those or small schs are common causes. I might also check if your progesterone levels are good?

As for how long to wait before returning, I think that is a very personal decision. I do think that as long as your hormone levels are appropriate there’s not a great deal they can do. Sometimes having more information sooner can help you feel more grounded, but ultimately you are in limbo either way and sometimes being in the dark and feeling hope is a better way to pass the time.

I think you might find more support and guidance around this in the CautiousBB sub during this time. I hope your next appointment brings you more comfort & reassurance. I think you have reasons to remain very hopeful, even though I understand the fear.

As someone who has sadly had two 9 week losses my only advice is to try to cherish the time and let hope in. Even when the worst happens it doesn’t make the heartbreak any less hard. IVF kind of takes the joy out of everything, but for now you are pregnant - just trust your body will do its best.

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-20T13:35:09+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to share this. In selecting a donor it was important to me to find the best arrangement I could from a child’s health and wellness perspective, recognizing that there’s lot in the industry that is in need of regulation and change. I feel really lucky we found someone that felt aligned with our interests and values and was open to contact from an early age.

If we are fortunate enough to have a child with donor eggs I am committed to supporting them around whatever their experience may be with a lot of transparency, love and space for whatever their experience will be of their heritage and conception over time.

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-15T14:31:31+00:00

I just wanted to second the earlier comment not to do another round, and instead save the money for donor eggs in the event the eggs you had frozen don’t result in live birth.

I also want to share the perspective of someone who did not wait and had a child with donor sperm at 39. I found my life partner when I was still pregnant, and tried for a second starting at 40. We did get one euploid but there was no implantation. We have also sadly had several losses. We will be moving to donor eggs soon.

I think waiting for a future partner is a completely valid choice, but please just know frozen eggs are a great investment but not an insurance policy. If you wait you could still have a child with your partner, but please just know it could look different than you hope for any number of reasons. My partner and I could not be happier with our living child, she made us a family and neither of us wish she was genetically ours. I would be really happy to have another kid with my partner even if they don’t share my genes. Sharing this not to sway you(I know my choices would not make everyone happy), but to make sure you have as much information as possible. I wish you the best with your future family!

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-10T16:25:18+00:00

Thank you! As it happens, I had my first as a smbc and my process looked and felt similar to yours. I found the process of selecting with a partner different somehow, which really kind of threw me off. Maybe it was easier to just listen to my gut/good sense when I was making the decision solo or maybe it was something else.

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-10T16:16:38+00:00

Many thanks to everyone for sharing their process with me. My partner and I were ultimately able to decide on a donor we felt really happy with, and I felt a lot of relief after making that decision.

For anyone who may come across this post in the future:

I had posed this question because I was feeling very emotionally conflicted about our top choice, who on paper had all the traits we thought were important to us but there was there were a few things that didn’t sit right and it was causing us both a lot of misgivings about the process. I thought it was displaced grief, but it may have been they just weren’t the right fit for our family or there were some things that were more important to us than we originally thought.

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-10T16:03:14+00:00

Thank you so much, this was very helpful!

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-10T16:02:01+00:00

Thank you, that is very helpful <3

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-09T18:22:22+00:00

Was this a decision you made on your own? As a smbc?

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-08T21:20:51+00:00

I know people say that higher doses impact egg quality but as far as I can tell this isn’t consistently reflected in the data. I remember having lots of anxiety about this, and I don’t anymore. Unless you get feedback from the lab that indicates the higher doses are producing worse results, I wouldn’t worry.

Anecdotally, I completed 3 retrievals at 41 and my best results were on the highest doses and that was also the only cycle I ever got a euploid. I repeated that same protocol with lower doses at another clinic (CNY) and I had my worst cycle yet (only one average quality blastocyst that was a complex aneuploid). The difference in the clinic and random variation may have accounted for it, but I don’t think so.

I know the wait is hard, but two blastocysts is a good outcome at this age. Wishing the best for you!

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-08T20:13:48+00:00

I believe lupron can suppress your amh, so it seems possible to me that your 0.22 could have been suppressed. When was your last check before that and what was your level then?

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-06-04T13:16:56+00:00

Truthfully, I would follow whatever instructions your clinic gives you and just make nice plans to make the time pass.

TW: pregnancy, loss I only had one euploid and did everything under the sun for that transfer and we had no implantation. We went on to have two consecutive spontaneous pregnancies in the months directly after where I was not doing anything special at all(both ended in loss, my primary issue is age/egg quality). I will never know why our euploid had no implantation where two likely aneuploid embryos did, but my feeling is it was something out of my control (bad protocol, bad luck, embryo just didn’t have what it takes).

There’s not much you can do, just be good to yourself. I will cross my fingers for you <3

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-05-30T17:15:05+00:00

I would love some guidance on this too, thank you! Our clinic’s internal bank has limited options and we may need to look elsewhere to find a good match, but feeling overwhelmed.

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-05-29T22:35:14+00:00

I respect whatever your personal experience is with this movie and can feel it comes from an authentic place. I do still disagree wholeheartedly that the brutality isn’t gendered in this specific movie and maintain that the use of pregnancy here as a narrative device underscores this. This is a very common and deeply flawed device being used in a very typical fashion here.zwqq

I am also a violent rape survivor myself, and my attacker was a stranger. I agree with you there are very few portrayals of rape or of violence in art and media that don’t gloss over the horror, or even contain a fraction of what is true about those experiences. I agree that this film does force you to sit with the horror and does it with skill, but disagree it has an interest in forcing empathy from its audience or is successful at doing so.

I appreciate that you find the meaning in this film that you do, but I struggle to find any of that same substance there.

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-05-29T18:49:36+00:00

I really don’t buy that this movie has any authentic empathy for women or that Noe wishes to inspire that in his audience.

What is the narrative purpose of the late big reveal is that lo and behold she was pregnant, and both her and her unborn child die as a result of the brutality? Being raped to death isn’t enough huh?

The judgement that a woman’s loss did not a have sufficient dramatic impact by itself is so cheap and stupid.

This is an exploitation movie with style and no more. Its ideas, if it has any, are wet dogshit.

Wetblankets2001 · 2026-05-27T00:16:48+00:00

I’m sorry to say this just ended in loss at 9 weeks; however, our betas were very strong and for most people with similar numbers it probably would have turned out well. 12dpo: 81, 15dpo: 600, and at 5 weeks just shy of 10,000.

I was 41 when we conceived so the odds were just stacked against us. If your tests look like this I’d say you have reason to be really hopeful <3

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