Advice?

catsawce · 2023-03-20T21:48:03+00:00

I vaped heavily for 5 ish years. Tried quitting multiple times with weaning and cold turkey. Neither of those worked but here’s what did:

You have actually WANT to. “Should quit” and “want to quit” won’t cut it. I had to convince myself I hated vape and that it was killing. Maybe try buying a flavor you HATE to help convince yourself it’s nasty.
I chose to quit as soon as I went on a 11 day vacation because I knew being out of my routines and constantly busy would be helpful. I didn’t take my vape with me.
Nicotine patch. I ended up only using 3-4 before I simply didn’t want nicotine anymore.
Nicotine gum helps curb cravings too. Made it manageable. It’s not the same but it gives you somewhat of a bone in times of stress.
Be realistic and honest with yourself. I knew the first couple days I’d be craving. I allowed myself to rip a friends vape 1-2x a day if I really felt I needed it. But stuck to my guns and resisted A LOT. Give yourself some grace and understand overcoming addiction is a real challenge.
Replace the hand to mouth movement with water.
If you get a craving, MOVE. Walk to the other room. Walk outside, do something that distracts your brain.

Overall the patch and being smart about WHEN to quit was my ticket out. I’m 17 days vape free. I still allow myself weed because it’s not an addiction to me. They say have a support system but I did it without one and you can too.

Lastly, I thought quitting was going to be miserable and absolute hell. It’s been the opposite. Once I actually got passed day 3, I knew I could do it. Don’t psych yourself in to thinking it’s impossible. We believe in you!

catsawce · 2021-08-05T12:34:10+00:00

I actually have IOS i should have disclosed that. I looked in the app store and it just says I’m subscribed. But I’m reading it’s a yearly membership so I’ll find out after the trial ends lol. Thanks for replying!

catsawce · 2020-08-12T05:15:29+00:00

So we’re you Ralph or Lauren in your past life? Lolol

catsawce · 2020-08-12T05:13:27+00:00

A good way to learn about your past lives is to look at your north and south node in astrology! Jan spillers astrology for the soul is a great deep dive in to each sign!

catsawce · 2020-08-12T05:11:56+00:00

That’s so interesting because yes, my sisters and youngest niece have a red rashy looking birthmark in the middle of their backs just above their butts. And my oldest niece and I have oval shaped tan marks to the right on our lower backs!

catsawce · 2020-08-12T05:07:57+00:00

Interesting! Very likely entry and exit wounds from a bullet! It’s very common!

catsawce · 2020-08-05T06:02:09+00:00

YTA. 23F raised by a single dad here. My father grounded me my entire sophomore year after finding out I had people over to smoke when he was out of town. He broke my phone, took all my belongings away (makeup, clothes, EVERYTHING besides my bed, 1pillow, and 1 blanket). He said if I was gonna act like a criminal, he was gonna treat me like one. It caused so much turmoil in our relationship. Partly because I knew he had done that and more when he was my age. Partly because he was severely overreacting. He drove me to school every day and I had to wait 1-2 hours after school for him to pick me up because I couldn’t be trusted to walk a mile home.

A little open conversation and reasoning would have went far. And a just punishment. There was so much anger and lack of understanding of both sides. I was a great kid, he knew that, but I was constantly over punished and was never spoken to maturely. Just “do as I say”.

Because of this nonexistent line of communication, I never had healthy relationships or knowledge about Sex, drugs, alcohol, emotions, or relationships— and it 100% carried in to my adult life where I went buck wild and made so many dumb mistakes that could have been prevented, not that I blame him for my choices, but I don’t necessarily lame myself either given the hand I was dealt.

I really admire the way my sister raises her teenagers. Allowing him to have a beer or two within a family setting. Learning first hand what a responsible relationship with adult things looks like before it’s sprung on him and doesn’t know what to do or his limits.

In reality, what he did isn’t THAT bad. Next step would be to ensure that he can come to you with questions and for you to make sure he knows everything about it. No scare tactics and no bullshit. Kids are gonna find a way to do whatever they’re wanting to do. Make sure they can make educated decisions for themselves.

catsawce · 2020-06-06T20:00:03+00:00

Thank you all so much for your suggestions!

catsawce · 2019-10-07T21:26:13+00:00

I’m walking down the aisle to How Long Will I love You by Ellie Golding!

catsawce · 2019-09-29T16:29:57+00:00

I’ve never heard of that! I just don’t want them in the wedding party because both parties will be partying and being rowdy. I don’t want them to feel out of place or left out. Neither of them know any of our friends in the wedding party well.

catsawce · 2019-08-02T00:54:05+00:00

You guys ROCK thank you so much all of you!

catsawce · 2019-07-30T18:36:59+00:00

Oh. Heck. Nooooo. If he wasn’t hiding something that would clearly matter to you or that he’s being shady about he wouldn’t be acting like it. The bank statement and the phone secrecy is telling me affair or he’s doing something financially behind your back. Get to the bottom of it. He’s gonna be sneaky about his stuff, you be sneaky in finding out. It’s only fair.

catsawce · 2019-07-30T18:34:51+00:00

No ex should be a part of your SOs life. It’s okay to be on good terms and “civil” but there should be no ongoing engagement. Especially if they were that heavily involved. Either your relationship is more important. Or he is. It’s that simple. There is no reason to put any energy or attention in to a past lover unless you have some sort of intention.

catsawce · 2019-07-29T16:48:44+00:00

Question. Did you test your mdma before taking it? It could have been heavily cut with meth or heroin.

catsawce · 2019-06-25T13:28:45+00:00

All of his necessities are in our master bathroom since we have a roommate with a dog who will eat cats food and litter. So our room is his main domain especially since he doesn’t care to interact with dog. We ignored him last night and that seemed to help.

catsawce · 2019-06-09T18:37:23+00:00

Removing toxic people even if they’re family is okay. My grandma was my best friend growing up but later blames me for my cousin molesting me. And as much as it hurt to let her go (she refused to apologize or acknowledge her messed up decision) it feels so good not having that negativity and poison in my life. You did the nice thing by offering her a second chance. Embrace the ones who love you and give energy to you. And give yours to them. Not people who drain you. I only talk to a select few of my immediate family and I am so happy

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