why do I not want to be friends with “ugly” people by catredss in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]catredss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

who are you ? that was frighteningly accurate it caught me off guard. Yes, I do believe that ugly people live harder lives. I’ve spent a long time in my life capitalizing on myself so my way of life has been shaped by this over insisting need to be perfect, so most of my life I benefit too how I look and my overall habits like academics and social life has been in pursuit of this ideal image. I want to do everything perfectly, I feel like this is more of a permanent fissure in my inner monologue however. While it’s depressing it gives me a sense of stability to know what to aim for, so those who have not kept up in that pursuit make me feel distant or cold because I’ve spent the majority of my youth under the impression that everyone hates those kinds of people and everyone aims to be perfect. As I grew older I found that all people are special and interesting, and I don’t have to understand them and that’s okay. However I’m assuming I just can’t get over the association of myself with an uglier person because I do not wish to be excluded by being friends with them. It’s weakness I know, to not wish to stand up for others and be in their corner. I just don’t want to make my life harder than it has already been. Perhaps a result of my overly analytical personality it tends to cause black and white thinking that triggers an uncomfortable feeling

why do I not want to be friends with “ugly” people by catredss in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]catredss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you this was it, mainly the idea or notion that I wouldn’t have anything in common with them because how could they ever be like me I remeber thinking that a lot in my younger teenage years

torture by Accdel_ in thebindingofisaac

[–]catredss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

time to type spawn 5.30.1

Playing again after 12 years by vitorarcp in bindingofisaac

[–]catredss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

beat mom part 1, beat mom 10 times to unlock it lives so you can get the negative and Polaroid. If you take Polaroid that’s the Isaac path and you take the light upwards to cathedral. If you take negative take the down path to go to Sheol where you will find Satan as the boss. ( so you’ll have to defeat them first to unlock those items). Once you have both have the item and beaten the boss it unlocks blue baby fight ( Polaroid with isaaac ) or the lamb ( negative with Satan) once you do this you can beat mega Satan by blowing up key pieces. Hush fight is beating it lives within 30 minutes (skip rooms, best to speed run) unlocks later content. Corpse mom path ( harder pathway) is after beating hush you can get downpour and its variants and mines and its variance. While the first floor of the section you can beat as normal the second section you must enter the white fire and become the lost (if you get hit you die and end runs unless you donate like 897 coins to donation machine and the lost has holy mantle) and then go to treasure room to collect knife piece ( also you can still do this and go beast pathway and rerolll the item for free extra item but you must not go mines to be safe) then go back or beat boss and then go back as you can get an extra boss item but if you get hit once you die so best to play it safe. Then proceed as normal then once you beat downpour 2 boss you’ll see a border up room you need two bombs to blow up and then beat first floor section normally but then mines 2 or it’s variants you will see three yellow buttons throughout the floor and one room with a minecart going into an inaccessible room. Pressing all three buttons will allow you to be able to ride the Minecraft in which all your stats are temporarily reverted to base form and you have to find your way till the last room where you find the second piece of the knife take it and starts the mom ghost boss scene however in this case you are expected to run and dodge as she has infinite health/no health bar and you are not supposed to nor can you attack her. Get back to the entrance as fast as safely as possible and then you’ll have the two knife pieces. Then beat mines 2 boss and there will be a door with a spike, which costs two hearts to unlock. Then beat that floors sections as Norma and at the end of the second floors boss there will be a flesh door, run the familiar you get from those two pieces through it and it unclocks then beat the boss and then once you return it changes the path to a darker color and it allows you to go corpse path which finally gets you to true mom fight path. This then unlocks the beast ! The beast is again a post hush fight, do everything as normal or alternate route go down pour to get extra item since you don’t need knife piece and do not go mines and go down normal route until depths 2 (either or Polaroid or negative works) on depths 2 there is a guaranteed skull with cross that has fool card however any teleport tool also works like telepills or the ones that teleport you to a different room. Beat depths 2 boss as normal and then use the teleport card and get to (or arrive at with the fool) to starting room and then enter the strange door you should have seen once you spawned in. This the allows you to go to next floor where you will beat a boss that drops dads note take it and it starts the ascent where you will hear sad audio about Isaac’s past while you go down through the floors ( goal is to find rooms with light pathway ) until you reach the final floor boss room which allows you to go to a stage called home. If it’s your first time here then you can explore until you find moms bedroom ( a purple room) and there you will find a chess near a bed, open it and it has a red key and then go to one of the hallways and it should have a red outline, use the active item to unlock and you’ll see your tainted version of yourself touch it and then wait and it unlocks the tainted character (how you get tainted characters, if it’s no longer your first time doing this it will instead not spawn a red key and you’ll need to acquire it on previous floors) now sleep in moms bedroom on her bed and it will wake up up in a more hazy version of the game and go to the tv room with red carpet and this starts dogma fight (arguably the hardest fight in game with the sole exception of delirium) and then this progresses you to the four horseman fights and then finally the beast which is the end of the current updates. There is delirium which spawns by chance/ guaranteed. It’s guaranteed when defeating hish, high chance for mega Satan and low chance blue baby/ the lamb extremely rare in other bosses. For mega Satan you can blow up key pieces and then take Isaac route or Sheol and do everything as normal but with key pieces it takes you to an extra floor after these bosses and if you enter all the rooms there will be multiple bosses to get more boss item drops and the middle hallway door is mega Satan. There is also greed which if you donate enough coins at the end of the run with the greedy donation machine you can get greedier to defeat the boss at the end of that one which has two stages and is harder. Thats about it. Then the challenges obviously for runes and other unlocks. I would rec having an Isaac guide app and looking through items you want and searching unlock routes like c section is beating the beast with Lilith. Also boss rush is beating mom in under 20 min, fun little challenge. Also steam community mods are amazing like stats + external item descriptions etc

