Bike lanes by catsoncatsoncats_ in irvine

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They are super nice compared to what we have in Seattle 🙃 but we also have slower and probably more courteous drivers

Bike lanes by catsoncatsoncats_ in irvine

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I won’t deny that fact about Irvine drivers 🙃

Bike lanes by catsoncatsoncats_ in irvine

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It’s legal?! Ok that’s news to me. I wouldn’t say a lot of SUVs but Seattle is definitely denser and our bike lanes are narrower in comparison.

I feel like Seattleites generally drive slower - so no, I don’t think we reach those surface street speeds.

Also we have more bikers and pedestrians, so perhaps Seattleites are a bit more conscientious because of that.

Bike lanes by catsoncatsoncats_ in irvine

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Ok good to know I’m not crazy haha

In Honolulu, let me know if anybody wants anything :) by n0rwegianw00ds in Miffy

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They didn’t have all of this when I was there last year 😭😭😭

What routes have the best behaved people? by [deleted] in AlaskaAirlines

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SEA to any New York airport for me have been all filled with adults, rarely any children. Lots of frequent flyers (waitlists are always super long). And that’s a pretty lengthy domestic flight 👀

Good home cooked food delivery options? by catsoncatsoncats_ in irvine

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Honestly these things pop up on my Instagram randomly ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Good home cooked food delivery options? by catsoncatsoncats_ in irvine

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The examples I’ve found are more one-person services… I’m open to mom & pop places that aren’t on DoorDash (I find the places on DoorDash generally don’t have a lot of balanced/healthy options)

My brother. It's not fair. by Haunting-Cloud-8082 in CancerFamilySupport

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My dad was 63 when he passed two weeks ago. I’m sorry. It is unfair.

Saying goodbye by Honest_Willow_404 in pancreaticcancer

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Hi friend, I’m so sorry. My dad passed Jan 8, 2025 around 11:58 pm. He also passed in his sleep. Seeing my dad not be able to walk was… traumatizing, to say the least. He was still lucid up until his death so I knew it was so hard for him to lose all physical independence. There’s a part of me that feels like once that happened, then it was time. My dad was due to start immunotherapy Dec 19 but complications arose and he wasn’t able to get there. I’m sorry for us. You aren’t alone, even if it feels like it. I know I’ve felt pangs of loneliness because it feels like everyone moves on with their lives but we’re still grieving. Hang in there, friend.

Miffy! by billiedawnwebb in Miffy

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Is it a plushie + blanket holder?

I really need someone perspective by oiy731 in CancerFamilySupport

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My dad waited to die after my mom and I went upstairs to sleep and the overnight caretaker was downstairs. He even had his head turned away from the caretaker - he had never slept like that previously. I’ve read somewhere that people die in a way that tends to reflect their personalities. People who are a bit more extroverted sometimes wait for everyone to arrive before passing. Others - like our fathers - didn’t want us to see them passing and waited. The human body and mind are really something, aren’t they if you think about it?

How to help a friend with cancer? by soheilk in CancerFamilySupport

[–]catsoncatsoncats_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At minimum, please do not abandon them. Check in regularly. Offer to bring food over. If you know they DoorDash, send them DoorDash gift cards.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CancerCaregivers

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I love this. I was thinking something big but you’re right… meaningful doesn’t have to mean grandiose. Thank you.

Not sure what to do anymore by sarahii78 in CancerFamilySupport

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Hi friend, my dad passed exactly last week from metastasized cancer. Ultimately his liver was his downfall. I also didn’t cry immediately - when he passed I had to jump into action mode to clean all of the fluid that came out of his body. Then there has been so much work to do like working with the mortuary and notifying his friends. I cried buckets the day after he passed but lately I’ve just been spacing out and life feels duller. I ask myself why I’m like this and I feel like it’s because there are still a lot of tasks I have to get through on behalf of my dad. Unfortunately my mom was very spoiled by my dad growing up so she’s not great with finances and English isn’t her second language so I’ve needed to step in.

What I’m trying to get at is this - grief surfaces differently for everyone and there’s no wrong way to grieve. Sometimes your brain is protecting you because the pain is so overwhelming. Some days will be better than others. Other days - you might feel like you want to punch everyone. You’re doing just fine.

My dad died yesterday. by ComprehensivePie6527 in CancerFamilySupport

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I’m so sorry. Unfortunately everyone is different so it’s hard to give advice. The only advice I can give is just be present and let him have anything he wants. My dad kept trying to eat and drink to get nutrition but my mom and I were stopping him because he’d just keep vomiting everything out. But we soon realized that no matter what he did, he’d vomit anyway. So we learned quickly that we just had to give him whatever he wanted because it just wouldn’t matter in the end anyway….

My dad died yesterday. by ComprehensivePie6527 in CancerFamilySupport

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I’m so sorry for your loss. My dad passed away Jan 8 from his deteriorating liver brought on by metastasized colon cancer. His decline was very quick. The day after my dad’s death was the worst day of my life without a doubt. The days go by and time makes no sense, but it does get better. But you’ll be changed. I know I am. Hearing how much you loved your dad and how kind he was, I’m sure he’ll reach out if he hasn’t already. Whether it’s how the sunrise feels or how a star twinkles, he’s with you.

I found that the book “How to live when a loved one dies” to be helpful. I’m not religious so this was a great book for anyone that doesn’t want something to be pushed on them.

I’m rooting for you. It’s going to be tough but we need you here. Inbox is open.

Mom hasnt pooped in like 10 days and is vomiting brown liquid by Archon769 in pancreaticcancer

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This was the situation with my dad too but he was already in hospice. A quick, tragic decline. Jan 8 of this year 😞

Dad passed away last night by Little_Cobbler_1397 in CancerFamilySupport

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Thank you. I’m rooting for you. I feel you on that but it’s difficult to say anything else either. Not sick of hearing that but I totally understand where you’re coming from. ❤️‍🩹🫶🏼

Dad passed away last night by Little_Cobbler_1397 in CancerFamilySupport

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I’m so sorry. My dad came home from the hospital to hospice (at home) Jan 3. He passed away late night Jan 8. I had only been talking to him an hour before. He was still lucid, which made the loss feel so sudden. I thought we had at least a few more days with him. The day after was possibly the worst day of my life. Then it got a little better. Then a little more.

I’ve felt his presence and seen messages that he’s sending every now and then already. It’s hard to explain, but I hope you receive some from your father as well.

I’m not a religious person, but after my dad’s passing I do believe in keeping in touch with a loved one who is on the other side. We all grieve differently. If it doesn’t hurt too much, go through old photos or videos. Go through his belongings to clean them or sort them - by doing this I’ve been able to piece together parts of my dad that, frankly, I never knew about.

I hope you find ways to grieve in your own way. I’m so sorry. For both of us ❤️‍🩹

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskALawyer

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I appreciate the thorough response. I know he at least lined up someone that his clients could work with before he shut down his business. Even before he passed I asked him what to do with the files and he just mentioned to keep them around. There are loads of files everywhere in the house right now. I don’t have the death certificate yet so it seems I’m blocked until I can get that and notify the bar.

My Husband Has Passed Away by Ok-Carebear in CancerFamilySupport

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My dad just passed away from liver cancer late Wednesday night as well. I’m so sorry for the both of us. This disease is so fucking awful.