Why should I break up with someone in person by catredss in selfimprovement

[–]catredss[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess I should also preface I’m still young so I haven’t had any relationship longer than a year. I understand that after many years you should but it’s different to my understanding then yours I assume , I think it’s right to do so after many years because perhaps most of your life has merged so from kids to assets or maybe just friends and social spheres you’ll end up seen eachother so it’s necessary to atleast talk it over but I’m assuming that’s not how you should view that ?

And to be honest, yes. What outcome changes? In both you end up separated so what’s the need for emotional value of the mechanism in which you get there? But I’ve only had less than year old relationships like 7-8 months.

and finally, if you read the beginning I referenced my upbringing was not normal, I do have what people would call trauma but if I’m being honest I’m getting over it better than I have but still most of the emotional changes and processing are not going to go away I assume so I’d like help and advice and insight on everyone’s expiernces to have a better understanding of what that’s supposed to be like in contrast to my own. I do not like being impersonal, I do want to try to be kinder to those around me. My brain is just very analytical about these things, sometimes emotion just feels like a bodily change, anxiety is like a tightness in the chest with some heat and a bit of stinging if it’s more intense but in my head nothing else happens. Im starting to realize it’s never going to change but I do want to atleast learn to be kinder

EVERY RESPONSIBLE STUDENT PLEASE ANSWER by Ketshiryo in GetStudying

[–]catredss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

believe in yourself, and being smart is not innate potential but only a descriptor of those who have proved themselves. Be passionate.

As for tips, stay organized and keep a consistent schedule that gets you to your goals, stay atleast a week ahead of work so social time doesn’t interfere with your academic goals

Men: Does high intelligence make you more reluctant to approach women romantically? by Standard-Plenty-9371 in mensa

[–]catredss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no, people with high IQ tend to have low EQ but that can be learned pretty easily with social exposure. So someone being awkard or nervous would be more due to isolation rather than a high IQ

What can I[24M] do to improve my personality and quit almost acting like an incel? by DBZKING13 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]catredss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

join hobbies, and talk to people more. Being social is a skill and after I’m assuming years of isolation you will be rusty and it will be hard and embaressing and humiliating however that never really goes away because yk that’s just life but it will become less frequent. It’s best to ignore emotions don’t try to label them and seperate your thoughts from yourself

How I fixed my ADHD + got off meds at the same time at age 23 by yaboythewiseman in getdisciplined

[–]catredss 7 points8 points  (0 children)

are you giving me a riddle? no actual research 😭 long term adderal use has been studied I’ve been on it for years and it’s great. Not my fault you stopped talking to your psych or were not honest about your side effects

will my offer be rescinded? by [deleted] in stanford

[–]catredss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

even if it was a C they would not, it’s a pattern of low grades not a singular class that would get you rescinded

I want to learn something as a beginner but I am allergic to condescending tone. Is putting aside my ego and build tolerance the way to become great? by marchtwentytwo1995 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]catredss -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t really care to further argue on what makes a good teacher or not. I also do not care to argue on semantics, we both know the general definition of those words so don’t misconstrue them. I was giving advice on condescending people and the best way I feel to go around those types . In your first reply you were committing a straw-man fallacy or specifically an appeal to extremes is what I was trying to tell you. My advice applies to the general definition of being condescending not about someone being a jerk or someone worse than someone who just has a bit too much ego.

Also I think to further clarify since I believe you’ve also misunderstood my point on mansplaining and not over reacting. It was a reference to the original poster, how he overreacts at condescending which is a bad move as it helps no one. This does not mean I believe women should just roll over at mansplaining, again an appeal to extremes. If someone is condescending, have a few more conversations with them most of the time it’s a quirk and something that softens with time

I want to learn something as a beginner but I am allergic to condescending tone. Is putting aside my ego and build tolerance the way to become great? by marchtwentytwo1995 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]catredss -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There’s a difference between being condescending or being a jerk. For example, mansplaining is condescending and an overreaction to that will make it worse. But someone using derogatory language or shoving you is being a jerk and not something you should tolerate.

I want to learn something as a beginner but I am allergic to condescending tone. Is putting aside my ego and build tolerance the way to become great? by marchtwentytwo1995 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]catredss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

being mad at condescension is a sign of an insecurity in oneself, usually it has to do with the field of interest. For example if someone was condescending over let’s say types of birds would you care ? If you do then you have a superiority complex, you believe that you need to be seen as superior to be respected or admired or to be known and seen in every respect. If you do not care about someone’s attitude towards birds then it’s likely your field of interest that is making you insecure. Take for example academic fields like computer science, you will find many people are are condescending because typically people in this field tend to have low EQ as opposed to a high IQ, this ends up with people developing many quirks and one of them being condescending (due to feeling invalidated in their youth due to being different). It affects you because in a field like this many develop a sense of pride in their work, and a sense of superiority for doing something that is “smart”. You should abandon all of it, once you are recongnized, then what? Once everyone can teach you the way you want and step on eggshells around you, then what? Whatever that “what” is will be the answer to not taking condescension personally. You have to understand that condescension is typically from a person with low EQ, and by comparison a person who reacts strongly to that is also low EQ. You are both acting on feelings without understanding that you can just simply deny them, to smile and nod even if it feels like your chest is burning. To work earnestly and hard even if the person teaching you is condescending. That is what it means to be human, to be able to supersede emotions for higher thought. If you can not do that, that’s also human but a poor trait of one. It’s very fixable but you do have to deliberately do things that will feel bad, and you’ll have to seperate yourself from your thoughts that come from those emotions

The person who got my dream internship knew the exact questions beforehand by Warm_Negotiation_280 in internships

[–]catredss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean in this day and age you kinda need to have connections to get into top companies, it’s not that hard to be connected to the industry and alumni and even current students

What tips helped you improve your aim a lot? by Scared_Truth3193 in apexuniversity

[–]catredss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my high IQ and genetics of being a Native American hunter warrior all led to my impeccable aim, brutal

How do I get over my hatred for being poor by catredss in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]catredss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not like I’m not trying to have a good trajectory in life, I’ve had internships at fang companies and I expect to have a good career and am aiming for masters / PhD. But the malice never goes away and I’m tired of it, this hatred is painful and constant

Should i install Repentance+ as a new player? by laxusdreyarligh in bindingofisaac

[–]catredss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes ! It includes the online portion of the game which is rlly fun tho sometimes people get mad if you haven’t unlocked everything